telling parents about my girl!!?

Question

I have never talked to my parents about girls.
i have had relations in the past but were not serious stuff now i am in love with a girl and we are committed.
i need to tell my parents about the girl. but i am facing a dilemma.
my parents prefer arranged marriage over love marriage any given day and since i have not spoken to them about any of my past relation and any gal in general so i am feeling a bit uncomfortable.

to make tha matters worse i had been telling them that i wont marry anybody as i never wanted to till i met this girl.

kindly give realistic and sensible solution and don't answer if you just want 2 points.

thanks in advance

i am well settled and earning ver well and am 24 yrs old.

Answer 1

sometimes you have to break away from what your parents think is best. if you love her and want to be with her long term, you have to tell them. they may not like it, but its your life...you should be married and be in love and be happy instead of married with someone you don' t love and be unhappy. take her out on a date an tell you parents you are going on a date with a girl..that way you can slowly introduce the idea of a girl into your family. after the date, tell them how much you really like her and all that stuff. it will make you uncomfortable, but you have to 'bow up' and do it

Answer 2

First, let your parents meet her if they haven't already. Let this occur before you tell them, because if not, there will be to many expectations and your gal and your parents will not get to know each other in a real setting. Then I think you should just sit them down and honestly tell them how you feel. It should make quite an impact that you haven't thought about marriage before you met her.

You say you are worried because your parents prefer arranged marriages, that is fine for them, but this is your life. If you calmly state your case, in a mature manner it will work out. Even if they are opposed to it in the beginning, stay strong and resolved, eventually they will come around.

Best of luck in your life.

Answer 3

Hello topgun,

Here in the U.S., we are not involved with arranged marriages, so most of us cannot relate to what you might be going through. I'm sorry. We do have parents that are very involved in their children and want to know who their child is seeing and what kind of family he or she may come from.

Perhaps your parents may want to go along with this relationship and would be willing to follow the various procedures of an arranged marriage. But, most arranged marriages are ways of combining families for business reasons, rather than making matches for their children.

I don't know your case. The only way you can be sure is to discuss this with them. Is there anyone in your family who you can talk to about this?

--Rick

Answer 4

I think its worth telling your parents about this girl. Who knows your parents might like her too and save them the trouble of finding a gal for you. I guess you are from an indian descent. I am sure your parents love you and when choosing a life partner for you, they will take into consideration if the girl is from a good background, if she has the traits and characters to becoming a good wife, if she is intelligent etc... so before presenting this lady to your parents, make sure you have a list of these things to say to them, to assure them. Good luck!

Answer 5

An arranged marriage? In the 21st century? Why? Sit with them as an adult...talk MAN to PARENT and explain how you feel. I assume you're old enough to make up your own mind anyway, right? If not, wait until you're 18 to tell them. Then it's up to you anyway.

Answer 6

My goodness, arranged marriages are so out of date.

You can soften things up by presenting this girl in the best possible way. You know best what your parents like, of course you could make sure they are pleasently surprised.

But most of all, tell your parents that this is going to be it and that nothing in the world could change your mind.

Answer 7

tell them that you found a great person in your life. You never wanted to get married before you met her..and she changed your mind.
Tell them that not only do you love her, she would be a great functional wife (list things that are important to them in a wife). They could meet her, and perhaps 'arrange' your marriage with her still....just that you wouldn't fight them over it.
If you love her, your parents might see what you see in her too. Bring her into your beliefs, and compromise with your parents.
Live your life, but RESPECT your parents. My marriage was arranged, but we loved each other before and his parents approved of me. There is hope!

tell me what happens! Good luck!

Answer 8

tell them this is the girl u love and arranged marriages are definitely not ur style. If they are your parents, they should support you and believe in ur ability to chose the right girl for you. Look at the bright side, its usually easier for a guy to tell the parents than the girl

Answer 9

well I would suggest being honest.
1. sit them down and tell them that its the 21st century and that arrange marries are a thing of the pass.
2. you found this girl who you are crazy about and feel you want to share your happiness with them by telling them about her and maybe having them meet her.
3. Tell them that your really in love and that your not playing around and that this is the girl for you. GOOD LUCK to you.

Answer 10

well your family has there belives in arrangemarriages so its gonna be hard , i would ask them mom dad is it ok if i invite a girl over for dinner etc and introduce them to her let them get to know her , u may be surprise dthey may accept her and who noes maybe even tell you it may b enice to see u both together , but i dont see nothing like that happening , , so i would sugest to u to ust talk to your parents as soon as possibl eand let them know exactly how u feel for this person and about this person , even tohugh they belive in aranged marieges they may want u to be happy and your happieness should mean mor e to them then any belives etc , the longer u hide the fact that your in lov e with this girl from your parents the harde r it will be for you , and anothe r thing the girl may start thinking whats wroung with her that u havnt intriduced he r to your parents etc , so the sooner u open up the better , but dont argue with thme about it etc , just tell them mom dad i know u belive this way and this way , and i respect your belives but i dont share all the same believes as you do when it comes to relationsships etc , good luck