how can i get my stubborn mom to let me go to school next year instead of being home schooled again?

Question

and she is very stubborn to let me go, and i need help getting through this year cause i have to be homeschooled this year.

Answer 1

Probably your best bet is to show her you are mature enough by accepting her decision for now, and over the year finding ways to show her that going to public school might be a good thing for you. Why does your mom prefer home schooling? That is what you need to think about,and whether attending public school would be better, based upon her reasoning.

Your mom is worried about what is best for you. You may think she is stubborn, but most likely she is concerned. You need to be able to show her that while public school may mean you will be away from home and on your own more, you are grown up enough to still do well and also respect her values, ideas, and principles.

Best wishes to you and your mom.

Answer 2

The more you view her as stubborn, the more stubborn you will be about wanting to go and the two of you will continue to clash.

Try to understand it from her point of view. Accept that that is how she feels even if you don't see things the same way. Identify your real problem with homeschooling and see if there's another potential solution.

If she pulled you out of school due to attitude problems, it seems they haven't gone away and you probably should stay home. If there are other reasons, they'll each have a different solution. If you could clarify the situation for everybody, you'll get better answers directed at your individual situation.

Answer 3

Oh for goodness sake, why does everyone think homeschooling means sitting around at home?? In our homeschool, my children run the danger of being OVERLY socialized...what am I doing wrong? :) There are homeschool CLASSES everywhere, and so many homeschooling activities that we actually have trouble staying home.

We have constant visitors! Start inviting people over after your work is done. Or go to where people are. How come we only think we can socialize at school? I don't get it since we are supposed to be work, work, working there! (Because everyone knows that the work just doesn't take that long, and the rest is just goofing off!)

So find some nice friends, for crying outloud, and have them over or meet them somewhere fun...as families, of course, so moms can have fun socializing, too.

There are OTHER groups you can join! There really is another life out there completely separate from public school. It can be
invigorating mentally (surprise!), physically (there is homeschool sports), drama, choir, band, art--you name it, you can find the class or activity you desire. You just have to go after it instead of sitting around at a silly desk all day, listening to bells telling you it's time to move to another desk! And putting up with teachers yelling (OK admit they do), kids cussing at each and you, and
alot of wasted time and boring classes.

You are so special that your mom wants to homeschool you.
Write your mother a thankyou note, or an apology note for
being hard to deal with, and go make some new friends.
Homeschoolers are the most social people I know if they
really work at it. Socializing is simply just another skill to practice.
You just need to learn it and practice it.

Answer 4

Well, unfortunately, there's nothing you can do to change her mind. However, she's holding you back and trying to protect you from the real world, so by homeschooling you, she's sheltering you from a lot of what really goes on out there in the cruel, cruel world. If she keeps you babied up at home, once you get out on your own, you're just gonna want to do all those things you could've done in highschool once you're an adult. Then you'll get in trouble for petty things, or get into the wrong crowd, just cause she tried to protect you too much. Just simply ask her to give you a chance to prove to her you're mature enough to go to public school, and see what she says. Most mom's stand firm to what they believe is best for their children though, so don't expect her to just give in and let you go. Maybe there are some things you have to do to prove to her you should be allowed in public schools. Either way, just focus on making good grades and graduate. You can't even get a job at McDonald's anymore w/o a highschool diploma. Good luck!

Answer 5

Who's to say that you will benefit from going to school? If you are not willing to do the work that your mother has planned for you then will you actually do the work that a group-teacher has ready in a classroom? If you are only wanting to go to school for socializing there are better options than a group institution.

To start with: Get off of these computer forums that are a waste of your time. Put your skills to work and learn something worthwhile. You can advance your own education far better by yourself (and with your mother) than in a group environment.

Finish your schoolwork each day with accuracy and intelligence then take time to volunteer at a soup-kitchen or at a day-care. Visit nursing homes and thrill the patients with your musical talent. I'm assuming that you have this skill. If not, learn to play the piano or guitar. Join an home-school sports team too.

Don't go against your mother. Work with her. Learn from her. Learn the most you can in the few short years of K-12 study. Be prepared for college. Get your attitude adjusted..... be helpful by doing your chores PLUS more! Be kind, be studious --- prove to yourself that you don't need no stinkin' group to learn your base academics!!!!!! ;-) Be honest, loving, and respectful. Stay home and do it right. Study to learn --- find out just how much you really can do by doing it!

Answer 6

Mt girlfriend son was Home schooled for the past 3 years, he will turn 14 on friday and he begged her over the summer to let him go to public school. Both of us work in the school system and she didn want him exposed to certain things + he wasn't paying attention in class when he was goin to public school. I told her that we should let him go this year, hes in the 8th grade and he goes to the same school I teach at. We made a deal with him, if his grades weren't up to A,B status and if we have any behavior problems, we would put him right back in homeschool. He's been doing a great job in school so far. Maybe you can discuss this with your mom.

Goddluck, lemme know how it goes.

Answer 7

The first thing you need to do is to get really really calm about this. Don't approach her with the attitutude that she is your "stubborn mom" (even if she is).

You have to be calm, because you want to find out the real reasons she doesn't want you to go to public or Christian school. And if you come at her with heat then you won't get those answers--and your attitude will just convince her more that she is right.

There are a lot of reasons she may not want you to go to public school. And some of those reasons may have a lot of merit.

Home schooling curriculum is usually better than public school curriculum, and home schooled kids tend to score higher on their SAT's and in my experience are more creative and more self-starting than public schooled kids. But that's just a generalization and doesn't always apply.

Your mother may be afraid of the risks you will be exposed to in public school, the attitudes and the philosophies being taught.

You need to understand your mother's point of view before you can properly begin to give her yours.

Can you write down clearly why you don't want to be home schooled. What is it about home schooling that you don't like.

You may not get all you want, but maybe you can get part of it.

Sometimes home schooled kids can take a class or two at a public school. You might see about that as a compromise.

There are groups of home schoolers to provide outside activities and socialization. Maybe your mom doesn't know about those--where you could make friends being schooled like yourself.

If the problem is that you don't like your mother as your teacher, then you both need to get some help on that one. You might need help to understand the boundaries and to make boundaries--now I'm teacher---now I'm mom. You know, kind of learn to wear different hats.

The more of your schooling you can do on your own the less you have to worry about your mom. But if you two are in a tug of war, that will be detrimental to your learning.

So, write out all your problems and desires in the matter.

Find out all of hers.

And see if the two of you can come to some sort of compromise.

A friend of mine has a daughter very interested in theatre, so she does a kid's class at a local repertory theatre. There are even university classes you could attend.

And get our dad involved. He is not as close to the situation and should have a say in it all. Perhaps he can help you both.

If they'd trust you for a semester and you did well, then maybe they'd let you go on. You could ask for a trial basis.

Just keep really calm and be very courteous and respectful in your whole approach. If you don't, you've lost before you've begun.

Answer 8

If your grades are still up to scratch than there is really no reason to go to public school. Although if your grades are low, than you can convience her that you need to go to public school for better grades. Telling your mom that you want to go to public school just to socialize is not a good idea, chances are she won't jump at the idea. If you really want to go to public school I suggest looking up disadvantages for homeschooling, although I know many people who have homeschooled and have graduated high school at the age of 15, so its not all that bad.

Answer 9

i was kinda in the same situation..i been homeschooled for 4 years and i never did like it because i had nobody to talk to except for my sister.but my mom took me out of school because my brother was mentally challenged and she said it wouldnt be fair if she took him out and not me..so yeah it was cool n the beginning when you didnt have to get dress and take a break whenever and get all the help you needed but you stop liking it as you get older and want ppl to talk to..and i was scared of it the whole time cuz i didnt wanna ruin my social life and not knowin how 2 to talk to ppl if im in the house all day..but she had her reasons to homeschool and i dont know ur mom is gonna change her mind juss cause you wanna go somewhere..well my mom didnt till last year

Answer 10

Between my aunt and her kids they made a deal to be homeschooled until they entered high school ... The kids told the parents that they wanted experience - (social, play sports, and have some friends) - before they go off to college ... So they agreed ...

Maybe you can make a deal with her when it comes to enter high school ... Is it because you wanted to play sports? Perhaps you can tell her you want some experience before you go off to college