2006-08-14 04:57:49 · 20 answers · asked by BUDDXX 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I believe men should only have to pay for a child if they see them and spend time with them - unless there is a severe reason why they shouldnt
If this man does not know about the child - do you not think it would be a good idea to tell him?
2006-08-14 05:01:19 · answer #1 · answered by schmushe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm thinking there are multiple children involved here. Twins or siblings. Whatever be the case yes you should pay. If you have any doubts as to whether you are the parent have a paternity test done and once sorted do your bit.
I do think though that its not really about the money, you should endeavour to be there for those children. You have a part in making them exist in this world you should be responsible for their well being not just financially but physically and emotionally. Remember if someone did not raise you where would you be today. Maybe no one did that for you,should you make the same mistake? Your presence in their life would make a big difference.
We need men who stand up to their responsibility of protection for families. It breaks my heart to see so many let us down :(.
2006-08-14 05:22:43 · answer #2 · answered by Storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was there a paternity test? Were you proven to be the father? Then yes you should pay. If you are the father do you plan to be a part of the child's life? Even if you don't want to participate in the child's life you should still have to pay. You cannot just go around whipping it out and not expect that there are consequences.
2006-08-14 05:05:08 · answer #3 · answered by lisapj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you he stuffed the clam than so be a man and put up the dough. I would want a blood test to prove the kid is mine but then do my duty and pay up. I also think it should be something done from love for what you created than moral obligation. Bad enough the child had all those years without a father. Someday You may find this new child has more to offer than you are giving.
2006-08-14 05:04:06 · answer #4 · answered by hardnose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no the men should only pay if its THEIR baby, THEIR child. women shouldnt be able to simply divorce the man and then expect for him to pay for the child and her house and her living space. if you ask me, we live in too sexist a government and need an anti feminism movement to clear out things like this question. if the man was behind some type of an abuse, fine, make him suffer. but do the same with the women, please, it isnt fair that we are discriminated against for being "men" in this society where the second you become a father you lose any intellegence/attractiveness/anything and become some figure of moronic proportions.
2006-08-14 05:05:36 · answer #5 · answered by waffleman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you did not know about the child, you need to get a DNA test to be sure it is yours. If it is your then yes it is your responsiblityy to pay child support. Next time use protection! That also is your responsibility (if you don't want to be paying child support.) Good luck!
2006-08-14 05:04:50 · answer #6 · answered by Connie H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
until paternity is established the guy will not be held liable to pay child support. After paternity is established- the Dad or his parents(grandparents) may wish to have visitation rights. You need to way the pros and cons of this situation- because it doesn't just involve you and the father...it includes the most important people *the children* and if this guy was not worthy bfore this time to have him involved with your kids, why are you going after him now?
2006-08-14 05:07:42 · answer #7 · answered by sammy22005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he didn't know about the child he should request a DNA test to
confirm that the child is his. If the child is his than yes he needs to support the child and try and develop a relationship with the
child.
2006-08-14 05:04:32 · answer #8 · answered by miki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. even if u did not know about the child you do now and only by keeping your responsiabiltes as a father will you have any say in the childs up bringing, Many fathers have to fight for the rights to me allowed in to their childs life. if u have the oppertunity to do so then grab on to it. remeber its the child your paying towards not the mothers lifestyle.
2006-08-14 05:03:38 · answer #9 · answered by X2 epsilon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them that you didn't know about the child, you were never told. However, if you do a DNA test and you are the father, regardless if you knew or not they are going to make you pay. But you should fight for parital custody, to be in your child life.
2006-08-14 05:02:26 · answer #10 · answered by lilsentra82 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋