i love my boyfriend very much, and so do my kids. everything was wonderful when we first got together...he brought me roses, and cards, and was at my house every night. lately, though, he's been so mean. he swears up and down that i think he's cheating on me, when i haven't even said anything about it, he hardly ever comes over any more, and he says some really mean and nasty things to me. i feel like he's already made me fall in love with him in the beginning, but i don't know why he's acting like he is. can someone help me please????
2006-08-14 04:52:22 · 10 answers · asked by trisha_r_c 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He doesn't want the relationship anymore. I have been guilty myself of being very wonderful at the beginning and then just pushing the girl away. The reason for that was always that in the initial stages of a relationship, the guy puts a lot of energy and effort into the relationship to be nice and to do creative and sweet things. If the girl doesn't react in kind and quickly enough, but rather sits passively enjoying the affection, he may snap away because he feels that the only thing holding you two together is his own sweat and work. Once day he just no longer has a desire to do anything good for you anymore.
I don't know if that's what's happened in your case, but he definitely wants out. You can try to come crying to his doorstep, and it may work if not too much time has passed, but chances are that it's too late and he can't like you anymore.
2006-08-14 05:06:32 · answer #1 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm...it could be an unnecessary amount of stress with his job or something. if that's the case, then you are simply the unfortunate victim of his venting. i suggest that the thing to do is the next time he comes over, or home, whatever the case may be, surprise him by having the kids stay with your mom or someone, and let that night be all about him. lead him into the living room and let him relax, cook a nice dinner, not too fancy or anything, just nice, and sit and talk with him. run him a bath, if he does that kind of thing, (i know i do when i need it ;) ) and while its running, sit and just talk. explain to him calmly and gently that it seems like something has been bothering him lately. let the conversation get into swing, and then ask about the cheating. in other words, ask him what you may have done to make him think you're cheating. explain to him that if you were cheating, would you have done all this? show him how much you love him, as im sure you do, and he will realize he has not been very gracious in receiving and returning that love. once he does, things will turn around for you. i hope this helps. good luck!
2006-08-14 12:00:39 · answer #2 · answered by begeeman13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry your on your own in the future actions, why could he be acting like this, first you need to figure out if the outbursts(which arent good for your kids) are happening around a similar subject and how to avoid that... and if you think that all you need is love then you need re-examine how someone you love could curse yell and scream and possibly cheat... he has expressed unhappieness in the relationship and he hasn't left for two possible reasons...#1 He actually has strong feelings for you and doesn't wanna hurt you; or #2 He hasn't found another girl YET, thats the yelling, he is unhappily stuck until he can find someone else, and when he isn't working, or whatever and not at your place thats what he most likely would be doing
2006-08-14 12:02:53 · answer #3 · answered by J from O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like your man may have found someone else. i heard that when people are cheating on you, they accuse you of cheating or they get all guilty concious on you. and they do things to try to make you hate them so will break up with them. and then they can easily escape the relationship without ever having to tell the truth. if you have any balls you will tell him he's being a dick and tell him to leave you the hell alone if he's going to act ignorant. and then just cut him off completely. if he has any real feelings for you he'll come back with his tail between his legs. as for your kids, its unfortunate that they have to be involved, but just tell them that he had to go away for a little while (business trip?).
good luck!
2006-08-14 12:01:27 · answer #4 · answered by Lovely L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man obviously has serious issues. Your benchmark is how reasonable and maturely he is able to talk about it.
Whatever decision you make, think about your children first. You may feel you love him enough to follow him through hell, but they don't have to.
2006-08-14 12:21:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that he may be cheating on you and is trying to push you away. It sounds like he is acting strange. Something must be going on.
2006-08-14 11:58:37 · answer #6 · answered by Wally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you put up with that? He doesn't love you, so kick him to the curb, and find someone who will treat you right. Don't waste your time.
2006-08-14 12:00:59 · answer #7 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont let him do that to u..... brake up with the guy hes not worth it their are manny guys in this world that can treat u right...if you continue this relationship it will end up with him ubusing you fizikly and emotunally and its not good for you or your children...
2006-08-14 12:43:35 · answer #8 · answered by G.D fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-14 12:01:53 · answer #9 · answered by kane011592 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he lost interest in you.
2006-08-14 11:57:47 · answer #10 · answered by handydaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋