So yesterday, i am hanging out with my best friend(a guy)... and three other friends (girls). Girl A (as I will call her lol) really really likes me A LOT... but all day long, she keeps talking to me... and i cant stop thinking about girls b & c (good friends... i dont neccassarily want anything more than friendships... but maybe i do, lol) I think i just dont have any interest in girl A... which sucks cuz she has feelings for me, i know...
so my question i guess is... can i force myself to want something more with this girl... or is that just foolish?
2006-08-14 04:49:16 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you're right, love can not be forced, but if you like her, stay friends with her. As you get to know each other it may possibly develop into something more than friendship.
2006-08-14 04:58:02 · answer #1 · answered by tnmtngirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try to play the part of the boyfriend who loves her and see what happens. I advise everyone to do it at least once in their life because it will give you an opportunity to really learn what it's like to have someone really care about you when they aren't important to you. It usually isn't the happiest relationship, but all people who've started that way that I know have stayed friends after the breakup and there was no bad blood between them.
You may not be able to learn to love her, but you can learn to really appreciate her and genuinely miss her and want her.
And you never know, she may turn out to be the girl of you dreams.
2006-08-14 11:59:55 · answer #2 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right. You can't force yourself to like her, but from my experience, it's a good thing to date someone you're not entirely madly in love with. I think you will find it a rewarding experience. Some of my best relationships have started out on a low key if you get what I mean. Ask her out on a casual date, and get to know her. I think over time, you might just find out that you really like her.
2006-08-14 11:54:25 · answer #3 · answered by Axel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u cannot force some one else or urself to love some one and if u dont want to loose this girl a u better not date her because if u do and realize that u r only doing it to make her happy then u will be unhappy and maybe lose a friend. u could set her up with some one e;se she likes maybe if she likes him better then u r off the hook otherwise just tell her that u just wanna be friends with her
2006-08-14 11:56:20 · answer #4 · answered by in ur face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things like this happen all the time.
It depends on whether you're a stand-up guy or not. You could take advantage of this girl's affection for you; use her then discard her as though she & her feelings don't matter.
Or you can leave it platonic; but you are the one that is going to have to keep those boundries.
2006-08-14 11:56:31 · answer #5 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U cud force urself but it wud be foolish. She deserves sum1 who likes her, & u deserve sum1 u like.
2006-08-14 11:59:52 · answer #6 · answered by wotagem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to do what is your heat say
do not force your self and then went back then you willhurt her
keep her friend just friend do not do some thing you are not feel comfortable about it
2006-08-14 11:59:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love doesnt have force in the definition
2006-08-14 11:55:10 · answer #8 · answered by chaand5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she trully loves you, she will do many thing for you. try her. see how much she loves you. Always love someone how loves you. who knows if you ganna find someone loves you trully ;)
2006-08-14 12:12:50 · answer #9 · answered by LuLu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should lik her for her and not lik her juss cuz shes crazi about u
2006-08-14 11:54:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋