Two young children in my family were molested over three years ago and the trial of the 'alleged' offender began this morning.
These kids are sitting at the courthouse, waiting to testify against the jerk who ruined their childhoods... I want more than anything to be there for them (they are my sibling's children), but I can't because I have to take care of my own children and I can't get to the courthouse...
I've been SICK SICK SICK all morning, nervous as can be, and I guess my question is, how do I NOT think about this? What can I do to keep my mind off of it, or to make this sick feeling go away?
I'm so scared for these kids. I'm scared to death that this guy is gonna walk. :(
2006-08-14 04:43:25 · 7 answers · asked by TakeMe2YourLeader 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't have a car to get out and about... my husband works during the day and he drives the car to work. I should have thought about this in advance and taken him to work today so I'd have the car! DANGIT! :(
Thanks for the prayers!!!
2006-08-14 04:50:21 · update #1
OMG: That is so sad!!! I'll pray for you sweets!!! Just try and keep busy, keep the phone by you in case they call... Good luck!
2006-08-14 04:48:44 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through something similar last year when my grandparents' murderer was FINALLY tried. I was far away, having to work and go through the normal motions of my day, and the whole time all I could think of was my poor mother sitting in a courtroom just feet away from the man who'd killed her parents.
It is awful to feel that you can't be there for the people you love when they need you. Keep reminding yourself that this moment, this short period while the trial is happening, is only a tiny part of the road to recovery these kids will have to travel. You CAN be there for them lots of other times in the months and years ahead, and I know you will. You have no control over what happens to the jerk who did this, but you have control over the support you provide to these kids in the future. You can even get involved in abuse-related causes and push for new laws if you choose.
Here's your mantra: I can't do everything, but I WILL do what I can. Whenever the anxiety starts to overtake you, say this to yourself repeatedly and BREATHE.
2006-08-14 11:59:13 · answer #2 · answered by hquin_tset 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try to do something arts and crafty with your children. The feeling aren't going to go away until you hear from your family. You might go ahead and talk to your children about stranger danger. You may decide to let your children know that a stranger is the one that hurt these children. This might relief you some to know that you are trying to pro vent the same happening to your children. I would keep your hands busy. If you like any type of arts and crafts do that or color. My prayers are with you and your family.
2006-08-14 11:52:19 · answer #3 · answered by Tammy L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go about my business of the day with the thought of these children forefront in your mind. Tell the Higher Power you recognize to make your whole days thoughts a prayer on their behalf. Then turn it over to that Higher Power. There is no greater authority. I hope for the best for the kids. Be sure to be a great auntie........
2006-08-14 11:50:07 · answer #4 · answered by Stew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is to protect your children from the creep who did this to your nieces and nephews and be there for these children when they need you. Just letting them know that you care this much really counts for a lot.
2006-08-14 11:49:27 · answer #5 · answered by Janiffer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is way too much to deal with.
Can you take your kids to a park or museum, maybe a movie to get your mind off of it?
2006-08-14 11:49:07 · answer #6 · answered by EPnTX 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u will obviously obsess about it, but u cannot do anything except hoping for the best
2006-08-14 11:51:27 · answer #7 · answered by vedz666 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋