I am going through breakup blues,its very painful,what shall I do to ease?

Question

My relationship was 4 years
and i dont have too much friends..please help

Answer 1

start an online dating account- idk- if you have even one friend ask them to go out and have some fun. or maybe a rebound guy would help you along...good luck!

Answer 2

I dont know how much advice that I can offer you beyond just the simple fact that you are not alone in this process. I am getting out of a 5 year marriage to someone I have been with since I was 16 (now 23). He treated me badly (cheating, verbal abuse, etc.) and despite the fact that I am the one who filed for divorce, I am finding myself very depressed over the loss of someone who has been a huge part of my for so many years. I too, have only a few friends that I can fall back on and they have been really supportive and great during this time but I do need to get out more and in that extent they are kind of limited. Everyone says to keep yourself occupied and for the most part that is true but I also understand the fact that this can be sometimes difficult to do when you are so upset and just basically unmotivated to do anything else. The thing that I have started to realize is that it is therapeutic to release your pain and emotions to help you get over the loss, however you cannot allow yourself to be domintated completely by them either. I enjoyed reading some of the responses to your question because they are things that I have been doing or have at least entertained the idea of doing to get passed the heartache. I think that doing artwork is a very good one because it allows you to constructively release your sadness. I write a lot of poetry and have a journal and believe me it does help. I also think that getting active is a good idea and picking up a hobby of your choice where you will also get your mind off things and have an opportunity to meet new people will be effective. I sincerely hope that you are able to get pass your breakup and that you will realize that there will be someone better suited for you that will make you happy and won't cause you any pain in the future, but until then you have to take care of yourself and love yourself so that you can find happiness with or without the presence of a romantic partner...enjoy your single life now and look at it as a new chapter in your life and know that when the time is right someone will come into your life and give you the love and respect that you deserve...Good luck:)

Answer 3

Well I can tell you now that its going to hurt and you will have your good days and bad days. Break up blues are always hard to deal with. Often times when we're in relationships we lose ourselves. What I mean is we put the things that we want on the side to put more into out relationship. The problem that this create is we lose self. Most of the time we don't realize this until the break up happens and we face each day without this person. So now would be the best time to get to know yourself. This is a great thing because you want to get over that relationship so you don't hold it against the next person you date. Know that it's not you or something you did wrong.... It just wasn't the right time or person. (Remember in each experience there is something we must learn). Try to turn the negative into positive! Focus on you and things that you want to do. Travel, workout, read, hang with the girls. Now I can't guarantee that this will take away all the Break up Blues. However I time you will feel better, and would have accomplished a lot more of your goals. You never know who is watching you....

"Never make someone a priority in your life when they have only made you an option in theirs"

I know that it's not easy (trust me)! Take it one day at a time and know that this to shall pass! (smile).

Answer 4

Rent the film Just Like Heaven. You will like it very much.

Join a gym and start lifting weights! You will soon be looking and feeling better, plus the male/female ratio is always 10:1. Don't expect to meet someone the first week (although you may!) but over time you will meet plenty of guys! Also, you will make some female friends as well.

The exercise will also help ease your pain, because it makes you feel high afterwards. Stay positive, and think about other guys you like, especially if they are somewhat different from your ex. Good luck at the gym!

Answer 5

Well i understand the heartache. 4 years is a long time.If it were 20 years and than you broke up it could've been much worse. Sweetie, you gotta pull up your boot strings and get out into the world with fresh eyes. To remember him isn't bad but you have to let it wash over you and move on from those thoughts not wallow in them. You have your whole life ahead of you, you just have to decide now how you want to live it.
Do some self discovery. Do things that interest you and do them seriously. Take time to write out goals and do them. Find your voi ce in this world. It won't be easy at first but it will get easier and though you may never forget him at least you'll realize that things in this world happen for reasons that don't always make sense at the time. You will find more happiness than ever before you just have to try.

Answer 6

U just need to think that there are other fish in the sea it may not seem like it right at the moment. It will take time to get over the break up. Go talk to some family Im sure they are there to help you. But just take it slow and think of all the positives. That should help ease the pain of a break up.

Answer 7

Set yourself up a rigorous workout plan and put your whole self into it. I usually did these things around the house so that anytime I was feeling glum I could refocus the energy and just wear myself out. even at night. With a little time, the better I felt about the way I was beginning to look the easier It was to let go. and It will begin to change your attitude and your self outlook and, hey, It's actually good for you so you'll live longer. hope it helps. But remember... no matter what you use, unfortunately time will always be in the recipe. I haven't found a way around that one yet. sorry.

Answer 8

Think about yourself now. Friends will come and go. Just know that Jesus is your friend. He will make a way through. Was u born by yourself or was u born with friends? Now about the breakup issue. That can be the best thing that will happen 2 u cuz u don't have 2 worry if he is cheating, lying, and etc. 2 u. Just worry about yourself. True love will come. Just wait for it. This is tha time to learn about yourself.

Answer 9

Personally, I think the best thing to do when you are feeling sorry for yourself (even in a situation like this), is to do something for someone else - and I don't mean your ex! If you have a relative who is elderly, or a community charity that is always looking for volunteers - like the boys and girls club, go and help them! It takes your mind off your pain, while you are feeling a bit better by helping someone else!! If you are old enough, and out of school, consider going back to school. It's tough when your relationship takes up so much of your time, you end up lost without it. Stand up... brush yourself off... and go do something else. This is not the end of your life, this is the beginning of a different chapter of your life! Have fun with it!

Answer 10

a broken heart is a very painful thing to go thru for anyone at any age. but it is true time does heal all wounds the best thing for you to do is give your self a good cry feel sorry for your self for about a day or so. then pick yourself up and go on find new friends go to dances or join clubs you are interested in. remember you did have a life before your relationship and you can have a life again, it does take time but it will happen.

Answer 11

Oh, sweetie. I don't have a whole lot of advice, but I'm going through the same thing. My boyfriend, also of four years, just left me, so I understand where you're coming from. I don't have a whole lot of friends either. All I can say is that you need to find a way to keep yourself occupied--if you're shy like I am and don't make new friends easily, do you have a hobby? If you don't, find one. Start painting or writing or exercising. . .anything that will keep you occupied will keep you from thinking too much about him. It DOES get easier, eventually. I promise.