why isnt anyone waiting to have sex till there married anymore?

Question

i feel like im the only one that is still waiting, wut do u guys think cuz i feel alone on this one

Answer 1

Why wait? God gave you a vagina and the ability to orgasm for a reason - pleasure. Why not use it?

Just remember to always use a condom.

Answer 2

I hope you don't just ignore my answer because of what I'm about to tell you, because I think I might open your mind up to a new way of thinking, if only for a moment. If you believe in abstinence, that's all well and good, but some people choose to live their lives differently. Now I won't call you ignorant for being such, but I will give my two cents on the subject since you asked.

America is in the middle of a never-ending sexual revolution if you ask me. Believe it or not, sex is part of human nature, and when the call of nature knocks on your door, you know it's hard to resist. A lot of people are starting to catch on to this earlier and earlier these days. Maybe you've never met someone who gives you these feelings before, but you will one day if you haven't.

Even though I preach to a lot of people that making assumptions on something without first experiencing it is ignorant, abstinence is actually a pretty good thing to believe in. However, once you get married and start having sex, you'll wonder why you waited so long, because it really can be a great experience if you're with someone you care about. Otherwise, it's pretty meaningless, and it can leave you feeling pretty dirty.

Answer 3

Good for you. I wish there were more young people out there with such a clear headed look at life. The world is changing, you can tell by the way girls dress and act. Girls today are not changing from girls, to young ladies, to women, they are skipping the whole transition.
That is why we see so many single mothers, teen moms, and young girls with STD's. As a kid my grandmother was very strict. She believed in dressing and acting like a lady at all times. (that is probably why I feel my purse and shoes always need to match :) lol ). She also said never go to bed with someone you cannot picture as your husband or the father of your children.
But what I am getting at is, it is your decision, no one should make you feel you are weird or different for not going with the "main stream".
I am going to be 30 and I have been married since I was 21. I had an experience before, I do not regret it, because it was my decision. However, The decision is always yours, and yours alone.
Stick to your Morals.
And to those who chastise you...forget about it....you won't remember them in 5 years and they won't remember you.

Besides when a man looks for a wife, he looks for a lady he is proud to bring home to mom, not someone who has been with all of his friends.

Hold your head high, and be proud....you are the last of a dying breed!

Answer 4

People don't wait because they want to know what it's like. Once they find out, they usually want to keep doing it. I think the last I heard, the average age for a girl loosing her virginity these days is 13. The point is, you know it's there because every show and movie and book has innuendo and references to love and romance. So kids want to see what it is. If you are waiting, it's because you are making it something special. I'm not saying that it's not special, but I was always far too curious for my own good.

You should definitely not feel bad for waiting. And you are not alone. You are just not in the majority.

Answer 5

Not too many people have the same self respect that you have. I think it's great that you're waiting. That's rare now a days but that's good. You're guaranteed not to get any STD's and it will save you a lot of heartache.
Don't let anyone talk you into it. Soul tying with someone can cause you emotional baggage. More people should have waited and I applaud you for waiting til marriage.
I wish I would have waited.

Answer 6

I honestly dont know. I guess people are just so desperate for relationships, that when they finally get into one, they don't want to get out, and usually the relationships just lead to sex. So many of my friend's are this way. It seems like the single guys(atleast for me) who are waiting for a good g/f, are waiting, and waiting, and waiting because all every girl wants now is just sex.

Guys are a non-issue I think, the stereotype placed on guys is that is all that they want. It wasn't until recently that women have come out describing how much they want it, and almost need it more than men.

Congratulations on being probably one of the few good girls left, I wish I knew you. :p

Answer 7

I think that people are too worried about what other people think, hence the question. Years ago people didn't have sex because they were worried about what other people think, now people are having sex because they are worried about what other people think. If people are so motivated by what other people think in order for you to stay a virigin you may want to shun those that have sex before marriage. You may just start meeting people or at least start only dating people that are too only virigins. It a shame that peer pressure drives this country and most societies but at the same time if you are really concern about you maintain you're viriginity it wouldn't matter what others are doing, just make sure you're doing what you think is the right thing to do!

Answer 8

Theoretically it would be great. The problem is that you might run into problems sometimes. I did that once, we didn't really have sex before we got married. In a few months we've discovered there are serious differences between us from that point of view. We are not together anymore, and sex was probably the most important part of the reason.

Answer 9

I think you should wait, I do in fact know quite a bit of people who have waited (and still are) until they get married. It is hard to do, especially if your not a religious person, I think most guys who are not religious basically assume the girls has to give it up to be with them. I really wish I had waited until marriage. I give you kudos for waiting. It is true, if a guy really does love you, he will wait. There are so many guys out there who will say ANYTHING to get in your pants, don't believe them. I know for a fact if the guy loves you he will wait.

Answer 10

Some do--you just have to look in the right places. But most guys are hard-wired to "hit & run"; getting sexual gratification is what they seem to be all about when in a relationship.
There is a reason God made it a rule for couples to have sex only within the confines of marraige: if everyone did, how would STD's, Aids, unwanted pregnancies & so many failed marriages exist?

Answer 11

I'm waiting dont feel bad about its a good thing! People just can't keep there legs closed! No one has incomposure anymore.And I am so glag that lyfe jennings came out with s.e.x.! If you haven't heard it listen to it. Plus think about how happy your husband would be to say he was your first. There is alot of women that wish there husband to say that. And to all those men out there that say you should do it. dont listen to it! Your suppose to procreate and I guess the feel of it is just an added bonus.Your not alone though. Even if you was you would just be the only person that is good left!