My sister and I used to play with with each other all the time but when she turned 14 she stated to like guys and her friends and makeup. I try to ask her if i can do something with her like watch a movie or play cards or something but if i say one word she yells at me and says: SHUT UP YOUR SOOO ANNOYYING!!!! She hurts my fellings all the time what should I do?
2006-08-14 04:28:38 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She is going through many physical and emotional changes as a teenager, hormones will change her behavior. Try not to take it personal, she does love you she is just trying to cope with all the changes happening in her life. Try to explain that she does not need to be mean to people, especially you. Write her a little letter and let her know your feelings were hurt but you are trying to understand her. Leave it on her pillow at night and see if she realizes her behavior to you was harsh.
2006-08-14 04:36:50 · answer #1 · answered by Maria b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow - this must be really hard. First though, your sister does not hate you. I think she's just being influnced by her friends at school and she no longer thinks it's "cool" to hang out with her younger brother or sister. This is her loss and clearly, what she's doing is wrong.
You can't force your sister to change. She has to realize for herself that what she is doing is wrong. It is never right to hurt people's feelings and it's even worse to do it to people who love you (and who you love back) like your family. Hopefully in time, your sister will realize her mistakes and ask her forgiveness.
In the meantime, you should just stay away. She is probably trying to distance herself from you since she doesn't want to do everything with you as she did before. This, again, is ridiculous, but there's nothing you can do about it. I think it's great that you still want to do things with your sister. In time, she will also realize that spending time with you is fun and good for the both of you. She will realize that having friends and trying to be popular can never be as important as maintaining a happy relationship with you.
Stay away from you sister, give her her space, and hopefully she will come around. If she asks you why you're staying away, use that as an opportunity to tell her how you feel. Tell her you noticed that since she turned 14, her attitude changed towards you and it really hurt your feelings at first, but that you realized that it wasn't up to you to force a friendship with her anymore. Hopefully, this will get her thinking and she will change her ways.
Good luck.
2006-08-14 04:39:36 · answer #2 · answered by ♪ ♥ ♪ ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry little man, it's a shame but this is a faze that she is going through, it's not that she hates you, she will eventually grow out of it (it will probly take a couple years). unfortunately untill then you will be the annoying little brother. I was the annoying little sister. In retaliation, I used to get my big brother into all sorts of trouble. When I was an adult I appologized for being so rude, but it was fun. but also remember it is easier being a little boy than a little girl. Soon enough she is going to hate life. good luck
2006-08-14 04:42:06 · answer #3 · answered by sisy j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Sweetheart...I went through the same thing with my little brother,we did everything together we played football,baseball,kickball, play station..however as i got older he got more annoying im 19 and hes 14...ive moved out finished high school and im gonna be getting married...but..eventually before i moved out..I realized I was hurting him..when id see him outside all by himself trying to play catch it made me feel bad..and now we have a stronger bond...we are back to being our old selves...its just a phase it will pass
2006-08-14 04:48:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your sisters growing up, shes probley going through a lot of changes to, so dont take it personal, shes older now and IS going to be hanging around guys, and wearing make-up, and she wont be playing all of the games she use to with you, but maybe oneday, when people arnt over, or shes not doing homework or on the phone in all, you can ask her to do your make-up, even if you dont like putting on make-up, it'll be something you did together...........
2006-08-14 04:37:08 · answer #5 · answered by Leesh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be patient. your sister is going through a confusing time right now, and she is growing up. just don't get upset with her or anything. she may be saying that you're annoying, but i'm sure that if any thing were to happen to you, or someone was messing with you, she'd be right by your side taking up for you. i'm sure too that eventually things will get back to normal. just don't rush it.
2006-08-14 04:36:16 · answer #6 · answered by trisha_r_c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry dude, it happens to everyone at that age, there isn't much you can do. i guess, just be nice to her, and try to leave her something nice. Even though and especially when she's mean. it might make her think.
2006-08-14 04:37:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's growing up... Just give her some space and occasionally ask her if you can help her with things and see what she says.
2006-08-14 04:35:14 · answer #8 · answered by tito_loves_the_sun 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she doesn't hate you! she's going through something on her own, she's showing independence! it's not about you, but about her. sounds like she's a little self centered as well though, but it's not because she doesn't love you. you will always be her sister, and she will always love you!
2006-08-14 04:41:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her be. Realize that she doesn't hate you, and she's going through a phase. Someday, she'll come out of it, and you'll be friends again.
2006-08-14 04:35:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋