I hate the way my dad eats. I hate eating with him. Its so noisy and discusting. I have to turn the music on to night hear the way he eats. It's so fast and nasty. What can i do to tell him in a nice way to fu king slow down and eat with your mouth closed. And dont make those fu king noises. Its soo gross, hes been told his entire life to eat properly. Its so nasty. please help me, im dying over here.
2006-08-14 04:18:03 · 18 answers · asked by ALEX111 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The bane of my life - bad eaters. Absolutely hate it.
I think you're going to have trouble changing him. He's been told already and he hasn't changed. Also, it depends on what age you are and the circumstances in which you find yourself confronted by his appalling table manners.
Here are some things I do when faced with a bad eater.
1. Make sure to sit at the table so that you're not directly opposite.
2. Try to sit as far away as possible.
3. Have some background noise such as radio or TV.
4. Think of an excuse to leave the table whilst he gets on with it.
5. Say that you're not inviting anybody to dinner/lunch at yours because you'd be embarassed.
6. Tell him that it makes you feel revolted and you'd rather not be there. (Then it's up to him to make up his own mind about it.... ie. You're not telling him to change...... You're just telling him how his behaviour affects you and what you're going to do about it.)
7. Wear ear plugs. (Puts the message across).
8. Influence the food that is on the table. Eg. If your mother cooks - get her to cook things which are less noisey to eat.
9. Eat in a different room from him.
10. Mention how on adverts they always show ads for foods with people eating decently.
11. When watching bad eaters on TV - sigh and say how gross you think it is.
12. Mention how awful it would be if somebody was so inconsiderate as to pick their nose at the dinner table (whilst he's eating).
13. Ban chewing gum from the house on the grounds that it causes people to chew badly.
14. Next time he eats badly, switch on the tumble dryer/washing machine and stare at it. Say that you're trying to spot the difference.
15. Offer him an apple, but before giving it to him take it into the kitchen and mince it. Bring it back and say 'That's for you'.
Of course, only you know how far you can go with him without him accusing you of being cheeky etc.
You have my sympathies. Deepest!!!!
2006-08-14 04:39:55 · answer #1 · answered by skiparoouk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband is the same way. i eat in a different room as he does. the more i try to get him to chew with his mouth closed and stop talking with food in his mouth, the more he does it. when we go out to eat, i ask for a table/booth away from other people.
i would recommend having a talk with him, but that didn't work in my case. i would also recommend showing him how nasty his eating habits are by imitating him, but that didn't work for me, either. is there someone else who could approach him for you? Best of luck! i know it is frustrating.
2006-08-14 04:26:14 · answer #2 · answered by 2bizy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
~you know it may be gross & annoying, but you should appreciate the fact that your dad wants to spend time with you. alot of people don't have fathers to do anything with. maybe you could keep that in mind the next time you are with him, that might make it a little easier for you. if he's been like this for a long time chances are he's not going to change & you'll just make yourself miserable over it. good luck with whatever you decide to do!~
2006-08-14 04:32:31 · answer #3 · answered by hlpz76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad eats like that all the time I hate it but he loves you soo march right up to him and say Dad, No offense but your annoying the heck out of me plaese try to close your mouth..... He's your dad so there won't be any offense taken
2006-08-14 04:37:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant. Just be happy he is still around to hang out with you. I eat fast and noisy too. So get over it! Hes your dad, anything you say to him will be insulting.
2006-08-14 04:24:45 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gosh I feel for you! I have a friend just like that and yes, when we go out to eat I always get stuck sitting acrossed from him..............disgusting is correct and it pisses me off! lol I wish i had a solution or suggestion........only maybe to tell him you'll eat at different times from now on?
2006-08-14 04:22:56 · answer #6 · answered by shizzlechit 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My dad drives me crazy with his manners only when I'm mad at him. I know it's hard but please try not to pay atention to the way he eats. You are probably having some other troubles and anxieties and the small things seem huge problems.
2006-08-14 04:28:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit him down infront of a jerry springer show and when he starts slateing the guest if you can call them that tell him he's a fine one to talk and they are mirrow images of how people see him
2006-08-14 04:44:51 · answer #8 · answered by raindancer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's your dad, so it makes it way more difficult! you have to respect your dad, and how can you do that by telling him what to do? however, try talking to your mom and see if she can handle this! i hate this eating habit as much as you do. i have a husband that i had to talk to as well, and thankfully he understands and does much better now!!!!
2006-08-14 04:32:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when my husband does that once in a while- I ask "Is that food pretty good?" he gets the hint cuz he knows I can't stand the noise and all too
2006-08-14 04:33:27 · answer #10 · answered by sammy22005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋