i know him since 8 months but we in a relation since a month,,,it just started with casual kissing n smooching but verytime i meet him he goes further n further like touching me n stuff..n now he wants to make love with me asap n when i ask him isnt it too early n dont want to rush in ...he says he too dusnt want to rush in but cant control himself when he is with me...does he really love me or is it lust?
2006-08-14 04:09:41 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is being a jerk. If you say it's going to fast he should respect you. And when he says he can't control himself, that's a bunch of crap. He's a loser, drop him! He will wait for you if he really wants to be with you! Don't do anything until you are totally comfortable and ready!
2006-08-14 04:17:55 · answer #1 · answered by kristina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not LOVE he's just horny. Are you ready to be with this person, what if he just wants sex and then goes on with you how would you feel? Well those are just somethings to think about their are many more but that's up too you. Sex is something that should be a joyful and shared with someone that will respect you all the time and if can't wait he's not the one you need. I hope that I help and don't rush into thinks I know it just get harder with new relationships if you keep rushing in
2006-08-14 04:20:47 · answer #2 · answered by HONEY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may love you, but the little head is making decisions for him.
If you are not ready, make that perfectly clear to him. Do not let him intimidate you or make you feel guilty for not giving in. Tell him you really like spending time with him, but you're not ready for sex yet.
Remember, this is a man, you must be perfectly clear. They don't understand hints. If you let him go a little further each time, then he's going to expect that it's going to lead to going all the way. Slow him down. The next time he touches you somewhere that you don't want to be touched, stop him, and ask to be taken home immediately. Do not back down, or he'll think you're just playing games.
Either he'll get the hint or go away. If he goes away, then he was only interested in sex, and not you. If he really does love you, then he'll let you set the pace.
2006-08-14 04:14:10 · answer #3 · answered by FozzieBear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a question that you need to think and answer yourself. I mean you already told him that you think it is too early. So do you think it is right for him to keep doing it?
For me personally, although we may have known each other for quite a while, it doesn't mean that we were dating. I would tell him to keep waiting. If he loves you that much, then he'll learn how to wait. But if he doesn't know how to wait and Rush you in to doing it with him, then it's just lust, hon. Sex can wait, you wouldn't want to have a baby yet. And if you were to get pregnant, do you think he'll still want to be with you and find ways to support you and your baby? If he can't answer that and just say " don't worry you won't get pregnant" then trust me, he's not worth it. But if he's able to answer them questions with a good answer that you will agreed with, then you know that he can wait and loves you dearly. This is your body, not his. But that's just what I'm suggesting for you. Remember, it's your life and body, do what feels right.
2006-08-14 04:23:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him that. Tell him you want to hold off on everything (except maybe a good night kiss) for a short while until you're sure.
If you're questioning then it's too early. I've waited longer than that before no problem, also waited less.. really depends on the guy, how you trust him and how comfortable YOU ARE with it.
don't do anything until you're ready
2006-08-14 04:13:05 · answer #5 · answered by attila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you already know the answer or you wouldn't ask. you are right YOU are not ready yet. and if he just keeps pressuring you its just lust not love. I'm sorry but take it from experience if they truly love you they will wait until you are ready. making love with someone means just that making love, don't let someone convince you its love when its not . you will know when you are ready. always remember when you decide to make love with someone you always give a part of your self to that person and you cant ever get it back. so make sure it is with someone you want to have a part of you forever.
2006-08-14 04:26:04 · answer #6 · answered by parrotsarenoisy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you are 14 you are going way to fast no matter what.
If you are not sure, then you should not let yourselft be pressured into anything. You will probably regret it later.
As for the concept that he cannot control himself......is he an animal or a human?
If he loves you he will respect your wishes.
2006-08-14 04:17:52 · answer #7 · answered by WendyD1999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U know when someone loves u, u shouldnt have to ask. If ur ready to have sex then by all means do it, but if ur not ready to deal with the bad things that may come with it, (not getting a phone call, feeling used) then wait, but if he likes u a lot it'll work out. Dont feel pressured.
2006-08-14 04:16:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lust or love? you are the only one who can answer that! and you are not going too fast, actually the fastest way to find out is having sex with the guy, if he loves you, he will keep asking for more, and if he doesn't well..... at least you will know, and just because you are delaying the intercourse that doesn't guarantees he will fall in love just because you decide to go slow.
2006-08-14 04:19:53 · answer #9 · answered by elcabula2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's lust. And if you're not ready, then don't let him talk you into it. Tell him you are NOT ready and if he cares for you he can wait awhile. If he cannot respect that, then he is not the right guy for you. He sounds super horny and somewhat disrespectful. I'd be careful.
2006-08-14 04:13:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋