The other night I chilled with my son's father. Just enjoying some company. When he left I sent him a text message that said " I love you forever. Not only for sex. Thank you for spending time with me, I needed that. Love Always Wifey." Nothing happened no sex or kissing! But my boyfriend went through my phone and found that text message. I told him nothing happen. He said OK but still seemed pissed. I really love my boyfriend and want to spend my life with him, not my son's father. What can I do to fix it. I never want him to be hurt or upset. But why was he going through my phone?
2006-08-14 03:58:11 · 10 answers · asked by Blondie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's insecure if he has to go through your phone, and it looks like he might have stumbled onto something you didn't want him to. Someone have a guilty conscientious? Look, I'd be turned off if my girlfriend was snooping through my phone, but if I was sending messages like that to someone, especially an ex, I couldn't blame them for being mad. You're both at fault here, so you both need to get over it and move on with the relationship.
Sit down and talk to him about this with a heart to heart. Just let him know that you'll always have a place in your heart for your ex, but you do love your boyfriend now, and that if he trusts you, you won't break that trust. If he can't accept that, then you need to leave him, and that's all there is to it.
2006-08-14 04:03:09 · answer #1 · answered by Axel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally i think that your boyfriend musnt trust you in the first place if he's snooping through your phone msgs. wats a relationship without trust? i think you need to take things slow with your b/f and show him how much you do care. If you honestly dont want anything to happen between you and his father then why not let your b/f come along and chill out with the two of you? show him youve got nothing to hide!!
2006-08-14 04:12:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust Issues. Did your boyfriend cause the breakup of you and your X. Are you no longer married because you cheated? If so did you tell your bf how it happened?
Set your phone up with a password if you can. As I gaze into my crystal ball I see no long term relationship with this guy. Seek someone else or try getting back with your X.
2006-08-14 06:53:58 · answer #3 · answered by Plantoneonme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was going through your phone because you send texts like that! my boyfriend takes my phone all the time just to see how i'll react.
You told another man that you loved them, forever. not ONLY for sex and then signed it wifey.... why would that NOT upset him?
You need to give him a little time and space and then try to explain it to him..
2006-08-14 04:03:19 · answer #4 · answered by attila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably had some suspicion
u probably made him do that
or he is insecure? but in all honesty u did something to trigger it
now that he found that text
it may have broken his trust with u
i will sit down and talk to him
explain to him the situation in a nice calm manner
if he starts to fight
stay calm and let him vent
when he calms down
proceed to talk and find a resolution
good luck
and dont interact with ur son father too much
consider yourself lucky
alot of men do not like being with women with other kids
2006-08-14 04:09:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have got something started. Just make sure that you treat him like you've always loved him. How would you think he would react after you spent time with another man? None the less it was your child's father. Just remind yourself never to do that again. Cause it may not be the last time.
2006-08-14 04:05:01 · answer #6 · answered by littlecloieinttown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all if u dont have feeling for him y did u send him that message and all boyfriends go though ur phone soo thats normal..
2006-08-14 04:04:35 · answer #7 · answered by 2 sweet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of the above, especially Atillas answer. The first part. Dump him.
2006-08-14 04:07:47 · answer #8 · answered by Kinder Warrior 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's no man who will just shut up after reading your text to your ex.you said that you love him forever and that really hurts your bf's feeling because he might thought that you still love your ex and not him.you're still lucky because your bf still with you after reading that.
don't do it anymore to get back his trust in you.
2006-08-14 04:30:25 · answer #9 · answered by chicky_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why you sent such a message???
he won't trust you anymore :(
2006-08-14 04:05:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋