My ex and I broke up last summer after three months, said he wasnt ready for committment. He has been in touch once a week or so via text, last Monday he text to say "was in the local nightclub Sunday night and was hoping to bump into ya" he seems to be txting a little more of late.I really am comfused think i still have feelings for him, i never see him, only once or twice since we broke up. When he heard i was dating a guy out near him he was texting again and saying "im on a stag and its full of ladies at this venue but all i can think of you" this morning he text me at 7am on his way to work , is he interested or just messing with my head?
2006-08-14 03:33:58 · 39 answers · asked by sunny01 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds painfully familiar. The hard reality is... he's a very selfish man who is just stringing you along in case he doesn't find anything better. If he really wanted to be with you, he would be there. The fact that he is out looking around should tell you all you need to know. Be strong and next time he texts you, text back a clear and firm "get lost" message. As long as you let him go out and play around but keep you on a string as his contingency plan at the same time, he will, and you deserve better than that.
Remember the words of Eleanor Roosevelt: "No one can make us feel inferior without our permission." Men don't make idiots of us. But sometimes we do a darn good job of that all by ourselves.
2006-08-14 03:43:11 · answer #1 · answered by Fogjazz49-Retired 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe. Three months is not very long to establish the necessary groundwork for a solid relationship. Has he called you or is just texting? Sounds like when he heard you were moving on, he started to think twice about what he let go of and that's typical. They don't want to be with you after while but they also don't want anyone else to be with you either! Keep doing what you're doing.
2006-08-14 03:42:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely situation is he knows you still care for him and knows that you will give "it' up to him. Do not let this man play with your head. If he were serious he would have made more of a stronger move towards you by now and more of a commitment. You need to go out enjoy yourself with other nice guys that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Tell this other jerk that you would appriciate it if he were not serious aout making a commitment to stop texting you and calling you that you expect more then a one or two night stand.
2006-08-14 03:41:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think he is just playing mind games. I know that a lot of guys play games like that. They are only interest in you when you have no interest in them. I say forget about him. If he wasn't ready for a committment then, chances are he isn't ready for one now. That guy you are seeing, how is that working out? Focus on that.
As far as the texting, block his number, he is an idiot. Make him feel like one, never think you are the idiot.
2006-08-14 03:41:24 · answer #4 · answered by Monie D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES. If you fall for this crap, you're really an idiot. He doesn't care for you in the way that a boyfriend should. He cares about himself. He sounds very selfish. He wants you to love him without giving the committment back - just so that he can feel loved. Dump this guy forever - don't even give him the satisfaction of being your friend. Friends don't play mind games.
2006-08-14 03:41:04 · answer #5 · answered by someone_else 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is that classic case of the I don't really know what I want blues. I think that he is confused himself. I think that he really likes you and really didn't know what he had until he lost it. I really can't say if he is serious or not due to the fact that I know little of the situation, but from what it sounds like is yes he is interested, because he can't stop thinking of you (Don't know what you got till it's gone scenario.) Call him and see what's going on. If you are still interested. Play the cards but do it cautiously and slowly. Go with the flow. Go in with no expectations and see where it goes.
2006-08-14 03:45:57 · answer #6 · answered by Moon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOUD WARNING SIGNALS BLARING
don't ignore them! this is a self-centered, immature man who is not ready for a serious, committed relationship. He wants what he can't have.
He has shown you that HE THINKS treating you inconsistently and badly is OK. that won't change if you let him continue.
You may have feelings--but they are for the man you thought he was. The confusion comes in because he is showing you the man he really is--thoughtless and vain.
LOSER. Move on and don't let this knucklehead being in your life block the view of someone more mature and ready.
2006-08-14 03:39:42 · answer #7 · answered by Love2Sew 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"When he heard you were dating a guy.............."
Hmmm, imagine that. You were able to move on and find someone else. I bet he hasn't. He's with all these ladies and he just can't stop thinking about you.
Could be he's found out that he cares for you, but I sort of doubt it. You always want what you can't have. He may just want to see if he has the 'power' to get you back. He's finding out he's not the guy he thought he was.
2006-08-14 03:44:29 · answer #8 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like he's interested but it also sounds like he's playing mind games. I would try to get a straight answer about his feelings for you, and go from there. If he says he still doesn't want a committment, I would just forget him.
2006-08-14 03:38:05 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs.H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be messing with your head. Or maybe he realized he likes you more than he thought. After being out of his life for awhile, he might have realized he had a good thing with you. It''s like that old say, "absence makes the heart grow fonder."
2006-08-14 03:40:00 · answer #10 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋