why doesnt my boyfriend do what he says he will do?

Question

last nite he said he would come back to see me after he filled in some forms for his new job which he starts today or if he wasnt coming back he would call me he didnt bother to do either which rsulted in me staying up till 2.30 am waiting what should i do

Answer 1

Men are like this from time to time.He doesn't mean anything bad by it.Men can be insensitive without realising it,don't take it to heart.I don't and Im in a long term relationship.It makes me laugh now with my other half.

Answer 2

To quote a book title, "He's Just Not That Into You." And all of the above answers that give him an excuse just because of his gender.....shame on them. RUN, honey. There ARE nice guys out there who will treat you with respect and honor. But first of all you have to respect and honor yourself. Staying up for him is not respecting yourself. Do not depend on someone else to make you happy. The best thing to do if you stay with him is to make him see that he is not all that and you can live with or without him. When he realizes that you will not tolerate this behavior he will either change or he will leave. Either way you are better off. Good luck!

Answer 3

Tell him you dont like that dishonest quality in a guy. Ask him about first though, he might have gotten stuck in traffic or something. Just tell him that you felt hurt that he didnt call you, and you stayed up real late waiting for him. It might not be that he doesnt care about you, some guys just have a really free spirit and dont think its a problem to not call or show up. Bottom line, talk to him, see what the deal is.

Answer 4

Silly you staying up until 2.30 - you should have gone to bed. I would say that as he hasn't contacted you then he isn't interested, but give him the benefit of the doubt just in case something happened and he couldn't contact you. I would leave a message on his mobile - if he doesn't answer then I think you have to accept that he isn't going to and move on. Hope it works out for you.

Answer 5

Your BF is inconsiderate and that is a RED FLAG for more trouble on the horizon. If he lies about small things like coming back to see you, he might be more apt to lie about bigger things like is he faithful. This should be addressed directly and immediately. Tell him what your expectations are. Set boundaries with specific consequences and be ready to implement those consequences if he violates your boundaries. Doing this now could save you a load of heartache and disappointment in the future. You have to assert yourself and have him recognize that you are a person willing to give respect but you also require respect of him. His disregard for wasting your time with waiting in vain is DISRESPECT. Put your foot down but don't be a b*tch about it. Be cool but be serious. If he doesn't tighten up on the areas that he is slack in, you need to decide if he is worth your time and effort.

Answer 6

don't ever wait for him to call again. he's not thinking of your feelings and has been very disrespectful. he's a person that says anything cos he sees other people's needs as 'getting on his back'. you're not his mum so he needs to grow up and you need to make it clear how you want to be treated. never wait up for anyone. either it's a big deal to you or it's not. he may have a good reason but your question makes it sound like a regular thing. if it's a one off forgive if it isn't 'next'!

Answer 7

The only way you'll get through to him is to give him the same treatment, go out tonight say you'll be in by 12, tell him you'll ring and don't do either. When he goes all manly and tells you he was worried etc, tell him that now maybe he'll understand why you got upset!
p.s this probably won't work, but if you love him give it a go.
if you don't love him, then tell him to sling his hook for being an inconsiderate shite

Answer 8

first of all you are whooped and you did that to yourself. If the phone rings can you not wake up to hear it. I would say don't worry about it unless he has given you a reason to worry and him not exctly calling when he said he would isn't really a reason unless it's an on going thing with him, and if it is re think your relationship and figure out for yourself where you stand.

Answer 9

Tell him how his inconsiderate behaviour made you angry. And then dont let him waste your time again. Take the initiative and call him to find out where he is. There is no way you should be staying up til 2.30am waiting to hear from someone.

Answer 10

Call him today and ask him why(?) he did not call or come back see what he has to say and then if you do not believe his story get some sleep and go on with your life. I am sure you will find someone who will be honest and do what they say.