I am muslim man and i have been going out with a Catholic girl for almost 5 years. No doubt we love each other. I have not spoken to her about converting and i do not want religion to be a barrier in our relationship. Is there anything i can do?
2006-08-14 03:21:44 · 20 answers · asked by wookie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YES!!! First of all WAKE UP!!! 5 YEARS??? Are you ever going to marry her? And did you think about the CEREMONY?? What kind would it be? and children??? You better sit down and THINK. Don't waste any body's time.
2006-08-14 03:30:21 · answer #1 · answered by nanrai18 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would either of you have to convert? You knew 5 years ago when you began dating her that she is Catholic, and she knew you were Muslim, That didn't stop you then, you both accepted each other as people not a religion, so why should it be an issue now?
2006-08-14 10:27:48 · answer #2 · answered by leanne s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously the religious differences do not bother you so I am sure what you are concerned with is your family. You can elope and never see your family again which I do not recommend seeing that modern American women are not very loyal and you will probably be broken up within a couple years. I say you find a good Muslim girl who has not bought into our garbage culture. I respect Islam and feel that if you marry a Muslim girl you have a better chance of actually having your children born to your wife.
2006-08-14 10:29:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that you can do is talk about it. You need to know what her feelings are about this situation, before this realtionship can go any further. This is not something that you can put off until the day before you get married. I am sure that if she loves you then this is not a barrier by any means it is simply a small obstacle that you can over come quickly.
2006-08-14 10:29:23 · answer #4 · answered by Hotbox25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally I'd never convert my religion for anyone - but i also wouldn't expect them to convert for me. It's a problem and it's only going to get worse when you have kids. Would you convert to catholocism for her? Probably not. Religion isn't something you necessarily choose - it's something that has to sit right with your soul. You can't change religions just to make a marriage more acceptable. Religion should ideally come first in anyone's life so it should therefore be impossible to change religions for the sake of someone else. You can only change it for your own sake when your belief system actually changes.
2006-08-14 10:32:13 · answer #5 · answered by agliotti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to tackle the issue some day so why not do it now? Why should it be her that has to convert? Why don't you? You have to think about these things. It doesn't go one way. If you're going to be sharing each other's lives it has to be equal. What kind of a relationship would it be if you went your way and she went hers religion wise?
2006-08-14 10:32:20 · answer #6 · answered by gemone523 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she does not want to convert, you've got major problems. Kids, family, marriage, culture, holidays, expectations ...everything!!!! You can't avoid religion as a barrier. It will creep up no matter what.
2006-08-14 10:27:50 · answer #7 · answered by Elizabeth D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a toughie! Talk to her, ask her if it ever bothers her that your faiths are so different. she may say yes or that no it doesnt bother her because you're both good people in love.
It's good that you're not pushing her to convert, have you considered it?
Never ask a loved one to do something that you yourself would not do. Maybe you all cna find a compromise.. if not the only REAL issue is if you two were to get married and have children how to raise them.
2006-08-14 10:27:32 · answer #8 · answered by attila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let religion be a barrier, love conquers all
....leave all talk about converting out of your relationship and just love each other, u can still practise your religion by yourself,...if you do end up getting married and having kids let your kids chose what religion they want
2006-08-14 10:26:17 · answer #9 · answered by mørbidsшεεŧnεss 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't ask her to convert.. u fell in luv w/a catholic girl not a muslim girl.. don't try to change her cause then she won't be the same person u fell in luv with..
why not u convert? why does she have to convert? this shouldn't be a topic for u and her to discuss yet anyway cause ur not engaged and ur not planning to be married..
2006-08-14 10:25:36 · answer #10 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋