What now she thinks I lied to her.?

Question

I have been dating this lady for 4 months. Saturday evening she calls me and tells me she ran into someone that knows me they told her for 30 years. And that they wanted her to make sure she knew all about me before she got serious with me. The problem is what they told her wasn't true and the people don't really even know me. I have only been aquantinances of them for about 15 years. And haven't seen or spoke to them for 9 years. She has some serious trust issues because of her past relationships. She made a comment one time about paying for he son's insurance and I told her that I didn't think it was a big deal because I paid for my son's. Three months later we were taking about what happened to the child support I pay and she ask about insurance and I said no he pays his own. Well, to her I lied at one time or the other. But actually he just started paying his own this summer. I don't know what to sya to her but because she thinks I lied to her it is not the same relationship we had

I do love her as I have no other. And would hate have this be what end us. I don't know what to do.

Answer 1

4 months doesn't seem like it's been enough time to have to explain your every word, action and thought. I would say that's what you are going to be doing the rest of this relationship. But, if you really, really like her, then prove ONE TIME the insurance thing, that way she gets her trust base back...but only do it the once. I feel for the girl, trust issues are a bi*ch, but, they can also take over how you deal with every other relationship, and if that happens, she will loose ALL of her relationships because of it. My advice is to give her the one chance, prove 1 time you didn't lie, and if this continues, say goodbye.

Answer 2

tell her to get over it, its not that serious