I been with my girlfriend for about 4 years, I care for her but don’t know if I love her!! I been shagging behind her back a few times and never feel bad or think twice before I do it!! I get more then enough sex from her but I keep on doing it behind her back!! Is it time to leave her because I don’t think ill stop?! My be I just don’t love her enough. I just don’t want to hurt her!!
2006-08-14 02:42:27 · 23 answers · asked by D J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you can "shag" behind her back, then it's pretty obvious you don't love her.
Be a man and break up with her.
2006-08-14 02:45:37 · answer #1 · answered by anabele6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're not looking at the situation right. What if you found out that she was cheating on you! If you would be hurt my guess, and also because you wrote this question, is that you do have some feelings for her. You need to understand what you want for a relationship and what you are looking for in terms of character, personality, and physical apperance from the opposite sex. Try to remember what or how you two started dating in the first place. But if you don't love her or continue to cheat I'd say to end the relationship because at some point sooner or later she will be hurt and possibly you too!
2006-08-14 02:52:43 · answer #2 · answered by Mark S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're just with her now because it's comfortable. If you truly loved her you wouldn't be with others. If you know you're not gonna stop and you dont feel guilty about it then yes, it's time to end the relationship. You say you dont want to hurt her but you're actually hurting her more by keep cheating. It is disrespectful and hurtful to her to keep doing it. If she doesn't know that you've cheated then dont say anything about it...it'll only hurt her more. You should just tell her that you dont feel the same way as you used to and you both need to take a break or something. It's demeaning to both you and her for you to be running around with others while claiming to have a relationship for 4yrs with someone else.
2006-08-14 02:49:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u care about here let her go before u hurt her yall have been together along time how can u not love her think twice before u do anything the choice u make might not b the rught one the grass isnt always greener on the other side
2006-08-14 02:48:42 · answer #4 · answered by greyeyebeauty81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have been with her for 4 years. U r doing unfair with her. U shouldn't talk about her, behind her. She is keeping u happy, she is in love with u, she cares for u... she is thinking that u love her... how can u do this to her.... I didn't like this part of u... dont be such selfish dude. Shower ur kindness and love for her.
2006-08-14 02:51:56 · answer #5 · answered by ashlesha19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the damage u have caused is enogh so far, i suggest u leave her alone coz it will hurt her more if u continue cheating and she finds out (which she will) u cant force love, and id advise u to stick 2 one gal,its the same sex u'll find elsewhere, just get someone u love and stop sleeping around B4 u get a disease... u know wat i mean...
2006-08-14 02:47:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, well....you can hang up the not hurting her part....cause it's gonna hurt! There is no need to "cleanse your soul" to her about sleeping with other people, that would be salt on the wound and NO ONE deserves that. I agree that it's time to move on. If you don't feel bad about cheating, then it means you've hardened your heart towards her. Move on NOW, don't wait.
2006-08-14 02:50:14 · answer #7 · answered by carolscreation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u don't luv her.. if u did u would take her feelings into consideration when ur cheating.. god forbid she find out.. god forbid u give her something like an std..
don't be careless and ruthless.. if u dont' want to be w/her tell her so.. u don't have to volunteer that ur cheating but just leave her and tell her u wanna see other people, or let her know that u don't want to be committed to her anymore..
that's the reason why girls be killing or tryna kill they bfs and the girls that they cheated with..
quit while ur ahead..
2006-08-14 03:00:29 · answer #8 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because your really insensitive underneath. You've already hurt her, so instead of being open and honest about it, it's easier to keep playing the game. Do the words "selfish", "self-centered" mean anything to you. You've wasted four years of her life, grow up.
2006-08-14 02:53:12 · answer #9 · answered by Kinder Warrior 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her then...but having sex behind her back is just wrong. And if you loved her you wouldn' do that. if you talk to her about sex...then maybe she will have it with you more often. But doing what you did to her was just wrong.
2006-08-14 02:47:26 · answer #10 · answered by ♥mcmanda♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋