I like this guy,,, i think he's great. He's smart, in college, got everything going for him. But when I ask my friends what they think, they tell me I can do better and he isn't good enough for me. I know my opinion means more than theirs, but when everyone is pretty much saying the same thing...it just makes things much more confusing. Any advice?
2006-08-14 01:59:31 · 15 answers · asked by jeni 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't really pay much attention to that. you know yourself and probably that guy better than they do anyway. if you like him, just go for it, and if it doesn't work out, you'll find someone else. actually, i liked this guy in college and my friends told me something similar but i think that kind of just made me a little more protective and want to like him more.
2006-08-14 02:03:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well friends come and go. And well friends come with different options, remember their opinion of a guy is baised to their belief of what a good guy is. So well they are just basing it on whether they would like him or not. And well obviously they don't, what matters most is what you think. And you really like him. And you find him to be a great guy. So well just follow your heart, give it a shot and take a chance. It's what life is all about. You need to learn that even if the whole world thinks someting is bad, it doesn't mean it really is. Perfect example. the whole world shuns gays and lez. They hate them. And think it's disgusting and sinful to be a gay or lez. They even go as far as telling them they can't get married. So well that's the perfect example right there. The whole world says that it's wrong, but what about how they feel. Or how the supporters whether they be straight, bi, lez, or gay. They don't feel it's wrong.
Personally I support them, because who am I to tell anybody how they should feel. I'm just one person out of millions. God created us to love one and another, I can't take the role of God on my sholders and tell somebody that they can't love someone because they are of the same sex. I'm straight, have been my whole life, but my Godparents are Lez. And I was really pissed off because my old Catholic High School kicked out a gay kid. They have the "don't tell/show" rule. Where as long as you don't show you are gay, or tell anybody, you can stay at the High School. But I stayed friends with him. I support the gay/bi/lez community with all my heart. I feel they have a right to be happy and do what they want. Despite what the world thinks of them.
The point is that no matter what, it's what you feel. Because not everybody is going to support you on everything, and that's why it's YOUR life, and not theirs. So give it a shot with this guy. If things turn out bad, at least you have friends to fall back upon and have them help you get through it, if things get really well with you, they will feel really bad for saying that he isn't good enough for you, and still be their to support you.
2006-08-14 09:13:23 · answer #2 · answered by Khalil S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Zi
There has to be a reason why your friends don't like this gentleman. Does he yell at you, does he embarrass you in front of your friends? Does he drink and call you mean names? Does he do drugs, is he an axe murder?I'm sorry all kidding aside. If none of these things are a problem then there shouldn't be a problem .your friends should except your choice . And think about it at the end of the day your the one who has to live with your self and the choices you make . If this gentleman makes you feel happy .. than i think you should think for your self and not worry about your friends .They will come around if there true friends and except your decision.
2006-08-14 09:24:35 · answer #3 · answered by the6ccat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's because the people that you ask, might have a slight crush on the same boy. So why don't you make a move, and find out yourself? And if it doesn't work out for both of ya'll, then there's a whole lot of other boys out there for you. You can never know yourself unless you dig oput and find some clues! Hope I helped ya!
2006-08-14 09:04:03 · answer #4 · answered by Lil'S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'd find out why they are saying that.
What makes them think he isn't good enough? Is it something he does or are they superficial?
It's hard to know without knowing why they think you could do better.
However, the bottom line is, if the guy treats you good and you like him, then it shouldn't matter what anyone says about him.
2006-08-14 09:04:24 · answer #5 · answered by anabele6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl! follow ur heart first. don't ignore completely what their sayin just put it in the back of ur head for now and follow ur heart. u may prove them wrong. i've been there. the man i'm w/ now is hard working and just has a hs diploma. me im a college graduate. but after 4 yrs i can sya that things are still going strong with us .
2006-08-14 09:04:07 · answer #6 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends. If it's my close friends.I'll let it go but If it's just A friend I will argue and ask'em 4 reasons why my crush isn't good enough 4 mi.
2006-08-14 09:04:23 · answer #7 · answered by hotty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If quite a few are saying it then they can see something that you can't see and he is more than likely not good enough for you. If it is one person or two who stick together then it may be jealously.
2006-08-14 09:03:24 · answer #8 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you dating him, or are they? Worry about what you think, you are the one who deals with him day in and day out, right? Tell your freinds to take a hike. If the guy turns out to be an abuser, yes, get out! Hey good luck to ya.
2006-08-14 09:03:43 · answer #9 · answered by ndvsne1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask them why he isn't good enough for you, they could say one of two things, 1. if they are friends of yours they will say why he isn't good enough, or 2. they could just be jealous but i really, really, doubt that, ask them why like i said
2006-08-14 09:05:44 · answer #10 · answered by colombia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋