help my 6 year old is drivin me mad?

Question

i have 6 kiuds . 13 10 8 6 5 n 2 . my 6 year old has slight learnin difficulties . he is on action learning plus at school . he is immature for his age . he crys at the slightist thing he is hard work but i love him so much . any sugestions

Answer 1

I would suggest that you go along to school and have a chat with your child's teacher and stay in good communication with them so that you can work together on his educational needs. make sure that they inform you and settle for nothing less from them

It could be that he feels deprived of attention because you have a lot to deal with. Try to do more things with all your kids as a family, try to eat together and have fun together. Make sure that everybody feels included. It may be as well for you to try to spend some time with them imdividually when you can also.

Take a good look at his diet and cut out the junk and snacks. Three family meals are easier and more economical to make than handing out snacks all day long. You may find that simple diet change may bring about some improvement. It's also a good thing to have mealtime routines where all of your kids sit down together as a family.

Young children thrive on routine and if you can have a good bedtime one this will probably help you out a little too. Bathtime, brush teeth, story and sleep perhaps. If children know what's going to happen then they become more confidant in their surroundings and in themselves.

Lastly, do not try to do it all alone, you must feel incredibly stressed out. If there are friends or family who are prepared to help you then don;t be scared to take up the offer. Nobody is supermother and if you don't take care of yourself and your stress levels then your kids are not going to be happy either.

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Answer 2

Get him doing something physical to tire him out and increase his blood flow - how about a summer football school or swimming class? You've certainly got your hands full with 6 kids (I am full of admiration for your bravery!) so why not get the other kids involved too - a treasure hunt in the garden or park, a 'themed' day (pirates, space explorers etc). He sounds like he needs focus so concentrate on what he's interested in and good at. Good luck!

Answer 3

My son has ADHD and without medication and therapy he is completely nuts. Maybe there's something his doctor can do to help you figure out if there's a cause for his behavior. Have him tested for a disorder or ask your doctor to refer you to a child psychologist. You'd be surprised at how much it can help to give him a chance to really air out his frustrations and get to the root of his problems. My son began therapy at age 5. He's 10 now and almost a totally different child. Sometimes you have to get a professional involved. This can be helpful to both you and your son. Good luck from one mom to another!

Answer 4

try to spend some quality time with just him... if your hubby can help... get him to look after the other five and take turns at spending a lot of time learning what he wants to do rather than forcing a lifestyle upon him.

Hard to give an answer to that one... but I also think you need time for yourself... get out more... on your own.

Make sure you have someone to talk to that can help, not just listen, but help.

Normal kids are hard enough, but having one that is slightly difficult to manage is even harder... I feel for you.

best of luck

Answer 5

Wow six kids!!! That would drive me crazy all in its self.

Sounds like you may need a break, try getting a babysitter and do something with your other half if you have one, if not go do something with a friend.

A good night away from the home life does wonders for what you can handle at home.

Answer 6

Crys at the slightest thing?
Are you sensitive? Children are the mirrors of their parents. Do you ever feel like you want to break down?
You need to express your feelings even if you feel foolish in front of the children.
Let your emotions go and start crying about the things you are sensitive about. When he starts crying and becomes difficult, act the same way in front of him and watch what he does.

Answer 7

well you need to make him know that there are rules and you need to obey them and have dicspline there are proggrammes on television about kids behaviuour problems. there is one on tonight (i think it is the last episode) on bbc 1, 2 or channel 3 or 4. at 8 or 9. it should help!!!
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Answer 8

I realise that having 6 kids is a handful but if you could spare some time to spend some one on one time with your son using this time to read to him, use flash cards, anything educational...he'll see it as getting attention from you but it will also help him with his learning difficulties.

Answer 9

You have some problems. At 6 years don't try to teach him Adding and subtracting. If he is counting up to 10 is very much and a brilliant clever boy. If you and his teachers are pushing anything into his brain, it will result something other than you expected.

Answer 10

STAY POSITIVE! Praise wanted behaviour and be clear about what is inappropriate using simple, understandable language. There is no quick and easy answer but keeping positive and looking for the 'good' things he does will make you happier and relaxed and him see how much you love him.