This Saturday just past i had relations with a girl i don't know to well and i left a few hours later. I feel bad for leaving like that, i wasn't uncomfortable about staying with her it's just that it happened in a shared house on the futon and i only barely knew just one of the people that lived their (the girl did not) so feeling uncomfortable i left. I have been feeling bad about it and i'm not sure why, i might not have minded continuing the relationship further but as i said i felt uncomfortable there so i left and in doing so left her. Should i do anything and if not what's the best way to push it out of my mind?
2006-08-14 01:18:39 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it's weighing that strongly on your mind--you better do something !
At least give her a call and explain how you felt and how much your actions are bothering you as that was not your normal type of behavior. See how she reacts to your explaination and take it from there.You'll be glad you did the right thing in the long run.
2006-08-14 01:25:49 · answer #1 · answered by Sonia S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, what you did was wrong; although, it is understandable. What is done is done and there's no turning back, what you need to do now is what I believe is the right thing to do. Find out with the people you knew, if you are really interested, you'll try pretty hard to find that girl and if you don't continue a relationship with her, you at least owe it to her to apologize and explain the reason why you left.
Obviously you are not an a******. You have a guilty conscience, either because you are new at this or because you respect women's feelings. Then again, now a days, women are just sleeping around not caring. You are one of the very few still out there . . . Good luck !!
2006-08-14 01:25:47 · answer #2 · answered by lovely butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you want to be only an irresponsible debauchee than there is no reason why you are asking this question. But because you have some human feelings it seems that you would like to take care of that person. To have a partner means to share both good and hard moments in your life. As a man, according to the Vedic culture should be also a spiritual guide to ensure spiritual perfection to the partner. It is even said that if one cannot lead his/her subjects to spiritual perfection one should not be a father, mother, leader, a brahmana nor a king. So, there are some contradictions in this what I wrote but ultimately you have to decide what you will do and the helping guidelines to make a good decision I mentioned. You shod be able to make somebody both spiritually and materially happy.
Hare Krishna
2006-08-14 01:33:58 · answer #3 · answered by Rama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely contact her. What you said here is a great start, she what her reaction is. Or, if you have her e-mail address write to her. It's much easier than calling. It sounds like she was someone who touched you emotionally in a short period of time. I would contact her.
If you decide to not call or write, the only thing I know that will erase the memory is time.
2006-08-14 01:31:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and contact her let her know how you feel because she will be thinking that you just used her for you own fun you know whats going on in your head but she doesn't and explain the reason you left had nothing to do with her what harm can it do
2006-08-14 01:22:47 · answer #5 · answered by liberty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can u somehow get her phone number from your mutual acquaintance? u might just call her and say u had great time with her and explain why u left and ask maybe she wants to meet for coffee with u. otherwise with time this unpleasant feeling will fade anyway. time cures everything.
2006-08-14 01:23:03 · answer #6 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just another reason not to have casual sex. Spend time getting to really know a girl before you take it to that level. Then you will know her name, phone number, and email id. It should be no problem contacting her then.
2006-08-14 01:22:58 · answer #7 · answered by Ms understood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a question for you.....why did you have relations with a girl you didi not know well...havent you heard of clymidia and AIDS????are you freaking nuts???maybe you ought to call her and both go get tested for STDS together and then maybe the outcome of that would/could spark a relationship
2006-08-14 01:24:46 · answer #8 · answered by boomboom28655 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a relationship with this girl then do something about it. If it's only your guilty conscience having a pull, don't do anything, let her in peace.
2006-08-14 01:20:53 · answer #9 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like her enough to continue seeing her, try contacting her and tell her why you left. Otherwise, just try to forget about it.
2006-08-14 01:20:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋