i'm trying to tell him i don't think the relationship is working for me. then he shouts and swears and acts like a 2 year old not getting his own way. when i tell him his behaviour is childish and offensive he says it's MY FAULT for upsetting him. i really can't stand this bad temper aspect of him which comes out when things aren't going his way. is this to do with personality or upbringing or what? i have to ask him to leave when he displays this behaviour
2006-08-14 00:54:06 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is controlling behaviour. He gets mad and it's your fault? He's an adult now, not a little kid. He hasn't grown up enough to learn how to discuss things maturely. That's due to how he was raised.
Probably the best thing to do is vote with your feet. When he starts behaving like a two year old, just leave, and continue to do this whenever he repeats this. He needs an audience, you see. When he's calm, you can let him know that every time he acts like this, your respect for him gets less. Also, he's responsible for his behaviour towards you, you aren't. It makes him look weak - you have that much power over him that he returns to being a toddler? Puh-leeze. It's an excuse. He knows he can get away with it, so he does.
2006-08-14 01:09:28 · answer #1 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many women are fools - they honestly think that they can change a man. If you met another female who was loud and aggressive would you be her friend. Didnt think so. So why do so many persist with men who are abusive? Do you have a death wish? Do you think that if you figure out why he is a prick that suddenly everything will be fine? Do you think that by understanding him he will suddenly be nice to you?
Why do women confuse "I love him..." with " I need a man who will treat me like ****".
But the sex is good? Get a vibrator.
You must know this is a really dumb relationship. You must think that all relationships involve this behaviour. But deep down inside you know its not right. So look at it square in the face and come to your senses.
Tell him to leave, get a restraining order or an injunction, phone the police, get a big brother or hire someone to kick fcuk out him.
2006-08-14 08:05:28 · answer #2 · answered by Allasse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be calm and simply state that you won't continue talking to him until he calms down and stops shouting and swearing. It's impossible to talk to somebody who behaves in this way, because they are just not listening. If he refuses to leave then call the police.
If you've decided not to see this person any more, have nothing more to do with him and make sure that you make it clear that he knows that you don't want any further contact.
People who behave this way have never learned to express their feelings in any other way other than to act out. They also tend to blame anybody and everybody for this but themselves. You have made the right choice if his behaviour causes you to feel miserable, stick to you guns and be firm in your choice. It isn't your fault that he can't have an adult conversation and has to resort to throwing his toys out of the pram- so do not let him convince you that this is the case.
good luck
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2006-08-14 08:55:42 · answer #3 · answered by lady_sephie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay let things calm down, go to bed.
(This is what to do If you want rid!) Whens he's asleep get a frying pan and wack him around the head then run!
He won't know what hit him but that'al give him something to shout and swear about!
Seriously though do you want to live with a man like that for the rest of your life?
2006-08-14 08:18:01 · answer #4 · answered by Adele 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to grow the f*ck up and dump his *** - thats pathetic behaviour, hes not a child, and shouldnt act like one, or expect to get away with acting like one.
I think it probably has to do with him getting his own way all the time and when he doesnt, he reacts. Its just a joke though - theres no way you should have to put up with that.
2006-08-14 08:05:29 · answer #5 · answered by kjay 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away when he starts his temper tantrum....you don't even have to say anything. He might start to get the picture. If he doesn't, then you need to tell him that unless he can start treating you with respect then the relationship is going to end and he has no one to blame but himself. Might be the wake up call he needs....
2006-08-14 07:59:00 · answer #6 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Restraining order is the best way... get out of the relationship NOW
2006-08-14 07:58:09 · answer #7 · answered by bash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a back hander tell him to stop being a ***** and if that doesn't work leave him and get with a MAN.
2006-08-14 10:15:56 · answer #8 · answered by bishbashbosh11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
slap him over the head with a rolling pin
2006-08-14 08:05:50 · answer #9 · answered by tyrtytrytry t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST GET RID OF HIM. WHEN YOU DON'T CALL HIM OR SPEAK TO HIM FOR A WEEK HE'LL BE ALL EARS....TRUST ME.
HE NEEDS TO KNOW YOUR SERIOUS AND IT'S SOMETHING THAT NEEDS TO CHANGE.
DON'T LET HIM BACK INTO YOUR LIFE TIL HE'S PREPARED TO SIT AND LISTEN.
2006-08-14 07:58:58 · answer #10 · answered by Gypsie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋