My current g/f and I have been together for 13 yrs.i have supported her for 8 of those years,meaning i have paid all the bills.i pay for her car,food,utilities,insurance,heat,phone,cellphone,all activities,internet service.
She works, but it is only part time. and the money she makes goes towards her cigarettes and coffee and milk.she makes about 100 bucks a week
we have a 3 yr old daughter together.i have to work all day,come home and clean the house,cook dinner,bath and put my daughter to sleep.
My g/f has now come up with the notion that i should just give her money when ever she needs it. she said this is how couples with kids do things.
should i just let her sit on her butt all day watching t.v.doesn't lift a finger to clean,yells at me and our daughter and dog all the time.works part time to support her habits, shoul di just give her money now also?
P.S. i ask her to leave several times, but she won't go,besides the fact she has no where to go.
Any help
2006-08-14 00:24:38 · 8 answers · asked by sprite101 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
kick her a*s out!!! hell, i wouldnt leave either if i had a human cash machine to subsidise me!!
you are being used here, she is taking you for granted. cut off your money supply to her and just buy your daughter what she needs!
2006-08-14 00:28:59 · answer #1 · answered by Jan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm sorry to say but your girlfriend has found a good meal ticket and isn't going to budge. Due to your obvious caring and generous nature she has gotten used to living a certain "lifestyle" and like anything over time tastes become more expensive etc.. especially if she knows the finances are there to make it happen. You should give her a serious ultimatum and tell her if she doesn't pull her weight around the house she will have to leave. Its not fair on you or your daughter and you don't want your daughter to grow up thinking that this is what a normal relationship consists of. Never forget that you are a person also and you have a right to be happy. You deserve someone who can appreciate your caring and generous nature and will return some of the nice favours you have done for them.
2006-08-14 07:40:28 · answer #2 · answered by gypsywife2b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like the others, I am telling you to dump her and make her leave. Go to court and get custody of your little girl because obviously she cannot support her. Give her a choice. Get out or find a full time job. My spouse and I BOTH clean and take care of the house as we both work full time and have two kids. She is not pulling her weight and needs to contribute more. Give her the choice and if it doesn't work out, you have to put her out. Sounds like a lazy woman to me. Relationships are 50/50 and but yours sounds like 90/10. Do something now. Put your foot down and give her the choice. If she makes the wrong choice then so be it. Say bye bye.
2006-08-14 07:38:01 · answer #3 · answered by mike d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god u have a fast 1 there and she is playin u big time:-o a cant believe what a read there she is gettin treated like a princess and she should love it..a think she is a money grabber maybe not what u wanted ta hear but here no1 does...she is a shock ta be a woman!!!we all love gettin help but thats a bit much... what does she do all day!! and its gonna be harder way the kid there u need ta sit her down and get big changes made cause if u dnt u will be the door mat for years to come...good luck xx
2006-08-14 07:38:07 · answer #4 · answered by tess_20_greenock 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick her *** all the way to the kerb. It is not your problem that she has no where to go. If she made poor choices in life it's her thing. I would advice though that if you should leave her to take the little girl with you. This chick is a hanger, she does not want to do anything for herself and I think that this is a unhealthy relationship and that you should get out of it. As you deserve better than this. It won't be easy to leave her but it has to be done. If she won't leave then you should do it. Best of luck amigo
2006-08-14 07:30:10 · answer #5 · answered by Rock Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like a money grabber. id kick her out. or just take a day off work and change the locks. she should be doing somthing with her life, even if it is just staying at home to look after ur kid and clean up the house a bit. u dont sound happy so tell her to fix up or move out.
2006-08-14 07:33:55 · answer #6 · answered by its all about me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want to be with someone like that? she can't stay in your house if you don't want her there. since you support your daughter, you can and should fight for full custody. let her lazy *** go find a job and a place to stay. let her support her filthy smoking habit. maybe that will teach her that she has to work for what she wants.
2006-08-14 07:31:29 · answer #7 · answered by dragonfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a good man. She is lucky to have you. Sorry I don't have an answer of how to change her ways.
2006-08-14 07:32:57 · answer #8 · answered by phantom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋