Is it just hormones?

Question

Sometimes I feel like there's no point in living. Actually it's most of the time.

I don't get it - I didn't used to be like this, but now I just don't see any point in life and that there's nothing to look forward to.

Like, say, when I was in school, I'd think, 'Oh I can't wait till the 6 weeks holidays'. But then about 10 seconds later I'd think, 'So? All I'm going to do is just sit there and be bored'. I get a lot of mood swings, also.

I cry for no reason most days and I feel that living is a chore.
Nobody knows how I feel. I am an only child and feel lonely most of the time.

My mom says it's just hormones when she saw me crying. Do you think she's right? I hope it is, because I want this feeling to go away.

I'm sorry if people are sick of these kind of questions. :(
Like I said, I just want to know if it's hormones.

I'm 14 btw. My hobbies are reading,cooking, making stuff and watching comedies.
I have a few good friends.

It was really hard for me to choose a best answer as I truly think they are all great! I am so happy when I see all the thoughtful and considerate answers. :) Thank you all, I appreciate it immensely. I have read each answer carefully.
I have commented on the best answer. Like I said, it was SO hard for me to choose.
thanks once again.

Answer 1

Hi Strawberry. I'm so sorry you're feeling like this. I believe hormones may well play a part in this, but at the end of the day, life can be difficult & depressing, and therefore you may have life circumstances which are making you feel down. You may be someone like me, who sees or hears of news stories affecting other people, and can get depressed because of what is happening in the world. If this is then combined with hormonal development, then the sum total of this may be very difficult to handle. I hope you will feel happier soon, look forward to the future, your family must love you, and at some stage in the future no doubt you will find someone that really loves you for who you are, and this can often obliterate people's depressions.

In respect of the holidays - try to not only look forward to these, but also plan things that you are going to do during this time, and then let them happen. Unfortunately the mind in a depressed state can be less creative, and have less energy - so try listening to some uplifting music, see if that will put you in a good mood.

Try to stop thinking about ending it all, you're very young still and you probably have a bright future - it's just right now that things are tough for you, I expect.

If you believe in God, try praying to ask that this entity helps you to feel better and realise your full potential out of life. If you do not believe in God, try praying to your "inner-self" or 'requesting from the Cosmos' that tommorow will be a great day. It may also be useful to request from your subconscious that the next day you will wake up happy & have a fulfilling day - this can be done as you go to sleep.

I wish that you conquer this chapter in your life, and that you can look forward to being much happier, and truly lead a fulfilling life.

Good luck.

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Answer 2

In my view it does have something to do with hormones. It sounds like you are suffering from depression and you should speak to your gp A.S.A.P. I have suffered like yourself before and have found that talking to other people helped but not my friends but someone that I did not know as I felt I could open up to them more without being judged. You should remember that life is worth living and maybe a change in your lifestyle would make you feel more positive about things. Maybe look towards joining a local club e.g gym or a recreation that you enjoy. Everyone at some point in their life has felt like you are now so don't think that you are on your own. Remember, things may look down now but you still have you health and the rest of your life to look forward to and there will be so many days ahead of you where you will smile and think....I have never been happier. I hope this helps in some way.

Answer 3

Listen sweetheart this is more than hormones...this is depression. Depression is an illness in it's own right and little understood or tolerated in society. It should be treated like any other illness. You need to go and see your doctor and explain exactly how you feel and how long you have been feeling this way. He will put you in touch with a counseller who will be able to talk to you in great depth and help you over come your problems. I would imagine judging by how depressed you are that you will also be prescribed an anti-depressant which will lift the black cloud you seem to be under. Seriously if you take the medication and accept help you will feel and whole lot better and be able to make clear judgements on your life. Please take care and get the help you need xx

Answer 4

I think it is more than hormones babe, i recognise these symptoms and it does sound like depression/anxiety. It seems that you have lost interest and have no optimism. I find what helps is keep a simple diary and mark down 'good day' 'ok day' and 'bad day'. try this for a few weeks and if you have mostly 'bad days' see your G.P. If you get help it will change your life considerably for the better. Also if you are a teenager it does make depression worse because it adds a lot of mood swings. Hope you get through this as i know it's not very nice.

Answer 5

This actually sounds like clinical depression. The outlook of hopelessness, the feelings of uselessness and futility are characteristic. So is the lack of motivation. If it were just occasionally, then I would blame it on hormones, but it's not just occasionally. If it's most of the time, then you need to seek help. It may be a neurotransmitter imbalance that can be corrected with medication, or it may be just depression that's without an identifiable cause, which is more difficult to treat, but still worth trying. There is no cure, but there is room for improvement and life being easier. Good luck and God bless. :)

Answer 6

Your mum is right! Its only hormones - I assume you are an older teenager, and this is the worst time while your body is very quickly turning you into an adult. Remember its not just the reproductive bits that are affected with hormones - your brain is too. Oestrogen and progesterone affect brain tissue in women giving us our "female brain" that is more emotional and intuitive than the testosterone fuelled logical hunter brain of man! All these hormones streaming through your body and concentrating in your brain is bound to be upsetting!
Dont listen to those who tell you that you are probably depressed and need medication. Not a bit! Its puberty and it can go on till early 20s.
Yes at times you will feel the blues and feel like all you can do is cry. At these times cry on your mums shoulder - thats her job! Other times you will feel really angry - thats ok so go and knock the living hell out of a pillow! And the rest of the time you'll swing between being yourself and feeling empty and flat.
Its just your age, and it will pass. But being female means that everything is just your age lol! In your 30s, you'll probably have kids and a nervous breakdown - its just your age! In your 40s and 50s you'll get hot flushes and your periods stop - its just your age. In your 70s your bones will crumble - its just your age!
You'll be ok and i bet most of your friends are going thru the same thing!

Answer 7

It does sound like it is your hormones. How old are u? Have you been under a lot of stress? Sometimes stress can cause these symptoms. Tell your doctor if this has been going on for a while. You might need some medication because it could be depression. But that is up to the doctor to decide. Hope this helps.

Answer 8

hi strawberry..you know honestly it depends on how old you are. it could be very possible that it is hormones...but honestly you may check with a doctor cause you may have clinical depression---and thats not bad...its just something you cant help. i used to ask myself these questions ALL the time, finally someone talked me into talking to a doctor who advised i had clinical depression and i was put on medication..ive been on medication for it for 3 years now and im okay now! it was hard at first because i didnt want to think that i NEEDED meds to be okay...but sometimes there is nothing you can do about. well strawberry, hope everything goes well. if anything try some st johns wort...its a natural herb that helps hormones and mood swings! good luck!!

Answer 9

It could be hormones but I wouldn't think all the time. have you tried focusing on other things. Finding a purpose, even a small daily purpose, helping someone else in some small way. Remember we are all here for a purpose.Sometime we touch other peoples lives not even knowing. So try to find the joy in every situation,don't let saddness get the best of you, it's easy to keep thinking that way.The smallest thing you could do, even a smile or holding a door, could brighten somone else's day. We all have sad times, but have a cry then move on don't stay in that frame of mind. JLY

Answer 10

First of all, how old areyou? Secondly, doesyour mum and dad cuddle you enough? You are an only child and itseems to me you feel alone. You need to feel loved. Have you tried speaking to someone outside the family. Right, this may seem like the hardest thing to do, but I would go and see a doctor who can confirm that IT IS hormones. You will feel much better. Trustme, I am 29 years old and I still go through periods such as this and I am completely happy, married with two beautiful daughters. Somedays I lie in bed pretending that I'm dying and everyone I love is crying and upset. The nextday I am full of life. It is hormones, but also it is attention seeking. You may not feel like you are seeking attention, but you are. Hey, it's okay. We all do! It's human nature!

What you need to do is find a hobby. I am not being patronising but it seems like you have too much time thinking and being deep. Even if you think I am talking rubbish, I dare you to try this for one week and seehowyou feel at the end of the week.

Sunday - Get in touch with old friend! via email, letter or phone! Even better..turn up at their door! Eat what you like that day and sing! Even if someone is listening sing!

Monday - Answer someone else question on here. Make yourself feel important asif they are asking you for advice in particular. Eat only healthy stuff. One meal at breakfast, oneatlunch, one at evening. Go for a walk. Take the dog! Go with mum!

Tuesday - Read a book, a romance book! And eat crisps! or peanuts. something savoury, whilst your reading. Eat your three healthy meals also of course!

Wednesday - Chocolate day! Save it for today! But go swimming first! Even better, go swimming with mum!

Thursday- Chill out. Music day. listen to some favourite music and phone a friend.

Friday - Go out! Pub! Club! See your mates! Stay up late!

Sat- go clothes shopping. Have a sunbed session! Get your hair done! And make a plan for next week!

Letme know howit went!