2006-08-12 15:50:16 · 16 answers · asked by shamira 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
see we were actually brokrn up but still talking but not seeing each other but he considered it as cheating because he said i knew who i wanted to be with do u think its cheating
2006-08-14 17:51:33 · update #1
Persistence. That's the best you can do really. I'm not sure what brought it back up again, but there's not much else you can do. Ideally he'd be over it by now if he made the mistake of staying with you after you did it the first time, but if he's not, all you can do is keep trying to assure him that you're not cheating right now.
2006-08-12 15:52:45 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know, my first reaction was to just reply with a witty remark and let you suffer thinking you deserve it. I"ve been cheated on, I know how your boyfriend feels. But the more I thought about, I put yourself in my shoes. I don't know your circumstances, what led to the cheating, etc. So I am going to give you the benefit of the doubt and consider this as being something you did in the past and have learned from. With that being said, there really is nothing you can do to prove to your boyfriend that you aren't cheating now. The more you insist you aren't cheating, the more he thinks you are. You just have to be an open book to him for however long it takes. If he calls, you had better answer, if you say you are going to be somewhere, be there. If there are a change of plans, let him be the first to know. I hate to say this, but in all honesty you were the one who screwed up and broke the trust. Trust isn't something you just give someone, they earn it, and you, my dear, are in for a long haul. This could take weeks, months or even years for him. If you really love him, are seriously committed to him, you are going to have to do everything short of standing on your head and accept it with a smile no matter how frustrating it is. Only time can heal this kind of wound and when he's ready to believe you, he will...just give him a chance.
2006-08-12 15:59:08 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but once you have cheated I am not sure there is anything that can be done or said to make him believe or understand that you are not still doing that. It is a trust issue and once that trust has been broken it is almost impossible to get it back. If he loves you enough then he will work on making things work. But that is very hard and takes a lot of time. Wish I had a good solution.
2006-08-12 15:53:31 · answer #3 · answered by Jim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't disprove a negative. He'll either forgive you and learn to trust you or he won't. Has the cause of the cheating been addressed: neglect, low self esteem, whatever? What have you done to assure him that it was a one-time thing?
Good Luck.
2006-08-12 15:54:42 · answer #4 · answered by badslaw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. He may tell you he trusts you but he never will. You've already lost his trust and nothing you do will get his trust back.
Then again, if he took you back you should be able to get away with anything. Apparently he doesn't have enough self confidence to realize that it would be better for both of you to not stay together. You've already hurt him in the worse way possible. He's with you not because of love, but because he doesn't want to admit you're NOT the right one so he feels its better for him to settle for you.
2006-08-12 15:54:36 · answer #5 · answered by JediGuitarist 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're top...it relatively is a no-brainer. He has cheated on you two times with a similar MARRIED woman and have been given her PREGNANT. it relatively is obtrusive that he's a participant. I mean he has a toddler and yet another one on the way. i'm uncertain why you have the want to forgive him. yet, you incredibly could flow on and wreck off the engagement.
2016-11-04 11:27:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't! Just be patient and never cry wolff again!!! Time will tell if you still have that bad "cheating" habit until the next guy shows up!!
2006-08-12 15:54:51 · answer #7 · answered by Antoine a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way once a cheat always a cheat in one way or another.He should dump you and move on to someone he can really trust.
2006-08-12 15:54:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't. in every relationship since the begining of time, their has to be trust. i know people who live a life of sorror saying they forgave their partner for cheating; you can forgive but never forget.
2006-08-12 16:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by charles j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay by him and spend alot of time with him and soon his time will pass wher he dies of "natural death"then you can go cheat on him again.....lol im sorry but seriously i would just tell him that if he doesnt trust u enough then maybe u 2 shouldnt be togther
2006-08-12 15:53:46 · answer #10 · answered by Chuck Norris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋