i regret dumping him.?

Question

i dumped my bf because he was flirting with another girl too much and he was touching me in ways i didn't like. now i regret dumping him because i still like him. i didn't like the way he touched me but he was so nice caring and romantic. was it wrong 2 dump him and how can i get him back?????

k well, i'm sorta over him so i have a new crush!!!! thanx u guys 4 helpin me. ♥

Answer 1

You were not wrong to dump him. If someone is touching you in ways that you don't like (yes, even your bf), you have the right to say no and ever break off your relationship if necessary! If he wants to get back with you, he will have to stop flirting with other girls and stop touching you so much. He sounds like he is just horny and doesn't care who it is that gives him satisfaction right now. If you want him back, you should try to talk to him and tell him what YOU need from him, if he can't handle that, or doesn't want to try, then move on!

Answer 2

What you're feeling is normal.

I think your relationship was in a lot more trouble than you realize. If he's flirting with other girls and touching you when you say, "no", then this dude doesn't respect you. I don't care if he was nice at other times, it sounds like he's really more into sex than relationships. It also seems obvious that he's not rushing to get you back so the message there is... If you want him back it has to be on his terms... (Danger, danger, danger.. don't do it.)

To explain how you feel consider this: when you're in love your brain is flooded with neurotransmitters. There's a chemical called oxytocin, (the chemical of love) and this chemical is essential in establishing and maintaining loving relationships. Its the glue. Well, you've got it.. and its doing what its supposed to be doing.. But he doesn't have it.. Is there any hope for you? Yes, in due time the oxytocin will wear out, and you'll be free. Believe or not, in a while you'll be feeling some anger at this dude and you'll be thinking how stupid you were about him.

http://www.oxytocin.org/oxytoc/index.html

Answer 3

I think you did the right thing by dumping him. If your guy was actually a caring person and cared about you, he wouldn't have done ANYTHING to make you uncomfortable in any way-physical or emotional. Any guy that would go behind your back and flirt with another girl is no guy you need to waste time and energy over. You need to start getting over this guy right now, if he means a lot to you, try and be JUST friends with him. Move on and when you start thinking about dating again find a guy that treats you like you want to be treated. A guy that does that is quite a catch. Good Luck

Answer 4

Stand behind your decision and don't ever regret anything that you do or have done. Apparently this guy has no respect for you in anyway, shape, form, or fashion. Dumping him was the best decision and i guaranteed you if you give him some alone "without" you, you will definitely teach him a lesson. Ignore him; that's how you will get him back. Question is......do you want to be with someone like that.

Answer 5

No you weren't wrong to dump him, you would be wrong to take him back. Read your question again, in my book a nice, caring, romantic guy does NOT flirt with another girl OR touch me in ways I don't like! I think you need to reconsider how you define nice, caring and romantic. He wanted what he wanted and his flirting with another girl proved that he didn't particularly care where he got it from, also the fact that he continued to touch you in ways you didn't like after you let him know you didn't like it proves that he certainly doesn't care about you or your feelings, just that he wanted to push you to see how far you would go. You did the right thing, wait until you meet someone whose actions and not just words reflect that he is nice, caring and romantic. If you go back to him now you are just saying hey its really ok with me if you flirt with other girls, i'll stick around anyway, its also ok with me if you keep trying to push me to do things I don't want to do. You teach people how to treat you, don't forget that. This is a valuable lesson in relationships for you, you did great, you stuck up for yourself and you can't ever quit doing that! Don't worry it will get better and you will get over it, I guarantee it, until then keep yourself busy, distract your mind with other things.

Answer 6

hi Penny, i like your questions by utilising the way - they actually make me think of! lol yet sure, I surely have regretted dumping somebody in my previous and this became completely via certainty that I had made a foul judgement call - i heard some issues approximately this man or woman and that i had over reacted extremely of attempting to communicate with him and checking out the foremost factors and ask your self of assumed he became a dirt bag (which he wasnt) i presumed individuals over him, and that led me to break up with him or perhaps once I found out the certainty and cleared each and every situation up, i had too lots satisfaction to ask for him back .......... yet that became the remorseful approximately section. a lotta people wreck up with the ppl they care approximately for a lotta motives however the sole time they're going to ever remorseful approximately it is that if this man or woman contributed severely to their existence and made an attempt that no person else can... yet on the different hand, theres a lott of folk interior the worldwide who dont take exhilaration in stuff like that and dont have that to blame unsleeping that makes them think of: oh possibly if i hadnt accomplished that or possibly if i had accomplished this extremely .... so as that they proceed residing their existence as though no longer something is regretful.... gluck

Answer 7

If he made you uncomfortable, don't regret it.
He may have been sweet at some times, but those things that bugged you, eventually would've outweighed the good, especially if you dumped him a first time.
He's an ex for a reason. Walk away and don't look back. There will be plenty more who will respect you and treat you right.

Answer 8

Girl do not regret it he was taking advantage of u.. There are plenty of hot guys out there that are not going to treat u like that.. Dont get sidetracked cause he is cute. It is not worth it look for another guy...I am serious. I have went through the same thing and got takin advantage of at a young age. Forsed to do someething I didnt want to trust me leave him alone he is a dog..

Answer 9

I think you better tell the truth of how you feel and that way he touch you badly. You boyfriend cannot play the guessing game. That the reason your boyfriend feel incomfortable toward you that he probably flirt with other girl.
Go tell the truth and would probably understand your situation. The same for him why he flirt with other girl.

Answer 10

Well if you didnt like the way he was touching you did you tell him that? Guys are not mind readers, but its your body and no one has the right to touch you or do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.

If you broke up with him because he made you feel uneasy that it was your best choice. Your body knowes you best, and you have the right to be treated in a respectiful way.