a friend of mine got an std from having unprotected sex and is taking treatment for it...it should be gone in about a week or two, the person is planning to hook up with someone i know later this month and yes the main reason for meeting is sex between the two of them...i'm not one for throwing salt in a person's game but should i atleast warn the person or just say nothing, mind my own business and hope that they both discuss it and use protection...i'm feeling kind of guilty for not telling but i'm like its not really any of my business because i'm going behind my friends back, but if the person happens to catch the std because my friend isnt truthful to them then i feel really bad, was wondering what other people would do?
2006-08-08 03:01:14 · 11 answers · asked by d w 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
the disease in question is syphillis....also should the person have to tell every person they have sexual contact with that they had contracted an std in the past...
2006-08-08 03:32:47 · update #1
I think you should stay out of it and just hope that the parties involved are mature enough to use proper protection to avoid not only STDs, but an unwanted pregnancy as well.
2006-08-08 03:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by Brendy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that depends on the STD. For instance if it's gonorhea(sp?) and he is getting treatment, it should be gone AND it's treatable, not too serious anymore. But the main thing is that it should be gone by then. But if it's something like HIV or Herpes Then you need to tell that other person or at least warn your friend you will, if he doesn't. Now were talking about life threatening/changing diseases. Much worse than catching cold you know. If your worried about your conscence then talk to your friend first so that you know you at least tried to help/intervene. But here we're talking about life and limb not just sickness. I hope this helps. If he was your friend he wouldn't put you in this situation. He may have told you because he wants you to intervene
2006-08-08 10:16:04 · answer #2 · answered by flashpro 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is taking the medicine for it now, I'm sure it will be gone by the end of the month. If he doesn't have the STD anymore I don't think he has any moral obligation to tell the girl. I would hope that since he caught somethiing like this from unprotected sex that he has now learned to use condoms.
2006-08-08 19:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me inform you,that if i were the treating physician,i wud inform the other party of this fact.
but your reservations r valid as well.the best way wud be to find out what the STD actually is,coz such a short treatment period is unusual.
in the meantime,u could e-mail or call the other person from a public telephone and inform her of the disease.it wud be the right thing to do.your identity wud remain a secret as well.
2006-08-08 10:19:02 · answer #4 · answered by vertigo_system 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell that person that their health is in danger. It is criminal what your friend has in mind. Wouldn't you want someone to tell you?????????? Do the right thing man....don't be an accomplice to the despicable thing this guy is about to do!
And yes, it is morally expected that all previous partners should be notified byt the guy in question, so they can take the appropriate steps to look after themselves. Geez, sometimes I wonder where society's headed, don't you?
2006-08-10 17:03:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
watch the movie "men of honor" robert deniro says remember a one night stand is for the night but syphillis lasts a lifetime. it is not goin to go away. so yes i would pour salt in the wound it was his decision to have unprotected sex to get the STD now he has to live with it. it is mean i know but think of those of us who dont have **** if he sleeps with her and she is clean then she sleeps with a guy who travels alot and the he sleeps with someone who also travels.....see where i am going with this
2006-08-08 19:49:56 · answer #6 · answered by grifhp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are an incredible person for even wanting to help. i absolutely would do the EXACT same thing. i major in human sexuality and to know everything that is out there that can hurt or potentially kill you, it's a very scary thing. it is noble of you to do so and i encourage it. wouldn't you want someone to tell you if you were about to have sex with someone dirty?
2006-08-08 10:17:13 · answer #7 · answered by MARIA G. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
I wouldn't interfere, but if it's hiv/aids i would recommend my friend to either tell them or be extra careful as in wear protections and take all the necessary steps to make sure the other person dosen't catch it.
Take care
2006-08-08 10:08:18 · answer #8 · answered by kida_w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, are you going to be able to tell EVERYBODY he/she has contact with for the rest of your lives? The other party would be stupid anyway to have unprotected sex. What is up with people now a days.
2006-08-08 10:07:19 · answer #9 · answered by shizzlechit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend would be outright dumb to have sex without protection a second time after his experience. you should'nt interfere. after all you cant go on warning every person he hooks up with.
2006-08-08 10:21:14 · answer #10 · answered by abella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋