i was just wondering how u girls percieve cheating.....if u or your girl\guy cheats in relationship whose fault is it ?is blame solely on the one doing the cheating or are both to be blamed?
2006-08-06 23:44:35 · 19 answers · asked by sunny 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Depends... sometimes the person being cheated on has done nothing wrong. Other times, they may have contributed to "pushing" the other person towards doing it.
Notice, however, that I said pushing "towards" not pushing "into". Ultimately, the full blame lies on the cheater, as they are the only person who has the final say as to whether or not they cheat. Their decision, their consequences.
So to answer your question, ultimately, the fault is with the cheater. Solely.
2006-08-06 23:49:36 · answer #1 · answered by Physh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The cheater is the one at fault. No matter what... Most people cheat because something is missing in their relationship. If something is missing then something should be said to the non cheater as to what is missing and they should communicate to their significant other. Otherwise everyone assumes everything is okay.. If they'd rather cheat than talk, they are cowards and being selfish. Avoiding everyones feelings except their own.
It's human nature to want others outside of your relationship, but is it worth loosing the person you're with in the first place for the feeling of new love? I asked myself that question everytime I'm in a situation where it could've happen, but I'm still not a cheater.
2006-08-07 00:19:28 · answer #2 · answered by mike! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the situation. For example if the other person wasn't giving out any more and the partner went off to have a sexual affair that is the other partner's fault for not seeing to their lover's needs. Now if its an emotional affair I say both are to blame because it takes a joint effort to keep the feelings and spark alive in a relationship. If they both give up on it then they both cheated themselves. And lastly if someone is getting both the sex they need and emotional support they need and they still cheat I totally say it is on the cheater because either they weren't mature enough for the relationship or they plainly don't care enough about their partner at all and are still thinking in the single mindset.
2006-08-06 23:51:52 · answer #3 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that I would put the greater blame on the one cheating. If I were in a relationship that did not work, I would honestly tell my partner that we'd better call the relationship off, I would rather separate ways with him before I indulge myself in another relationship. That way, I would not be cheating on my partner. Between two persons in love before who later find themselves to be drifting apart, cheating is not the solution. It is laying the cards on the table. The partners should have a heart to heart talk regarding the relationship and discuss if there's something to be done to save the relationship. If there is none, both should be matured enough to face the truth and decide that their separation is the best remedy to give each other a fair chance to find the person whom he deserves better.
Sometimes, though, people cheat on their partners for vengeance's sake or just merely because they like it without thinking about its negative consequences. But if someone is to cheat just because his partner has many characteristics that he doesn't like or cannot take, it is not fair with the partner. There is all the time in the world for him to tell his partner what he doesn'tt like in her with the hope that she would change for the better. In that way, she will be able to defend herself or change because she may realize that she really needs to change.
But I honestly believe that a person should never ever judge any person who cheats on his or her partner or every individual for whatever things he does any time.. Live and let live. Always remember that every person has the right to do what he wants to do with his life whether right or wrong for he and he alone is the one responsible for his actions. And God alone has the right to judge him.
2006-08-07 00:13:36 · answer #4 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The blame is completely on the cheater. If the relationship is bad enough that you cheat, then just get out of it. I do not believe in cheating and will break off whatever relationship needs to be broken before moving on.
2006-08-06 23:52:09 · answer #5 · answered by Lynda C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The primary fault is with the one who cheated but a little blame is also on the cheated person in falling in to the trap!!!!
2006-08-06 23:48:27 · answer #6 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look friend someone cheat you this is clear but why he cheated,you do not ever think about it.
So don't be childish after you get betrayed by someone and i will advise you that do not take any step against the person.You don't know the reason why she cheated you whether your love for was of one side only or she do not love you. I would like to say you that love may be the hiatory for a boy but it is a part of life for a woman
2006-08-06 23:55:20 · answer #7 · answered by kellen_de 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its the person that does the cheating. it is their choice whether to cheat or not, nobody elses. these things DONT just happen. if your relationship isnt making you happy and you start to look elsewhere then maybe you should just end things with your partner or talk it through and try and fix things.
2006-08-06 23:49:38 · answer #8 · answered by chameleonsoup 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, assuming there REALLY is a connection, and there really IS a relationship... a Man and a Woman too... SELDOM STRAY if their needs are being taken care of.
So, in my opinion... it's always at least the fault of the couple... and sometimes a third party... who presents the opportunity to "seal the deal".
2006-08-06 23:49:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fault lies with the cheater. You cannot blame your actions on someone else.
2006-08-06 23:50:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋