Does he or doesnt he?

Question

I met a guy on holiday, there was a group of us. He was with his long term girlfriend but we got on and hung out everyday because we were the same level skiers. After coming back we stayed in touch via email for a year in which we spoke everyday and then exchanged numbers and started talking on the phone. I told him May that i had feelings for him. We finally met up 2 weeks ago and stupidly i slept with him. He has in the past made out he does feel something but now hes telling me that he sees me as a friend and in the past just said that he had feelings because he didnt want to hurt my feelings. He has said that if he wasnt in a relationship he would be interested. Hes messing with my head and i dont know where i stand! I want to just blank him out but find it too hard but then find it hard talking to him and being his friend. I know he has a girlfriend and its wrong - he says he doesnt want to hurt his girlfriend and hes never cheated on her before. Please dont judge!

Its so difficult to not talk to him. I think im going to ignore him all week and then straight away i email him or something. How can i stop doing this?

Answer 1

it sounds like he likes you but just doesnt want 2 jeopardize his relationship with his girlfriend. i think u should stop talkin 2 him and then if him and his girlfriend do split up then he wil have 2 do da running. if he does like you then you not speakin 2 him wil drive him crazy so go and play hard 2 get with him!!!!

Answer 2

This guy is NOT worth it. He is just messing with your head because he knows you like him. Sleeping with you when he had a girlfriend? Do you really want a boyfriend like that?

I think you need to accept that this guy is BAD news, and he'll just keep messing with your head. I had the same thing with a guy who told me he liked me but he didnt and all this sh*t. After a while I just dropped all contact with him because I was so fed up with him. And it worked :)

You need to drop contact with this guy, at least for a bit. Otherwise he will just keep worming his way back in. Tell him you're going on holiday for 2 weeks or something so he doesnt know you're home. Be strong!!! If you think that you can't hold it, tell a friend who will make sure you dont do anything. Otherwise, delete his number and email. You CAN do it, honest.

This guy is a PRAT, and he doesnt deserve you.

You deserve someone who doesnt play you and doesnt mess up your head. There ARE good guys out there, you just have to find em!!! :)

Good luck, and Ive got my fingers crossed for you Xxjes

Answer 3

First of all, this guy is a jerk. I know U have feelings for him, but accept this; because he took advantage of you, of your feelings. As yous said, he is messing with your head. It is almost impossible to forget him straight away but try avoiding e-mails, text messages and What you had was a one-night stand and now you should get on with your life...I hope he will have a miserable life. I am sure you will forget him if you just try and maybe you find some new boyfriend who will care about you a LOT. good luck, take care!

Answer 4

Well think about it. You like him. Obviously. But shouldn't the guy you like, treat you well? And this guy is messing you around. It seems as if he's almost using you, but i know how you feel because he was acting like he liked you at one point.
Don't be afraid to just go for it and try to ignor him. If you stray back, use the willpower not too.
Maybe you should tell him that you feel he is just messing you around. Why did he lie and tell you he liked you if he didn't? Why did he sleep with you? And why does he say that he would like you if he was single? Tell him he is being selfish and that he can't have both you and his girlfriend. Tell him you find it hard being friends because you like him, but that you've realised he is selfish.
He isn't worth it. You're worth alot more than that!
Good luck! x

Answer 5

I'm not judging you, I'm judging him!

He took what was offered at a convenient time, and is using the "friend" line to justify what he's done.

He's a skiprat! Forget about him and move on. Hard lesson for you to have to learn, but some men are like this. Next time, find a more honourable one.

Be happy sweetie, there are some good ones left out there, you just need to find one!

Answer 6

i think the guy just used you, and he certainly doesn't want his girlfriend to find out. If he had any care for you he would finish with his missis, and do the right thing. he has definitely done this kind of thing before, because if he was serious about relationships he wouldn't of strayed!. don't waste your time with him, your worth more than that. i think you should cut any contact and try to put your love life back on track, and get someone who mutually fancy each other, that's the real thing!, don't settle for second best.

Answer 7

He's clearly stepped over the mark by sleeping with you when he knew you had feelings for him. Try to focus your attention and energy on someone/something else - it does work! It's hard at first but I think you need to move on. Would you want to start a relationship with someone who has cheated on his girlfriend with you? Would you really be able to trust him?

Answer 8

sounds like you either are going to be F**k buddies or you need to distance yourself. I once read an article that told me how to fall out of love (we fall in love all the time). When youcatch yourself daydreaming about him abruptly change your mind to another subject. Take a lover and lose a friend, sorry keed, life happens. Enjoy the experience for what it was and move on. hugs

Answer 9

I definately agree with Back_again_h.... cos like she said, there are some good left overs still to be found so dont the faith keeping on searching cos you'll never know when you'll be lucky.

Answer 10

Seriously, build a bridge and get over it.