Hi, I've got a colleage who upset me last week. Some of us had some dumplings at the office as snacks. Afterwards I did both dishes, one was very larger and the other one was smaller. I didn't mind doing it. When I finished the cleaning, I asked a colleague to take them back to the office. She turned my request down saying she got her hands full when in fact she only had a small knife. I pointed to my own stuff and said I got a lot of stuff to carry. She said that I should just take one more trip to get my stuff. When she walked out of the bathroom, I glanced at her EMPTY hands and said, "Why, don't you have nothing in your hands?" She knew I was upset and we never exchanged a word ever since then. The thing is I've helped her out MORE than once, and I didn't expect her to turn my request down with such a LOUSY excuse. I wonder why she behaved in such a rude manner; especially after I'd helped her out!!! People, please tell me what you think of this woman and her manners? Thanks.
2006-08-06 22:11:53 · 14 answers · asked by CRT 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
please do not worry about her as u have been her friend. do u know what is friendship? forgive and compromise should be there in friendship always, therefore if she is not like that as a good fiend u try to be like that. for give her once more, not all the people are same and also we should not expect all to be the same.
at the same time we should keep our mind to face all problems. i can understand u r problem anyway for get that incident and try to be happy with her, may be she will realise her fault one day.
2006-08-06 22:24:43 · answer #1 · answered by m.shahila m 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So, you are upset because you asked for a favour and didn't receive one? And then you snapped at her for it, in very poor English?
Sure, she should have helped you. But that she didn't help you finish a task that *you* took on is no reason to be creating such drama.
Move on, take some anger management classes, and let it go. Just know that you can't rely on her for help.
You have to try and be civil with her because you are in the same office. If you let this progress, you could be blamed, even if it's not your fault, and you don't want that. Just avoid her, don't gossip about her, and don't make for an uncomfortable work environment. Move On.
2006-08-07 21:11:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she felt you were ordering her. Maybe she was in a bad mood that day.
At least now you know. She is not a team player, she just likes to be helped out when she has a problem. You meet people like that in life. Just try not to involve your self with her. Be civil.
Move on. Don't carry this incident with you for a long time or you will become a jerk. Don't become bitter. Surround your self with good people.
2006-08-07 08:14:00 · answer #3 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry for you to have expected some one to return you a favour. if you had done some one some thing to help her out of a situation, you ought not to carry a feeling that you have done a help to her. when she refused to come to help, the thought of ungratefulness on her part ought not to have even crossed your mind. if she had not reciprocated to your request to help you, you should have accepted the situation calmly. As far as possible, we should avoid seeking other's help, when it concerns ourselves. Only for a public cause, you must solicit others'help. One should not be too sensitive to be offended by the negative responsive of others. Take it easy. As a matter of fact, that person, might even be carrying a sense of guilt.
2006-08-07 05:25:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm....
Now that you know what she's like....don't pay her anymore attention. If you must help her, then help her only with total civility only (no pleasantries). If she asks why, just ignore her.
If she pushes the issue, speak your mind and leave it that. If she wants the last word, let her have it.
Peace.
2006-08-07 05:17:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rude, inconsiderate, self-centered. Every office has one. Ignore her and keep being the nice person you are.
2006-08-07 05:17:03 · answer #6 · answered by PariahMaterial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, you are to blame.. I think, you are a crybaby and used to be 'down to earth', so people will take advantage of you. Don't forget, most of them are selfish & rude.
2006-08-07 05:19:38 · answer #7 · answered by saumitra s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn Lazy and Plain Inconsiderate. Not much else to be said for her.
2006-08-07 05:15:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you washing dishes in the bathroom?
2006-08-07 13:59:04 · answer #9 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say friendship is the only war wherein you are close to the enemy.
2006-08-07 05:16:21 · answer #10 · answered by ♫tweet75♫ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋