You see. I don't care about her new life, but I have a debt to pay to her. I owe her kindness, and she won't even let me try. I have mixed feelings about dating her again, but I know that she doesn't want to date me right now, so I am really more concerned about being a friend. But how can I, when she isn't willing to let me. I explained this to her in a letter, that I don't care if we date again or not, all I want to do is make restitution of some kind.
2006-08-06 21:31:25 · 14 answers · asked by The Lonely Skywolf 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I went through exactly the same thing. I found out that the best thing was to let her know (in my case him) is what you're feeling. Which you already did. After you have that done just wait. Then if by a certain time she still hasn't answered or come back to you then forget it. She's trying to make a point.
2006-08-06 21:41:10 · answer #1 · answered by Athena 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you really wanna be a friend, why don't you respect her wishes and leave her alone? that's what a true KIND friend would do, if they cared enough about the other person.
you can't force someone to take something that they simply don't want. you lost your chance, you have to keep the debt. life goes on. maybe you could repay this debt to the next person who comes into your life, don't be a prick to her!!
2006-08-07 04:36:26 · answer #2 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your ex is not willing to communicate with you, let her go. I think she will feel better by having a clean break with you. Since she had chosen this option, respect her decision.
2006-08-07 08:57:34 · answer #3 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly want to be her friend, then why force the issue. Back off! In time, when things have settled and your approach is warm, friendly and with class, she may slowly accept you as a friend.
2006-08-07 04:40:31 · answer #4 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive said this many times in the last two months. im going through a divorce, and in the beginning i had the same problem. trying to talk with her but she has moved on. don't waste your time. take that kindness you want to give her, and find someone who wants it and will appreciate it.
2006-08-07 04:37:36 · answer #5 · answered by redeye069 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) don't push it. If she says no, then back off. give her time.
2) you seem to be in a hurry to rest your conscience. You're "re-paying" her so that you can feel better. Kindness can be offered over a lifetime, so if she's not ready for it, wait.
2006-08-07 05:20:52 · answer #6 · answered by Parkster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't communicate with your ex. She doesn't seem interested and if you try to force it, it's not restitution, it's stalking.
2006-08-07 04:36:12 · answer #7 · answered by mytreacheryiseternal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she isn't willing to talk to you then just forget it. Obviously, she doesn't think you have a debt to repay.
2006-08-07 04:34:44 · answer #8 · answered by I love my husband 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send it to her in the mail and then respect the fact that she doesn't want to talk to you anymore. if you at least show her that you are respecting her feelings, someday down the road, she will remember that and possibly allow you back into her life.
2006-08-07 04:40:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would be best if you just forget about her. if she doesn't want anything to do with you then she won't
2006-08-07 04:36:07 · answer #10 · answered by SKYE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋