A thirteen year old starts her peroid and her older siblings make fun of her. She finds rags, napkins, and even uses toilet paper for pads and hides them anywhere she can. She has been doing this for three years. How do you get her pride back?
2006-08-06 21:27:44 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Very sorry situation but you have to find a way.What you do is show who is in charge of the house.Call all your siblings and reprimand those children who are older not to make fun of the basic facts of life like menses. Remind the elder siblings that they had also gone through the same situation as the younger one is going in prescence of younger teen who has been harrassed and not to repeat the dame again and the younger one is their sister and the elder siblings are expected to take care of their younger one and not harass her .dismiss the elder ones afterr reprimanding them and expecting better behaviour from them in future.Hold the younger one and say soorry to her by embracing her that you were not that caring when you should have known better than that and that you got lost in your busy life how important were your children. Explain to the younger sister the facts of menstrual cycle and that she neednot feel mguilt or be ashamed of that and that she is not responsible for what she is going through.Assure her you will be there mto help her in any situation and ask herto ask for anything she will have your ears and heart to lean on and can always come to you with whatever difficulties she has. Also tell her to forgive her elder siblings for the mischeof they have played on her being her elder sisters or brothers for they are children too who dont know what they were doing .Last but not the least you be a better mother than you were before now otherwise such a situation wouldnot have arisen .One has to be very vigilant as far as relationship is concerned every small matter counts every small gesture is significant and life would be more happier for every concerned in the family.HOPE YOU COME CLEAN in your situation and hope you look after your children well .Good luck Adeus.
2006-08-06 21:56:10 · answer #1 · answered by sumant b 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my question would be, where are the girls parents? I would think that the parents would step in. If the girl is being raised by only a father maybe try talking to a Aunt or a Female Neighbor.
Having your period is a normal thing, it is part of mother nature. And I have a question.....isn't there anyone who can buy her pads?
First of all she needs to understand that there is nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed of.
All I can say is find someone outside of the home. I know that when the girl goes back to school, she can talk with her health teacher or the school nurse and they should be able to help. Good Luck!
2006-08-07 04:40:22 · answer #2 · answered by cyberghost26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her some counseling if you can. She was made fun of by people she trusted and it sounds as though nothing was done to defend her against it. Now she feels as though there is something shameful about it. Here: contact the people here at NAMI's Adolescent and Child specialists. They can help you get together with someone in your area:
http://www.nami.org/template.cfm?section=Child_and_Adolescent_Action_Center
In the meantime, make sure she has plenty of sanitary pads, baggies to wrap them in, and give her a special trash can with a lid (JUST FOR HER) that she can keep in her closet for privacy, and plastic bags to put inside it. Then she will have a private place to put them and she needs to be told that she is responsible for keeping them picked up and disposed of when the can is full. And for heaven's sake tell her in private! Do not discuss it with her in front of those horrid siblings! She has been damaged enough already.
2006-08-07 04:37:36 · answer #3 · answered by leathersammie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds inexperienced.
Perhaps it's best to sit them down, and talk to her about how she needs to use pad's instead.
If she were to have a leak.. it could be alot more worse on her.
$hit happens.. every girl with a period goes through it.. it's normal to feel out of place at first, cause it's an adjustment.
I found it hard myself to deal with at times, but after awhile, you kinda get to know the tricks of the trade, and she'll be able to handle the situation alot better.. but someone needs to give her advice. Obviously, a 13 year old girl is going to feel embarrassed, but eventually she'll get over it.. having a period is no different than farting.. it's embarrassing.. but it's life.
2006-08-07 23:51:51 · answer #4 · answered by xx_ladyxluck_xx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its indeed a difficult situation and also a pitiable one. Every girl must be pride of their period, bcas it is going to give them the most honourable place in the near future.
First, you take her to a lady specialist, and inform the situation. So as an expert, the doc will tell the do and donts during periods.. Then its the parents duty to help the child during these days. The mom has to take incharge of the girl during such periods and must console her that, such pains during regular periods will help her in the coming future. Regular and proper periods will lead to healthy pregnancy. also make the girl understand the cleanliness she has to maintain during such days. If she doesnt maintain proper clealiness, then she ll start having itching and other skin disesess in furture.
2006-08-07 04:39:04 · answer #5 · answered by pradeepraj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure she has the supplies she needs,place a trash can in her room in a secret place only she knows and pride her on the fact that she is a woman.Poor little thing,you should punish the rascals who are making her life miserable
2006-08-07 06:15:07 · answer #6 · answered by Elizabeth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...poor girl. I would deff not confrot her...but she needs to feel special...so give her some extra attention...if your her parent she needs to feel loved and worthwhile. So take her out just you and her find out what she likes to do and cater to that...but not so its noticeable to other siblings...cuz that could cause more problems. But she needs to feel she has something that the other ones dont'...i think a little extra one on one time would go along way. Second of all...get her some tampons...
2006-08-07 04:33:45 · answer #7 · answered by lanceh13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for starters why are the parents providing proper supplies for her, and two why are the parents controling the sibling, have her talk to the school counselour, maybe social services needs to step in
2006-08-07 04:33:49 · answer #8 · answered by stodgypodgy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her parents kno so she can get some actual pads and tell her its alright its apart of life.
2006-08-07 04:33:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
an older female, of any age, to talk with.
sharing the experience will bring her comfort.
2006-08-07 04:36:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋