How do you confess your love to somebody you have been knowing for a long time?

Question

Imagine, you fall in love with a friend of yours you have known for about more than three years. How would you confess your love to that person? What if she or he asks you: "Why have you not told me that sooner?" What would you answer?

Answer 1

I don't have to imagine. It happened to me.

I didn't tell him straight away that I loved him. First I asked him on a date, I think that's considered good manners.

After we had been going out a while, I said 'I think I'm beginning to love you.' which was very much an understatement but I wanted to be as accurate as possible about my feelings and love is a great and infinite thing. To say you love someone is a BIG DEAL. He was pretty overwhelmed and didn't say it back. When I came back from a three week holiday, followed by a three month split when I started uni, he finally said it back.

Don't expect immediate results.

If he'd asked me why I hadn't told him I loved him sooner, Iwould have told the truth, that I wanted to make sure that my love was reciprocated before I told him I loved him. this is serious stuff and it deserves to be taken seriously.

Answer 2

If the person might have feelings for you too. If he/she does its better to know than spending your life wondering what could of been. I would have a simple lunch or dinner with the person and maybe a card and tell them what is in your heart. If they are your friend , everything will work out just fine. Good Luck to you

Answer 3

Just tell her you were scared to tell her sooner because you didn't know if she felt the same way. Better late than never, right? I think unless you are absolutely certain she does not feel the same way, you should tell her. You will never know if you don't ask.

Answer 4

i went through the same kind of thing and its hard, but because we new each other well it made it easier, try to give her the impression that you like her this gives her time to think about it then when the moments right tell her how you really feel. If you don't ask you will always wonder.

Answer 5

Email...that is the best way...but also say that you don't want these feelings to interfere with your friendship...and have that be the reason if they say well why didn't you ask sooner? I'd say I was afraid I'd wreck this friendship that I so dearly cherish...but ohh how I wanted too...what a long...yet rewarding three years...

amen

Answer 6

Dont think about it, just do it. If you think about it your gonna chicken out. Its happened to me before it took me a few months to tell her but in the end it worked out for the best. I didnt have to hide feelings and everything was out in the open. Just do it as soon as possible

Answer 7

i could be very, very uncomfortable with my appropriate chum of 5 years telling me they are in love with me. ! IF strikes had not been made interior days of assembly one yet another, it grew to become into not meant to be a love affair. human beings, fairly youthful or lonely human beings could make greater of issues, of their ideas, than is there. IF this had to ensue, i might desire a letter...i might desire to then have time to compose a intently written return that optimistically, might enable them to down gently without ruining the friendship. And, i might desire that would desire to end the "love affair."

Answer 8

The best way is all ways the straight forward approach. (Its not easy but it is the best) Let her know even by writing a letter if your to embarrassed to speak to her about the way you feel. Good Luck.

Answer 9

i sat her down and told her my true feelings. but i actually told her a few times and she always just though of me as a friend... i think i am out of the friend zone but i am not positive.

Answer 10

i think love needs no confession , its automatcally expressed