Here's the details. We've been dating about two months and things were going great. However, my feelings for her have changed as of late and I'm confused. There's a part of me that wants to be with her and a part of me that is confused about my feelings for her. I'm so confused and don't know want to do. I don't want to make the biggest mistake of my life and split up with her if indeed I'm meant to be with her. She's a great girl for the most part. However, she can be moddy and selfish at times. I just feel unattracted to her personality at times. I don't know if taking time apart will help or not. This has been all I can think about and I'm just scared because I don't want to see her hurt. I'm just too nice of a person to want to see anyone hurt. You can probably see how this situation has me in limbo. Please try to give me real good advice. This is something I'm counting on someone out there to really help me with so please be serious. Thanks so much fo helping me!
2006-08-06 20:03:58 · 19 answers · asked by bcolton7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I strongly believe trust and communication are the keys to a healthy and stable relationship. Although it may be hard to bring up the subject, talk it out with her. If she loves you she will make the effort to change. She might not even recognize her mood or notice that it bothers you. She's not a psychic, tell her so she could have the chance to better herself, it's only fair. And about being meant for each other... if you're meant for each other then even if you break up now or anything else happens, it will not be the biggest mistake of your life. If you're meant for each other you will be together. No matter what. Good luck! I wish you the best!
2006-08-06 20:12:17 · answer #1 · answered by Athena 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think that you guys should have a serious and honest discusion about your relationship. Tell her how you feel and I am sure that she would understand and open up to you too. The key to a successful relationship is communication. If you have that then you guys will see your golden anniversary in the future. Sounds like you really like this girl but you are afraid to commit. Some time-out will also be in good order. But be sure to tell her the reason for calling the time-out and that she does not have to worry about anything as you just want to sort out your head. Remember, honesty and communication is the key and you will be fine. Best of luck amigo
2006-08-07 03:14:17 · answer #2 · answered by Rock Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mate i fully know were your coming from... For me I've done the wrong thing and called it quits...now i want her back...... so make sure you take a lot of time to contemplate on your final decision because once its done they turn NASTY and there's know way back.. So you need to take time to evaluate your relationship and try to picture the new pressures/or what changed have been made which may have put pressure on you both... or maybe your spending to much time together and your not meeting your needs,,,catchin up with your mates... So slow things down and review... and just go back to dating 2-3 times a week..at lest that way the time your spending together is going to be fun,in it's self and you'll may just find what your both have been missing...bring back the FUN in to the relationship....so stay cool mon
2006-08-07 03:31:35 · answer #3 · answered by Flying Objects 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think to really know if you love someone is when you think about them all the time and you have to call them to see if there doing alright, If you really like this girl then sit down and have a serious talk with her. Tell her how you feel and then she might just cry her eyes out but just be there and then when its all over the problem will hopefully be solved!:))
2006-08-07 03:12:33 · answer #4 · answered by Freckel Face 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two month to get to know her is rather too short. For acting selfish or moody, it could be her PMS. So, this don't count.
What you need to understand is yourself and are you ready to commit a life time relationship with her?
If you are ready, learn her behaviour, take note when her PMS (ladies sometime get very nasty during this time). Before you need someone to like you you must like that person first. Patience will be your biggest obstacle and if you cannot control this, relationship will crack.
2006-08-07 03:14:44 · answer #5 · answered by davidtay25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off you've only been dating for two months and thats hardly enough time to figure out youre feelings for someone. Try dating for almost a year....or maybe about 5 months, by then hopefully you'll figure out if you really love her. First figure out what kind of girl you want and make a check list of it and put a check next to the things that fit your girls personality. then make another list and write things like "makes my heart jump for joy" or "Makes me want to be with her all day". make that into a checklist.
Well I hope I've been enough help for you.........GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-08-07 03:13:33 · answer #6 · answered by MizzQ-T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... We have the same status dude.
But in my case, we are already in the relationship.
Feelings are at it's peak in the start... and yeah, I figured out that I was in the "FANTASY WORLD" then.
The more the days passed, you become more in touched with the REAL WORLD. And you'll noticed that you are NOT THAT ATTRACTED to her. I dunno how does it happened, maybe she just became to clingy to me, and became less of a challenge.
Yeah, I noticed we guys are messed up too. We are unsure of what we wants. I think you will only know what you want in life when you already lose something you had taken for granted.
But you want answers eh?
Since you are still in the DATING stage,
DATE other women.
With this, you will know what you really want in terms of WOMAN and DATING... and probably , RELATIONSHIP.
But don't try to hide to her that YOU ARE dating other woman.
Actually, its OK to know to let her know it.
It's not to let her know you are a mac daddy or something,
Its just to let her know that you have HIGH STANDARDS in woman. You are just in the stage of finding the girl that will probably you want to spend some intimate relationship time longer. And maybe, for life.
To find the right girl for you, play the odds =)
cheers!
EDIT: Oh, if you want to pursue a relationship with her..
date her at least 2-3 a week.
If not, at least once-thrice every month.
The tip dude,
ATTRACTION lurks in the PRESENCE of ABSENCE.
Take it slow, but surely =)
Oh, and you need time for your personal life too right?
2006-08-07 03:28:24 · answer #7 · answered by HOTsHoTz_23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things: One, get her view on all the things about you that irritate her but she still puts up with...that should make you humble....
Two, talk to her about her moodiness and selfishness and how they disturb you and what can be a possible solution.
Btw, if you really loved her, u'd like every aspect of her personality !
2006-08-07 03:10:12 · answer #8 · answered by Nisha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the answer. Tell her to treat your words as a grain of salt and be honest about what you feel....that sometimes her personality can be a turn-off. it shows a real person that can bring up those things lovingly and how she handles it..is up to her. If you can not reconcile this now..it'll be much harder later on.
best of luck!
2006-08-07 03:12:14 · answer #9 · answered by pinecomb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You see, if you really do love her, and you are not atracted to her boobs or stuff like that, I don't see where your problem is. Look you said part of you likes her and part of you is confused.. Well, confusion doesn't necesarily mean no, don't be a dumb ***, so don't split up with her, wait for time to resolve this.
2006-08-07 03:09:54 · answer #10 · answered by Mosquito molestator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋