my father has onley given me 2 or 3 presents for both b-days and x-mas called me a few times for those occasions bairlly talks to me hes never around any suggetions?
2006-08-06 20:02:08 · 31 answers · asked by cookie49504 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hey Cookie....
Just get on with your life.
You've evidently have done well so far without him.
The more you think about it....the more it will bother you and
he evidently isn't worth moments of your life.
One day he will be coming to you looking for the love that he missed.
Make your decision then what you want to do.
Good Luck and God Bless, Sweetie.
2006-08-06 20:07:27 · answer #1 · answered by COOKIE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing your parents are divorced. Does he live near you?
What financial state is he in? Maybe he feels guilty about not being able to do more, so he finds it less stressful tojust stay away. How does he interact with your mother? If they cannot
communicate he won't try to be around because they cannot
deal with each other.
If you are old enough to make some of your own decisions pick
up the phone and call him. If you can make the first step without
getting mad at him, maybe there is hope.
If he is paying child support or any of that other stuff he probably
lives paycheck to paycheck.
Try and talk with him without thinking of presents. If he sees you
want to be his daughter maybe he will give up something when
b-days come around.
But if he makes a ton of money and just doesn't want too, then
forget about him and have a good life.
2006-08-07 03:22:22 · answer #2 · answered by chrissm2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's not a full-time parent? That can be hard on parents. Sometimes talking to your kid that's not with you any more can bring up all kinds of painful feelings. This can be hard, especially for men who are often not so good at sorting out feelings. Even if he lives with you, he probably doesn't know what to say to you, what to buy for you, what you like. Either way, I'm sure he loves you. Parents don't get lessons, kids don't come with instructions. I suggest you cut the guy some slack and try to make things a little easier for him. Sound happy to hear from him. Say, "I'm glad you called". Ask about what he's doing. Volunteer information about what you like to do, things that you're into. Think of things you can tell him. I know that you are the child and he's supposedly an adult, but maybe he's having a hard time too.
2006-08-07 03:15:24 · answer #3 · answered by R. F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to answer some of the ?'s on here. she does call him alot. but that's the only time he will talk to her. other than that he shows no interest. she's tried many times but it's a dead end. yes he does live near by.... about 3 or 4 miles away. he has a very good job. but bearly pays enough for her to live. and yes he and i can talk calmly and rationally but he just chooses not to be a part of her life. and when she does confront him nothing ever changes. and it's not that i stop it either. he's always been told that i will never ever keep her from seeing her father. i also grew up without mine and i know how it feels. so i would never deny her the chance to be with her father.
2006-08-07 04:50:56 · answer #4 · answered by missi49509 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry about your bad experiences with your father. I can't relate, however, because my father is the best man I've ever known! I really won the grand prize of fathers, and it makes me sad that EVERYONE could not experience the same! I know it doesn't make up for it, but I wish you the best of everything from here on out, and perhaps your father's imperfections can lead you to insuring that your husband is a wonderful father to your own children! Try to channel your resentment into joining youth groups, helping disadvantaged children, becoming a big sister to a young child--whatever it takes to enable you to fill the void left by your father. All my best to you!
2006-08-07 03:10:37 · answer #5 · answered by Rebooted 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop dwelling on it. His actions show that he doesn't care about you the way a real father is supposed to. Why should you waste your energy thinking about him? You don't need him to succeed. My dad was like that, only worse. He didn't call at all and didn't send me any b-day or christmas presents since I was 2. I'm 16 now...Just a measly check that doesn't even pay for a teenager's appetite every month. You'll get through it. Take care and I hope everything works out for you.
2006-08-07 03:11:10 · answer #6 · answered by someone in the world 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry. Some guys just aren't meant to be fathers. You can try talking to him and telling him how you feel. Do you want to spend more time with him, or do you just want more presents? Maybe your mother can talk to him and let him know that you'd like to hear from him more often.
2006-08-07 03:06:38 · answer #7 · answered by Tia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need a little heart-to-heart talk wif him. I guess he's not totally forgotten about u yet. mine was worst. never gave me presents for all my B'days and i bet he don't even know when i was born. anyway, it's hard for fathers to express themselves at times. Better not jump to conclusion abt him being an asshole..there were a lot more worst ones out there.
2006-08-07 03:09:43 · answer #8 · answered by mystique_rider 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that once you're out of his household, you get to pick who deserves your trust and affection. His approval does not determine your worth. While this is painful, it will be less so when you can define yourself by your own actions and not what others think of you and give to you. You are a beautiful human being!!! Now go find others who can see that.
2006-08-07 03:12:03 · answer #9 · answered by Earth Queen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put on an eyepatch and talk to him in pirate-speak. "Aaaaarrrggghhhh! Ye be neglecting me far too long, ye be walkin the plank for your sub-standard parenting skills. Avast!"
It worked with my dad, we hadn't spoken in twenty years. Now we hang out at the docks, plundering boats returning from a day at sea.
2006-08-07 03:11:11 · answer #10 · answered by kalaka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋