Have you ever dated an army guy?

Question

How is it like..I see that I cant seem to make wisecracks about political issues. LOL! How do you do it?
I dont mean one minute men though (joke)

im not sure if he is in the navy or marines but he said he is a staff sergeant *deep sigh*:)

is it...dangerous?

Answer 1

Hmmm

It is hard. I was in the military for seven years and dated guys who were also in. The divorce rate for military members is something like 80%. Domestic abuse is high too. I had a MP once tell me that most calls he answered were for domestic violence.

There are months of seperation when the military member is on deployment... many times over holidays like Christmas. You will be trying to keep the family together, working, taking care of all the bills, etc... and doing all of it alone. There are nights when you will lay in bed think that your partner must have been unfaithful because he/she was away so long. And some times that is a correct assumption.

Sometimes the military member may return from a place that has tramatized him/her (Iraq for example). They want to be strong, so they won't seek professional help, afraid of what their peers might think of them. Or they are afraid it will go on record and affect their promotions and career options. They will never tell you about it either because in their mind, you can never understand what they have been through and they do not want to put that burden on you. They may get depressed, they may get moody, then may start resenting the fact that you can't talk to you about it, then the lack of communication strains the relationship. Then the fights start.

And if you should get married... hmm. It takes a dedicated spouse to maintain a military marriage. You have to have a strong relationship built on absolute trust. And you have to be able to talk to each other no matter how hard the topic is. The spouse must be understanding, support the military member and be prepared for the worst... long seperations, injury and death. The spouse left behind must be responsible, able to deal with being alone, to hold the family together and make sure that the things that need to be done, get done... ie- kids to school, bills paid, house cleaned, etc.

Serving your country is an honorable profession- despite what others on this site might claim. Most soldiers are over-worked, under-paid, and never appreciated for the sacrifices they make to ensure all our freedoms. And the spouse left behind never gets the honor they deserve for the sacrifices they have to make too.

But love conquers all... so if you can handle it, I say go for it.

Best wishes...
T.

Answer 2

I'm married to a Air Force guy (5 years). We bust on the political issues all the time. There is a time and place for everything. Just like you wouldn’t go to your job and start busting jokes about your boss right in front of him (well unless he was cool), or do that in a meeting to embarrass him. The hardest part dealing w/ the military is that he has to leave home around holidays, birthdays, pregnancies, special moments. Sometimes you have time to prepare and then there are times you don’t have any notice at all. That’s life, in the military. It takes a strong marriage to be able to last in a Military lifestyle.

Answer 3

I used to be in the Marine Corps, and believe me, most people in the military aren't that uptight about political jokes.

Answer 4

OmG, I dated him for like a month....he kept yelling at me to "drop down and give him 10".....he woke me up at 4am everyday to run through obstacle courses.....he made me wear camouflage everywhere we went......he called me soldier when we had sex.....

Dont do it....they are trained.......

Answer 5

I've dated a navy guy...Awesome!

Answer 6

yes, but it was for like 5 weeks... he was a bit crazy

Answer 7

yep , i raped an lftenant colonel