My ex-boyfriend broke up with me alittle over a year ago because his family did not except me ( im not their religion), I was really in love with him, he saids he still loves me and we still hang out as "just friends" and each day I hope he will ask me to be his girlfriend but he never does everyone says to get over him and move on, do you think it is right to move on or should I wait alittle longer and spend more time with him to see if his family starts to except me?
2006-08-06 19:38:05 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Iam not picking a best answer because they where all just what I was looking for and thank you all so much i'm moving on and forgetting about him
THANK YOU =]
2006-08-06 19:50:15 · update #1
Maybe I will pick a best answer
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2006-08-06 20:21:04 · update #2
move on sweetheart. he is just getting his cake and eating it at the mo, cos he wont be your boyfriend, but he gets to spend time with you. that is nonsense and not fair to you cos you still have feelings for him! so move on and if he REALLY likes you he will want to see you and be with you and he will realise that once you're gone, and THEN you can be in a negotiating position to say, "well I am not interested in being 'friends' again, I have plenty of friends thank you very much, so if you like me, we can go out again, or nothing cos as you can see I'm doing fine without you "
2006-08-06 19:44:09 · answer #1 · answered by supagrrrl84 5 · 9⤊ 1⤋
If his family did not accept you then, they will not accept you now. If you really loved him and he really loved you than he would not care how his family felt. Some families believe very strongly about the religion thing. It sucks, but you can't change who you are or your beliefs simply to make someone else happy or accept you.
I am sure that it is making it more difficult to hang out with him, because we all want what we can't have. Does that make sense?? Yes, you have already had him, but technically you can't have him because of how his family feels. My best advice for you would be to move on and find someone who deserves you. Cut your losses and be thankful for the experience. Stop hanging out with him because it is making it more difficult for you to get over him and to move on with your life. If you are waiting for him to come around you might be waiting A LONG time!!!!!!! If nothing else talk with him, tell him how you feel and go from there.
2006-08-07 02:47:30 · answer #2 · answered by Mystery Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you say you both love each other, then why the **** did you break-up? You should have fought, went against the odds, changed religion, that is if you both are really serious (talking about marriage here) There are things you can do to make the relationship work, if you really wanted to. Well, that's just me...
My advice: Talk to him. Review your relationship. Ask him what it is he wants from you. If he's really serious about you? and also think about if you are really serious about him? If any of the answers is not satisfactory, then move on. But not unless you can still see yourself in the future asking the "what if's".
2006-08-07 03:13:31 · answer #3 · answered by Violetcharm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly life is hardly ever a Hollywood ending. And waiting around is taking a huge risk with your life, don't waste your time hoping for a miracle! if he can stand to detach hiself from you for the sake of his family, it actually speaks very highly of his morals and loyalty but you have to be loyal and protective of yourself and your heart. Move on, it will be hard but better for you in the end.
2006-08-07 02:44:19 · answer #4 · answered by bickeo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If hes family doesn't except you because of religion , they most likely never will... if you want to be his friend, I say go for it.. but you should move on.. find someone who can except you for you... best of luck..
2006-08-07 02:43:57 · answer #5 · answered by Shonda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his family will most likly never except you hun.. what religion is it?? i have a feeling i already know and unfortunitly they wont accept ya. you cant change yourself for them. its probably best you move on. if you start seeing another man, see if the jealousy will draw your ex boyfriend back to you and he just may even go AGAINST his family. good luck hun
2006-08-07 02:42:50 · answer #6 · answered by Kittie_Nash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its been a year later and nothing has happenned, i think it might be time to move on. you will only end up hurting yourself if you dont.. you cant spend the rest of you life waiting for him and his family to change their mind bout you. if a family is strict enough to not accept you over religional differences, i dont think they will change their mind.
2006-08-07 02:44:04 · answer #7 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thou shoult respect thy parents. My first move would be to get the family to try to except me. But you can't force everything. Whatever happens happens. My strongest advice to you is to not do anything your not comfortable with or that isn't you. Just be yourself. If they can't accept you for who you are, then thats too bad for them.
2006-08-07 02:43:32 · answer #8 · answered by Jason 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes sweety just leave him the more time u spend with him the more worst situation u r creating 4 urself.he has already made it clear that he can hav no commitment. then y he.lovers can never b frenz.he is just using u.if he had to listen to his family he shud hav decided it earlier.just leave him b4 he dumps u again
2006-08-07 02:43:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on
2006-08-07 02:43:21 · answer #10 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋