Hello, I'm a junior in college (21 years old) and have been dating my girlfriend for just about 4 years now. It's pretty much a given that we'll eventually get married but it just seems like it couldn't work for so long.
I'm a pre-med major looking towards getting my masters as a Physician's Assistant (with aspirations of one day having the money time and experience to get into a good med school) so I'm really going to be living off mom and dad (and loans) for a long time to come.
What do you all think about when I can get married? How do people get married right out of college before they get economic stability? I can't imagine getting married and still relying heavily on my parents... and I dont think that I could work enough while a full time grad student to support it.
Crazy question I know, just asking for your two cents =D
2006-08-06 19:37:32 · 7 answers · asked by murphly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I got married right out of college and it's working out just fine. We were pretty poor for a while and are still working on paying off the credit card debt that added up before I was finally getting paid. (The debt isn't outrageous; it's just taking a while). He was still in college for the first year of our marriage, so I was mostly supporting us both on a teacher's salary. He just graduated last May and now is working and we're doing well. We even just bought a house. If you want to get married before you're completely on your own feet then go for it. You'll be pretty poor, but it works out as long as you both can accept that ahead of time. If you think it's better to wait, then that's what you should do. Good luck and best wishes for you both!
2006-08-07 03:44:31 · answer #1 · answered by caitlinerika 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think alot of this depends on your values. For example, if you believe that sex should be limited to the bounds of marriage, I'd recommend going ahead and getting married, and just plan on struggling those first few years. I would STRONGLY postpone having children...that messes the whole formula up! I know many people who have done this and have made it just fine, yes even with children, but they will say it was very hard, and not something they'd want to repeat any time soon. But, if you have no such sensibilities towards cohabitation, then you might want to consider looking at the financial picture, seeing if being married or staying single would affect your ability to qualify for student loans, etc. For example, when my sister was still considered a dependent of our parents, she really couldn't get many of the lower interest loans, because our dad made too much $$, but once she became her own household with her husband, she was able to qualify for Pell grants, low interest loans, etc. And while I do believe that when you're married you should be able to be financially independent of parents, the rising cost of living is making that harder and harder, and I think many parents realize this as well. I seriously think this is a question only you can answer, since you have your own unique goals and plans. What may work out great for some people, would be a living hell for you. Best of luck to you!!!
2006-08-07 02:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there you seem to have youre future all worked out ,and i wish you all the luck in the world with youre studies, but whats with the serious stuff are you sure you are only 21 ,the way you are talking itsounds as if you are a old married couple already ,this bit about getting married right out of college and and not having the right economic stability ?? look you could wait and wait for the right stability and things canstill go wrong and you can end up with all sorts of problems that leave you with money problems !! dont mean to sound hard and i do understand that you dont want to lean on youre parents but please lighten up a bit and enjoy youre life as you sound a very serious person
2006-08-07 04:06:47 · answer #3 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off, you should know that if you get married you'll be considered an independent student--that is, your parent's financial data will no longer go on your FAFSA and other fin aid forms. That would change the picture considerably.
2006-08-07 09:14:26 · answer #4 · answered by smurfette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get married later after you settle, at least until you can feed your future wife from your own effort. Trust me, don't marry while you're still depending on others. Money isn't everything in marriage, but it does play major part in it.
2006-08-07 02:44:37 · answer #5 · answered by shinta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're young. Get your life together first. You may even grow apart from your girlfriend. We got married a year after we met, but we were well into our 30s when we met.
2006-08-07 04:14:29 · answer #6 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can first settle down and then get married it will help both of you to be in a kool relationship
the best age to get married will be 25+
2006-08-07 03:20:06 · answer #7 · answered by explorer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋