Is he cheating?

Question

I sent my boyfriend to Cali to visit his family, i got off work at 10 and was supposed to call him. I was a little late but he left me a message on my cell saying that he didn't want me to call he was going to bed and i should call in the morning. He's never done that before and he told me there was a girl down there that really liked him three years ago. I had called the house before i got his message and it was busy! What do i do?

Answer 1

hi,

well its may be or not that he is cheating you. may be he is disturbed due to some reason since u told that he gone to his family, and that time may be he want you to be close to you, but you are unable to call Him and get late. so in frustration and anger he may asked you the same and added the story of girl also.
secondly i ask u one thing, when he said that the another girl likes Him 3 years ago, don't u ever come to know about this ? how can it be possible. well u talk to him and then take any decision. one thing more i like to add that "Men can never full fill his desire with one women" he always want more and second, and third.....!

so be careful u love him but not blindly. and not let him ruined your life ....

OK......take care :)

Answer 2

Maybe he is but maybe not.. As I can assume he's away not for long..Maybe when he called you he felt bad that you weren't there and to show it he left u the msg not to call him..
Another possible reason is that he really wanted to sleep and since you were late he couldnt wait..
It could also be what you suspect but dont panic..Call him in the morning and say sorry for being late the other day.. Ask him about his family and how he's doing.. Ask him if he saw any old friends and all those things.. See what he tells u ..ask him what he did and if he had fun.. I think you will understand by his reaction if he's lying to you or not.. dont go straight to him asking him about the girl ,just be nice and sweet.. remind him how much u love him n miss him .. if he still continues with the strange attitude then ask him if something is wrong..it will come along and u will realise if he's cheating or not..However i dont think he's cheating on you..(just a feeling =P)
Good luck with everything and stay cool..

Answer 3

Before you get into a frenzy over this, you should think on whether it's really worth it to leave if he is cheating. You know, he could be the most immature person for doing it, but would you be in any better situation for leaving him?

Secondly, you should give him the benefit. Living your life paranoid isn't going to do you any good. If it does bother you still, you can have a friend check up on him, or have one of those miniature cameras installed (or hidden) somewhere, even in his car.

Lastly, you should realize that all spouses drive their other half a little nuts from time to time, and everyone needs some time off from each other.

Answer 4

If you ask him if he was with another girl, you just sound insecure and end up looking jealous, which is never a good thing. Insecurity is a complete turn-off. He'd never admit to cheating anyway. All you can do at this point is keep one eye open and watch his behavior. If scenerios like this constantly start happening, then he probably is cheating. The truth will come out...Remember, you are only dating, you're not married, and you don't have a ring on your finger. Give it some time...Don't make problems where they do not exist. Wait, and if you find proof, then say good-bye to the looser.

Answer 5

That sounds suspicious. I agree with calling him from someone else's house as a method of investigation. But choose the person's house carefully. Make sure it's a completely unknown number to him, or a number that he would pick up. If you can't get through to him relax, and when you see him again, listen to his reason. But if you decide that it is bull, then tell him to grow up, and dump him, if he really deserves it...if you can give him a second chance, then go ahead, but cheating is pretty damaging, and something that you can only hope hasn't and won't happen....

Answer 6

I wouldn't jump to any conclutions, that has ruined many relationships. talk to him in the morning and ask about his night. this should reveal something - if he shuts you down, he either suspects that you don't tust him, but if susupects you for not trusting him, he probaly is expecting something along those lines. if he says something like, i had some dinner, watched a bit of a movie and went to bed and talks about the night, it should be ok.

Answer 7

sit him down and look straight into his eyes and ask him what he was doing on that night. it will be harder for people to maintain eye contact when they are telling a porky.
I wouldn't worry about a girl three years in the past , alot can change in three years. maybe he just wanted a little freedom

Answer 8

Sometimes we feel uncomfortable when things go out of the normal of a relationship.

Don't freak out just yet? But I would not ignore it.

Just stay calm and if you go accusing him of something right off the bat, then he may freak out on you.

If other "Red" flags arise soon, and don't seem right. Then, I would talk to him.

But talk, not scream and fight. And be adult about it.

Hey and if he does stray.. its his loss not yours.

Not all guys cheat.
And if they do it once.. they will do it again.

Answer 9

dont jump the ball to fast. someone else would have been on the phone... try calling him in the morning or better yet send YOURSELF there as a surprise and find out for yourself. i wouldnt say he was cheating he may have just been really tired and didnt wanna be rude or something

Answer 10

well i don't know much about relationships but what i do know is that if he said this girl liked him 3 yrs ago then you got nothing to worry about he probley big nothing him self like all guys do but any case give him the 3rd degree if he looks in yours and tell you there was nothing going on well there you have it i hope i can help good luck .