my bf and i have together for 1 yr we love each other so much. but yesterday he beat me up badly yesterday but i want to report to police but i am worried he would leave me. i still want him as i get no love from my family. i gonna move out soon. well the first time i had sex with my bf was an accident i just wanted to lay on his cheast and then he started doing everything to me. but today he said that i am a cheap skate girl and i was not intending to lay on his chest but he say i motivated him to have sex which is so untrue. wat can i do? i told him many time i never did such a thing. once i almost slept with another guy but i never had sex i admit my mistake. but still he talks abt it and hurt me and he has already did the same thing and sex with another women which i have forgetten so why he keep hinting me? he say he is man so he can do it? so wat if he is man? he say i slap him. is he only make from flesh and blood while i was made in rubber is it? it hurts. help me pls...
2006-08-06 18:50:03 · 32 answers · asked by Minnalgal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Email me
I am going to tell you exactly
how to
LEAVE NOW !!!!
2006-08-09 08:41:03 · answer #1 · answered by Beamer 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
You need to leave him, there's no hope, once a man crosses the line of hitting or extreme physicall contact, theres something that's not right, and it needs to be left alone. There's another guy out there, just think, waiting for you, hes probably sitting on the computer thinking if only she woudl appear, oen day while hes at work take everything out the appartment and leave him, and dont ever come back, report to the police women should never be DISRESPECTED LIKE THAT, nomatherr what she did, he has no respect for you, face the facts hunny, you will fund mr right, even if it takes a year. Just think of mr riught, hes there, instead of getting mad, he will accept every fault you have. If you need support im here for you babe, my email is bigbook@gmail.com
2006-08-06 18:56:19 · answer #2 · answered by Jordon H 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look girl the very best thing u can do is to leave now while u can ... I had the same problem with my EX bf ... if he doesnt respect u he doesnt love u or maybe he does love u but he is 2 agresive either way it'll hurt u more and more till all the love u have 4 him will be hate so just leave and make sure he knows why ...now he might change or he might keep going on like that till he finds somebody that will take all that crap so PLEASE dont let it be u ... believe me it's not gonna end up good ...
2006-08-06 19:01:01 · answer #3 · answered by wenckiepr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A MAN SHALL NEVER HIT HIS....OR ANY WOMAN. U need to leave him. If he loved u truly he would not do such a thing. U deserve better and there are too many men out there that are better than that for u to have to suffer through that. He doesnt truly love u if he is cheating and having outside sex. And what he told u about u motivating him to have sex is just a MIND GAME THAT CHEAPSKATE MALES PLAY to mess with your head. Give him up......especially since he hits u. If it continues....call the LAW....
2006-08-06 18:57:16 · answer #4 · answered by fromthapointcity2thamtown 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This man is an abuser who sees you as an object. It's hard to love and respect yourself if your family doesn't, but you have to get away from him. He has no respect for you. Call the cops and get away from him. Be careful around men in the future. You need to do things (school, work, clubs, or voluteering) that will make you feel better about yourself. Forget about your family and all the loser men in the world and turn yourself into a proud, accomplished lady. When you do, you will find the love you want who will respect you and give you your own family. If you stay you will suffer even worse.
2006-08-06 19:03:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get off of the computer, call a taxi to come and pick you up. While you are waiting, grab a bag and put a couple days worth of clothes, toothpaste, toothbrush, soap, shampoo, your ID, your money.
Then, get in the cab and go to the local police station. Tell them everything, even things you think you might get in trouble for. You won't get in trouble. They'll arrest your boyfriend and find you a safe place to stay.
Now, you are afraid you will lose him, right?
WRONG
He should be afraid he will lose you, right?
But he isn't afraid because he thinks he OWNS you.
Does he own you?
Ok so, now go call that cab. You know what you have to do. If you don't, he might kill you.
Ok shut the computer down and call the cab
Good luck!
Hugs
xeno
2006-08-06 19:02:19 · answer #6 · answered by deregulution 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u don't want it to continue like that for the rest of ur life, u have to leave him as soon as possible, cuz if u let him continue, it will get worse. no one has the right to make u stay with him. u will eventually find a guy who really cares about u. he will NEVER treat u like that. true love is not about jealousy or hurting. if he really cared, he would never, never hurt u even a little. don't give up on urself. know that u r a person and ur worth more than that!
2006-08-06 19:01:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First things first.You need to leave him if you want to keep your life together. My last bf was abusive also and it started with small things then escalated horribly! Finally I couldn't take it anymore and I went home to my mother like a broken weak puppy, broken nose,busted lip, bruises covering my entire body! You don't want this for yourself!!! Its no life. I know that you know this in your heart....so listen to yourself. He is not going to be the only man you'll ever be with in your life. I know its hard to say goodbye. I cried for like a month after I left my bf. Even though he hit me it didn't change the fact that I loved him and wanted to be with him.
But let me tell you that leaving him was the best decision of my life! I can't imagine if i would have had a kid with him. Please just leave him!
Good Luck and if you need to talk then email me sometime!
God Bless!
2006-08-06 18:53:46 · answer #8 · answered by Nikki 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
girl get the eyes to see the guy doenst love u..he is using u...another thing for love u dont have to compromise on another womens plate...please leave him and get another guy in ur life who understands the value of u then the current one is doing....he is a cheap bastard and he is using u for good and u are letting him to do that....get a life and stop complaing if he leaves u u cant live ofcourse u will mak ethrough hard times and sad times all u need is to motivate urself and also have a strong will...guess u sould knwo by now we live in 21th century..so get a life and stop being abused or emotionally blackmailed by a coward...............
2006-08-06 18:56:14 · answer #9 · answered by Vinny C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People who love each other don't hit. Call the police. If he leaves you it is a blessing. As far as the sex thing it sounds like rape! Once again call the police.
2006-08-06 18:56:19 · answer #10 · answered by aggie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? Because this kinda sounds like a joke. Okay, I'm gonna assume you're serious. First of all, you need to find your love from someone who isn't going to leave bruises with his "love". NEVER stick around with someone who hits you. You're afraid to lose him??? Hone, you need to run, not walk, RUN to get away from him! He is a LOSER and you do not need to stick around for this kind of emotional and physical abuse. REPORT his sorry butt to the police NOW and hope you never see him again. Someday you'll find someone who's worthy of you.
2006-08-06 18:59:08 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋