me and my boyfriend have just started to have sex and i was wondering if it is normal or if any one elses partner puts his penis in her mouth and then gets a dildo and shove it in her vagina i told him i dont like it soo what do i do?? plz help
2006-08-06 18:47:56 · 14 answers · asked by emma r 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
very strange .....
never heard before
2006-08-06 18:54:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your "boyfriend" is not your friend although he certainly sounds like a boy. If he doesn't want to have vaginal sex with you, he might be gay. But gay or straight, he is an abusive selfish pig.
If he uses anything on you or in you that you have told him you don't like, he is an abusive boy. You should break off your relationship with him immediately. He is not interested in you. He is only interested in satisfying himself. Please stop this insanity before it escalates.
Didn't you have a clue that he was abnormal before you started having sex with him? Please get yourself out of this horrible situation.
Find your self a real boyfriend. One who cares about YOU. This is certainly one of those situations where "JUST SAY NO" is appropriate.
Please don't see him anymore. He is a pig and you will end up getting hurt and losing your self respect.
Tell him to "get out and don't let the door hit you where the good lord split you".
I got angry just reading your question. Please take action. Don't do it again.
2006-08-06 19:09:47 · answer #2 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter whether it's normal. It doesn't matter whether anyone else does it.
Sex should be about connection between two people. At the very least, it should be about mutual pleasure. If you don't like it, then that should be the end of it.
By the way, you are entitled to change your mind at a later date.
2006-08-06 18:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by mom2savi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't care enough to listen to you and consider your desires as important as his, then it is time to leave him.
Anything outside of consensuality is rape, whether he and you know it or not.
He is pretty much using you as a rubber doll, and if you just started having sex, I worry about what may be down the road for you.
Get out sweety.
And take some self esteem lessons, you deserve better than this.
2006-08-06 19:03:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no black and white "normal" when it comes to sex. every couple is different. what you are describing would be considered "kinky" to many, but might also be perfectly normal to others. in my opinion, ALL that matters is what you are comfortable with. if you aren't comfortable with it, there is nothing wrong with you, so whatever you do, don't let him make you out to be a prude for objecting to this, and do not do anything you do not want to do. sometimes women can learn to like certain things, but i believe we know pretty well what we do and don't like. if he is not happy you don't want to do things his way, then maybe you need to find another boyfriend.
2006-08-06 18:53:28 · answer #5 · answered by aj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is a freak.....
He may be trying to break you in for something more kinkier..... like a two on one deal..... I'll tell you one thing.... your boyfriend got that idea from some where that you probably would not approve of.
Hope you have some good judgment and get rid of this one and find someone that don't have to use toys to please and satisfy you....
Good luck and have a good life.
2006-08-06 19:30:44 · answer #6 · answered by KeAhi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU get to decide what is one with your body. No one else should make you do what you don't want to. Especially someone who should care for you. If he won't stop, then stop him by not having sex with him anymore. I guess it's normal for some people, but anyone who wants to violate you by doing something that you don't want them to do is not normal.
2006-08-06 18:54:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All guys want a cheap suck. If you don't like it- don't do it. Guys will a lot of times pressure a girl into doing oral. Or trick them and tell them lies. Look, if you arn't comfortable with it, don't do it. Maybe he's afraid of getting you pregnant, but either way- no one should ever do anything they don't like doing.
2006-08-06 18:53:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you dont like it get rid of the dildo and tell him to use his finger or just say hell no you freak.
2006-08-06 19:00:26 · answer #9 · answered by vinrock2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have to ask this you are too young for sex. Dont do anything you dont like doing period. He should respect you for that.
2006-08-06 19:00:54 · answer #10 · answered by Melisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if ya ain't into it don't do it
next time tell him to let you shove a dildo up his ... see what he says to that...unless he's into it...
2006-08-06 18:53:48 · answer #11 · answered by Evel Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋