Any stay at homes moms feel like they are missing out...?

Question

like no pension plan building up, or things like that.
If you and your partners were to break up, how would support yourself? At 65?

Answer 1

This is why you ALWAYS make a way for yourself to receive some income, or save some of that money that honey gives you for yourself.

Answer 2

Missing out on what exactly? Your kids are only small for so long, and then they return to school. I stay at home with my kids all day and I work p/t at night and that's about all I can handle right now, it makes for a full day and sometimes and exhausting one when you're trying to keep up with housework. If it weren't for my husband doing his share, we'd be in sad shape. We work opposite shifts and see eachother maybe twice a week at night and one day on the weekend, which works out okay for us right now. We have bills so I need to work, hopefully that will change soon to where I can just work for "fun" again. If you are blessed enough to be able to stay at home with your young ones, be thankful, although it may be grinding at times...it's not forever. I will return to school once my youngest goes to Kindergarten in a couple of years, until then I will work part time. I can't worry about all the "what if's" in life, because there are so many. Just like the bible says it's not going to add any more days to my life to sit there and worry all day every day about things that are not in my control. I'm just going to trust that God has my back, and that he'll provide for me like he's promised to do...and it most likely won't be with two SUV's a huge house with a swimming pool and boat and the biggest pension plan ever possible, but I'm positive that my needs will always be met somehow. Right now I beleive that I am doing the best possible thing I can do for my children, and that's to be there for them today. So no, as a stay at home mom, I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything important.

Answer 3

Sometimes... SOMEtimes, I look at my place, my kid, my current situation and think... "I left my career for THIS?". I don't know, I feel really secure in my relationship with my hubby, so I don't worry about retirement. I'm so selfish, I focus more on what kind of fame I must be missing out on because I'm not an actively practicing designer right now...

Seeing my daughter smile at me and having seen all of the milestones she's hit has filled my heart with immense joy. But, even with that, I find myself feeling like a part of me is missing because I'm not in my office cranking out floorplans or a new design....

But then I see that smile again...................

Answer 4

of course we all feel like we are missing out, but i suppose if we worked we would feel like we were missing out on our children, and i know the last thing i would like to do at the end of every day is ask some daycare or babysitter how my child is, or if i missed any "first-time" things. i believe i am doing the best for my children right now and later when they are in school and don't need me so much then i will worry about things like my pension and such. but truth be told if we were planners that worried about things like retirement and the allmighty dollar then we wouldnt have children .....

Answer 5

I worked for a long time before I got pregnant again and im high risk if anything i felt like I missed out on my son , he was so cranky and didn't like to sleep because of me working he was always afraid Id leave during the night , but for the time I did work I know I always will have that career to follow behind me if somthing ever did happen with me and my husband.

Answer 6

I have a master's degree in child development and in education. I will never get divorced though. We don't believe in it. And no I don't think I am missing out on anything by staying at home. It is the best and hardest job in the world. I believe that moms that work are truly missing out on their kids lives. I feel really sad for them.

Answer 7

On the hard days i miss school learning new things and work but i like to know that I'm raising my children and because I'm instilling values and goals in their little lives that I'm helping end the cycle of misguided youths that are so abundant in our society today, ...... and i love to watch them grow and figure things out and I just love being with them.
I'm secure in my marriage and we both agree that we'll try every last thing before we even bring up divorce ..... it's just the lazy way out . And neither of us is lazy

Answer 8

Nobody ever said "I wish I had seen less of my kids."

Just because we stay home doesn't mean we don't have productive lives or are uneducated and unable to find gainful employment.

Remember, we stay home and know how to live on one income. Should we be forced to be that one income because our spouse died or left us, we would be ok because of the skill of economizing.

I stay reasonably well-connected to people in my field and can find work at the drop of a hat, if need be. I even find myself getting offers for consulting work in my field even though I'm not looking.

Just because we stay home doesn't make us lazy, ignorant, apathetic, or uneducated.

Answer 9

I don't feel like I am missing out. I feel like I have one of the most important jobs in the world. Also, if you are to divorce you can get half of your Ex-husband's pension!!

Answer 10

The first thing in the budget to get cut is stuff Mom wants or needs.

Father works, so he needs gas and clean clothes and lunch, plus his extras for his recreation.

Kids need clean clothes and toys and after school programs and summer camps and gifts for b-day parties. Big$$$$$.

The household needs rent or mortgage payments, electric, gas, cable, phone, and possibly car payments, plus cleaning supplies and groceries. Big$$$$$$$$!!!!!

Mom get what's left, after savings plan $$.

Poor Mom.

I gotta call my mom!!!!!