When I am interested in a guy I either make it so obvious I end up scaring them away or I end up choosing men I am not compatible with and lose interest. I dread dating, it stresses me out and I just cannot picture myself dating someone ( I normally hang out with people in groups)
2006-08-06 18:11:00 · 25 answers · asked by Lucy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the right person WILL come along ........... just be PATIENT and enjoy being single .............. cause when they do come along your FORTUNES will change!
2006-08-14 11:33:54 · answer #1 · answered by Gninja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is something i can really relate with... you see there are plenty of instances i refused invitations because i got tired of guys who take advantage (some guys think that when you are separated and you date you are just looking for sex)... However, i realized later that why should i deny the pleasure of meeting interesting men just because some men think with their ***** right?? Best way is to analyze your reason why are u dating this guy and be honest with yourself and to the guy.. better is to choose neutral places like meeting this guy in coffee shops, seeing plays or those places where you are around other people but still have the privacy to talk with each other.. Dont worry so much of pleasing or impressing your date, just be yourself and do ur best to have a good time... take it from me, when i did this they always ask for second dates (thats another story -LOL!)
2006-08-14 17:48:54 · answer #2 · answered by sen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound young and smart. You are smart because you recognize a lot of the pitfalls that many women never see in themselves (coming on too strong, picking the right guys). That means you are self-aware enough to be ready for dating in the near future.
The great thing is that when you meet the right person, none of these problems will rear their ugly heads again. When you meet a person you are truly compatible with, you can be as aggressive as you want, and he will like it, because he will like you for your real self. And you will be shocked and surprised to realize that you like him for his true self, as well, even though he is nothing like the men you though you liked in the past.
I don't think you have to worry about dating. When it is the right person, it all falls together just perfectly. I really only dated one guy my whole life, my husband, who I met in college. I felt the same way as you about dating, and now I'm glad I didn't force myself to date a lot. I didn't have to bring a bunch of baggage into my relationship. I think your attitude is healthy and mature, and you will be just fine. Besides, hanging out with groups of friends is a wonderful way to meet new people.
2006-08-06 18:23:54 · answer #3 · answered by MissM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you meet the guy in a group setting. Each of you get to know each other there. More than one group interaction would be good. When you both have gotten to know each other in a group, start to lessen the group. After a short while, it will be just the two of you and you both will be comfortable being together.
2006-08-06 18:21:31 · answer #4 · answered by Mark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont date as soon as you find someone . Get to know them . Become friends and hang out together for about six or seven months. If you guys hit it off. Just get out there and face your fears . That's what I did. And I've been dateing my boyfriend for a year and four months and we're still together. And if it doesn't work out . It wasn't meant to be . Just keep trying . You'll find someone . Just belive in yourself.
2006-08-06 18:21:10 · answer #5 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to think bout it as a date.Think about it as socializing and making friends.First of all get to know the person who asks you out.And even if he's not the one,you can still be friends.Maybe one day you'll be grateful for getting to know that person.Anything can happen,just don't give up!
2006-08-14 13:06:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First make up your mind you really really like. Like him for awhile then you know you truly like him and don't be obvious be cool say hi every once and awhile guys like mysterious girls( from my experience) and just start talking to him more and more (don't be desperate) and start hanging out he should be bound to like you good luck and once you get him or you need advice to know if he likes you post another question ill answer it OK have fun bye!!!!
2006-08-14 17:26:28 · answer #7 · answered by Hollisterbebe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to yourself and stick to hanging out with the group where you are the most comfortable.
2006-08-13 16:33:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating is scary sometimes. It is a tricky thing. You must deal with it like the rest of us, and know that you are normal.
2006-08-06 18:14:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep trying sooner or later you'll want the companionship from a guy!
2006-08-14 09:02:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go more slowly and get yourself together before your date, good luck!!!!
2006-08-14 11:54:15 · answer #11 · answered by Lovable in nc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋