This guy had a crush on me and we were 'friends" as in talked often but i wasnt interested and i also had a bf at that time.so now we started talking online more. he is a really great caring person and i dont want to hurt him! i feel that he still kind of likes me because he always asks me to hang out with him...asks me to all those movies,dinner etc...but the thing is. im single but i dont like him that way! can we still be friends or its better for me to disappear so that he can get over me? i dont want to hurt him?
2006-08-06 18:04:03 · 13 answers · asked by Feodora 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow thanks guys. yeah we hung out last night and now he tells me that we need to see each othe rlike every day..ah god..i dont know! he is so amazing caring but im just not sexually attracted to him dammit. how do u tell him that im not interested? just like out of the blue...I dont like u that way?
2006-08-06 18:13:50 · update #1
yes you can
2006-08-06 18:07:18 · answer #1 · answered by tdang424 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's a tough one. I have a crush on a guy that is unavail. I try to convince myself that we can both be just friends, but I am old enough to know better. There is a very strong attraction between the both of us and we would end up hurting someone.
In your situation?????????????? He likes you that is apparent, and I feel that the more time he spends with you the more his feelings will grow for you. If you are not interested, you are not interested. I think the best thing to do would be to distance yourself from him. You might not doing anything to lead him on, but it will be very hard for him to lose those feelings he has for you, if you two start hanging out. Not only that but you don't want to feel uncomfortable either.
Good luck
2006-08-07 01:10:37 · answer #2 · answered by Mystery Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm on the total opposite end of that. I have a crush on someone, and I keep asking him to hang out with me. It's so hard knowing that they don't like you like that, and you try really hard to not let it show and be as casual as possible, although sometimes it rears it's ugly head... I find I can deal with the fact that we'll be nothing more than friends though...
2006-08-07 01:10:06 · answer #3 · answered by hockeygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is very possible. It is easy to be friends when there was or still is a crush involved... you see sometimes this makes for some of the best friends a person could have. They are more loyal. I wish you luck and I hope you can find it in your heart to be friends with this person!
2006-08-07 01:08:42 · answer #4 · answered by Cutelilminxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well even though he may like you that doesnt meen you cant still be friends with him im sure that in a couple weeks or mounths he will get over you cause im sure theres other girls out there that he likes and can go out with i meen hes a guy you know well anyway even though you say you dont like him now when he starts dating and every thing you will start to like cause you two are close right and youl get jealous and you dont know what will happen if you never try ......
2006-08-07 01:17:46 · answer #5 · answered by lovable_brandi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're going to hurt him if you just dissappear without a trace, too! You need to just tell him sometime. Take him out, buy him an ice cream...or whatever...and tell him, look, I really value your friendship. Do you? Good, because I don't want anything like a relationship to screw up our firendship. Dorky, yes...point across? Yes. friendship salvaged? Well, at least the ball is in his court and he knows where he stands.
2006-08-07 01:10:01 · answer #6 · answered by The Nag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you try to be friends with him but ultimatly it will never work.....this is where the old saying goes men and women cant be friends...becuz eventually feelings for the opposite sex will get in the way...as long as ur hot and have a gr8t personality he'll always like you but hey thats just my opinion
2006-08-07 01:09:54 · answer #7 · answered by Voncriss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, hes always going to try to move to the next level with you, even though he wont say it.
2006-08-07 01:08:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to be more thant just friends, let him know it will never be more than that.
2006-08-07 01:09:15 · answer #9 · answered by Stranger in a Strangeland 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is just a little difficult cause to you that person will always mean more then that
2006-08-07 01:08:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd say yes. but if he/she likes you back, maybe u should start a new level with your relationship.
2006-08-07 01:10:16 · answer #11 · answered by free.the.roaches 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋