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2006-08-06 17:52:53 · 14 answers · asked by surefine1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
MEE TOO.
it is a problem indeed.
i'm guessing it's the people we hang out with, which means the people we feel "attracted" to are usually like this. i'm trying to change this by socializing with confident guys who have a good sense of humor.
but i'd be interested in getting more info too.
2006-08-06 17:54:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where do you usually meet these guys? Is there one place you usually go or is it random? If it's one particular place maybe men go there to cheer up or calm down. Bars come to mind, or clubs. Sorry, I'm not saying you hang out at bars, I'm just trying to identify the common denominator here. There is something about where you meet these people that draws angry and depressed men. No? Okay, it was worth a try...
2006-08-06 18:02:51 · answer #2 · answered by AK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you are meeting more men than those, it's just that those men are the ones you are taking interest in. There is a reason we do this. We, as women, think we can fix anything. So we find a guy with baggage and take it upon ourselves to sort it all out for them. Normal guys bore the heck out of us. Taking on messed up ones gives us a challenge. So the next time you are out meeting men, look for the one who's smiling and having a good time and quit trying to help the poor schlub who's sitting by himself. Raise your standards honey.
2006-08-06 18:07:05 · answer #3 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this sounds really corny but maybe try church sometime. I find that guys from church are pretty confident and don't often tend to be angry or depressed. If you aren't interested in church, maybe try meeting someone at a Starbucks or Book Store of some sort. Good luck.
2006-08-06 18:24:20 · answer #4 · answered by super_mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask yourself if you are drawn to these type of guys for whatever reason? Once these type of guys appear interested.....don't give them the time of day. Move on and only settle for guys just the opposite. Maybe you are a good listener or want to help these type of guys, they will take it as you are interested. You didn't say where you meet guys....that might make a big difference also. Good Luck & don't settle til you find the one that makes you happy!
2006-08-06 18:01:07 · answer #5 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A couple of things. First, see what else they have in common, good and bad, which appears to your eyes earlier than the anger and depression, and avoid the people who have those characteristics. Two, do not stay with them one day beyond your suspicion that they are that type you do not want, no guilt feelings or doubt. It simply won't work if you are trying to close your eyes.
2006-08-06 18:00:02 · answer #6 · answered by browneyedgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always recommend that if you get stuck in a pattern go for someone you normally wouldn't go for you know that guy that was nice but maybe too nice or not your type give him a try that's what I did and now we are engaged. Good Luck!!!
2006-08-06 17:58:01 · answer #7 · answered by xxxlostsocalgirlxxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit picking up guys from the alley, and try a supermarket or church. Also, don't go out with a heavy drinker, or you are going to get sucked into a hard road.
2006-08-06 18:00:47 · answer #8 · answered by John Blix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say it's not a pattern, it only proves that there are more miserable people than those of happy ones. think of it as your privelege, make a difference. let them feel that this is a nice world after all. at least it's not you who's on their shoes.
2006-08-06 18:13:11 · answer #9 · answered by julian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you one of those sypathetic people. I am and that is what i seem to attract too. What you could do is try and not be so sypathetic until after you get to know them for a while. Otherwise i dotn know what to tell ya. GOOD LUCK!
2006-08-06 17:59:45 · answer #10 · answered by tiggerluvnmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋