Why do gay people insist on you knowing that they they are gay?? i dont dislike gay people and im not against?

Question

there lifestyle i just dont know why it should be made public , I dont want to explain to my daughters or son sexuality til i think its right for them.

I agree angel with your choice thats the right thing to do! Im also upset when hetorsexuals make public displays of affection too !! leave it for the bedroom

The reason i ask this is cause about a month ago i was gettin ice cream with my too daughters and two guys decided this was a good place to makeout. There were other kids in the shop and icant even tell you the questions that were flying from the kids in there. My oldest is 9 and my youngest was 7..... Im not trying to shelter them i just think they are to young for this at this time.

Ok AIM B but dont you think they are hurtin their cause when they act like that ?

Answer 1

ok you dont seem to have gotten a good answer from someone in my opinion lol. i am gay, i tell you this now because i want you to know where i am coming from and for no other reason but that. i let people know i am gay on a need to know basis, meaning if i think a guy is cute i will let him know i am gay to find out if he is or not and if he is interested and so on. without me telling a guy he might not know that i am gay and i might miss a great opportunity. i also tell friends that i am gay sometimes upfront so we are not in a conversation down the line and they get shocked, also telling someone upfront can help someone gage how that person feels about it, if they are not in favor of gay people they will know whether or not they are going to be friends with me right there.
now as for the whole public and parade thing, if we did not march and let people know that there is a proud gay community out there we would possibly be swept under the carpet so to speak, people would deny us completly. we also march for our rights, who else would, you wouldn't i would assume.
why shouldn't homosexuality be made public? heterosexuality is extremly public, just turn on your tv and flip through the channels. my question is if people dont have a problem with it, why do they feel it should still be hidden from society, on some level you do have a problem with it. your children are going to be exposed to sexuality no matter what you do unless you are with them 24 hours a day 7 days a week censoring everything around them.
homosexuality should be treated exactly like heterosexuality with kids, if they see something and need it explained explain it, thats when they are ready lol. one of the other people answering on this question talked about her son asking how he would know if he was gay or not, she explained it to him, he turned out not to be gay. lol its that simple, kids can handle more than you think and telling them about homosexuality will not make them gay and wont confuse them if you explain it right. it will probably make them less prejuduce against homosexuals if you tell them when they ask about it, if you try to put it off they might get the wrong impression, that it is something not to be discussed or even wrong. what if one of your children is gay and they ask a question about it and you tell them that we cant talk about that, your not ready? or worse yet if they are never exposed to what homosexuality is until they are through puberty and suffering with being different, trying to figure out why they are not like everyone else.
i am gonna stop at that, if you want me to explain anything else or anything further let me know, i tend to go on and on with things lol.

Answer 2

Why do straight people insist on you knowing that they are straight?? I don't dislike straight people and i am not against their lifestyle. I just don't know why it should be made public.

The reason i ask this is because about a month ago i was gettin ice cream with my partner and a mother decided this was a good place to show how complete her life was by parading with her two wonderful children, one about 9 and the other about 7.

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Got the point Long hair? It's not about insisting on showing one's sexuality. It's about how you have taken heterosexuality on display for granted vis-a-vis by displaying all the love and care and affection typical of a heterosexual. But when a homosexual does the same, it becomes an issue, an issue that should not go public, that should be kept in the closet.

I think you should just explain to your kids that the two men are in love with each other like Mom and Dad. Indeed, it's just no different from explaining the birds and the bees to your children.

If you think explaning the birds and the bees is tough, imagine explaining to one's homosexual child, upon seeing a happy family of mom and dad and children buying ice-cream, why he/she would never have children of their own.

But if all you are complaining about is public decency, your question should not be "insist on you knowing that they are gay??" The behaviour you are against would be about public decency, not public display of sexuality. And on that count, it goes for heterosexuals making out in public too.

I bet for every homosexual showing his/her sexuality in public, there are tens or even hundreds hiding it in the closet. The reason is that the majority of people never think they deserve to show their sexuality in public as their heterosexuals do.

Answer 3

Most don't, but the ones that do are the ones that get all the publicity. I have a lot of gay friends and most of them don't really try to flaunt it or hide it, and they can't stand the ones who insist on getting in people's faces. It gives everyone else a bad name. Making out in public is just gross no matter what combination of genders is involved.

Answer 4

* this is just what I think* I THINK gay people want "Everyone to know" so that their "rights" can be based on, and particular TO, their sexual orientation, (for Example... Black people were NOT afforded all of thier governmental,public or even personal "rights" until the 50s and 60s when they united to peacfully "get public" to march, sit in, stand up, and speak out, to get the rights they had been told they HAD, but weren't allowed to use... The Gay Rights groups are using these Same methods mostly, (to get compleatly Differant "rights"), but I think that's why they are so "IN OUR FACE" with it... because it worked before....

Answer 5

Why do you insist on making it known that you're not gay? For the same reason I do. When I find out that the guy across the table from me is gay, I don't smother the woman next to me to show off how straight I am, he'd probably puke on me. The same way seeing two guys swapping spit might just turn my stomach.

If you're not against them, then leave them to live their lives without criticizing the exact same behavior that you exhibit.

Answer 6

I agree with you....and I'm not against gay people either. My sister is gay, but her picture isn't on the front of a magizine either. I think if you're gay, that's fine and you shouldn't be afraid of it and you should be proud of yourself. But you shouldn't be marching in the streets about it. You shouldn't deny it....if someone asks, tell the truth, but there's no reason to tell everyone you come into contact with that you're gay. Same for celebrities....it's none of anyone's business but your own. Don't hide it, but flaunt it. Being gay should not be "WHO" you are. It shouldn't overshadowed everything else.

Answer 7

There is nothing wrong with being gay, and there are some people who don't make it a known fact.

I am bisexual myself. I don't go around telling the mother's of my child's schoolmates during admissal of school. I keep my business to myself, and I think that is how it should be.

There is a time and place for everything.

Answer 8

Yeah, you have to wonder why the media makes such a big deal reporting events people hold to celebrate that they screw their own sex.

Would heterosexual college kids get equal treatment from the media if they held parades
all over the USA to celebrate their triumphs on the opposite sex during spring break at Daytona.

I wonder.

Answer 9

Good question. And I don't know why they do it? I have asked gay friends that I have known and all I've ever got was "I'm gay, deal with it"
When my son was 6, he asked me how would he know if he was gay or not. I asked him if he "liked-liked" his best friend Kyle and ever wanted to kiss him. I got a "YUCK!" And I said, "there you go you're not gay". And now he's 15 and he never asked again.

Good Luck on a uncomfortable conversation!

Answer 10

Tell them lesbians are girls that LIKE girls and gays are boys that like boys.

Use the word "like". No need to get into sex stuff. The same way you don't get into sex stuff with straight people.

Plus being non-chalant about it if they ask will make them tolerant people