How can this work?

Question

Okay, so my boyfriend and I are in a pretty serious relationship. We've been together this whole summer, but now that school is starting again, things are getting more complicated. We go to different schools, and we won't be able to see eachother for weeks at a time. I still love him alot, but I don't want to be holding him back. Is it better to take a break or try and stay together if we both share really REALLY strong feelings for eachother?

I have talked with him, and he said I'm the only person he cares about and he doesn't want to see anyone else. But I don't know if that's how he will feel for the long term

Answer 1

Love conquers all. If it's truly love why would you want to give it up? Sounds like you guys are really into each other. Now how would you feel if you lost that feeling?...Think about it for a minute...

Okay I think you know the answer. If you care about each other that strongly all those wonderful feelings will keep you together and will be able to surpass all the bumps along the way. Don't give it because something gets hard. Getting through something difficult can bring you closer together. It can also help you to see if you are meant to stay together or not. Sort of like a test of the strength of your relationship...how you dela with everyday struggles together. Look at is a challenge not a problem.

Answer 2

It would depend on how long you two have been together for. If its been more than a year i would say try and stick it out. If it hasnt dont waste your time because this wont be your only boyfriend you'll ever have. I just got out of a 2 year relationship and im only 16 and ive now realized that theres more guys out there then just him. Even though i love him still and always will i know we wouldnt have been together forever and thats what you have to remember. Only 2% of high school relationships last till marriage. Go have fun and dont worry about getting into serious relationships while you are still in school. Good luck.

Answer 3

when you say that you have a "pretty serious relationship" well basically you both know each other well enough that your trust for each other is that high that even though school is getting started this won't affect your relationship.. one thing just disturbs me the word you describe your love for him " i still love him a lot but i dont want to be holding him back " with this kind of statement ths will contradict your " pretty serious relationship" you just have to develop this trust a little better and an open communication would help... this thing with different school or not be able to see each other that must would not affect a pretty serious relationship but will help in norturing it to be a better and stronger relationship cause of the feeling of eagerness to see each other on such short period of time... lonileness for once presence do sometimes makes every minute of this short period of time you share wtih each other that precious... so breaking up is not an option but trust with each other is a better alternative.. ( i hope your phone lines are both working for an open communication this will at least help you to get in touch everyday )

Answer 4

Only you can really decide that - if it works for you two - it works. Absence does make the heart grow fonder you know - some couples are together too much and get on each other's nerves so it may work - no way of knowing until you try.
And - if you care about him and him you then it is worth at least a try to see if it works and that way if it does all the better and if it doesn't at least you know you two tried.

You never want to be regretting the fact that you never gave it a chance and always wondering what would have happened...

would of , should of, wish I, could of...those are the worst feelings to hold onto ~

Answer 5

If you feel like you are holding him back...why? that makes me feel like he's done or said something to make you feel that way. Or, you may need the time yourself. You are both young. Honesty is the best way...if you have a doubt at all ask him to try it for a while apart seeing other people if you want....can't ever tell. You both are going to be around a lot of different people and cheating and lying is not a good way to start or end a relationship. At this time my advice is to try separation for the first term at least and see what happens. Grades and classes are the most important things to worry about . good Luck!!

Answer 6

You are very young to be in such a serious relationship. See other people, both of you! After all, your whole lives are ahead of you. If, after school is out next year, or if you graduate and still feel the same way about each other; then pick up where you left off! Take that break. Hope this helps.

Answer 7

If you two really have deep feelings for each other that's great. Being in a long distant relation is hard and lonely, but you have to trust each other, communicate often, and listen to what each other have to say, and most importantly you have to respect each other.
One thing about being in a relationship that's long distant is that you will never get sick of each other because every time you meet time and time again it will always feel like the first time, you know when you feel nervous, excited, and it takes you like two hours in the bathroom to get ready, so you look perfect. That's what makes it fun, But if you have doubts about him then like the old saying gos, "If you love something let it go, If it comes back its yours to keep."

Answer 8

Did he suggest taking a break in the relationship or did you? If either one of you did, then maybe you should because there is some doubt in play.

If the relationship can survive your being apart for weeks at a time, then you know it was true. If not, it's better to find out now rather than later.

Answer 9

I'd like to say I think it'll work out but if you can't see each other for weeks, I think it may be time to "see other people." Just give it a try and if it doesn't work out, then at least you tried to make it work.

Answer 10

Only you and he can answer this...if you all are serious enough to make some kind of commitment, then go ahead and make it. If he is uncertain or waffle-y, he has some issues that are keeping him from committing and you don't need to hang around waiting for him if he isn't hanging around waiting for you!!!