i hav complete physical relations with my guy n he is happy 2.once or twice i hav had anal sex wid him.for the first time the experience was a nightmare but i thought that the pain wud subside down with continuous process. the second time i tried the pain was same. even though my guy use lost of oil still it causes a lot of pain.now i just dont allow him 4 it.but he insist that his frends hav it with their girls.if the problem was just the pain i wud hav had it but for days i experience passing stools.do u also face such problems.r there many girls into anal sex.plz help
2006-08-06 16:52:46 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-08-06 16:55:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If it is causing you physical pain and he insists on continuing, that is considered abuse, hon. Explain to him (when you are in a situation where you are not having sex) that you don't enjoy it and it is causing you a lot of pain. If he still pushes you to do it or forces you to do it - tell him to get out. Just because his "friends" are doing it doesn't mean that it's the right thing for you to be doing. If he really cares for you and respects you, he won't do it again.
2006-08-06 16:58:25 · answer #2 · answered by lonely_girl3_98 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is giving you a line of sh__ and the pun was intended.
Your anus is not meant for things to go into it. It's a one way street going out. When you have anal intercourse you risk tearing the inside of your rectum which is more fragile than the inside of your vagina. You also put yourself at a greater risk for sexually transmitted diseases as the rectum is richer in blood vessels and the tissues readily absorb bacteria and viruses. You run the risk of tearing your anus which is painful and difficult to repair. Ditto with hemorrhoids. And if those aren't enough for you, continual anal intercourse can loosen your sphincter to the point where you can't hold your feces in anymore. Can you say adult diapers?
If your boyfriend truly cared for you he would not ask you to do this. Personally I would question the sexual preference of any boyfriend who preferred anal intercourse to vaginal as that is the homosexual method.
It's your call, but is it worth your carrying all the risks alone? I wouldn't do it.
2006-08-06 17:03:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do like it, but if you don't than you definantly shouldn't do it. Not only does it hurt you physically, but mentally. The more times you do something you don't want to the more it messes with you mentally. You do not have to do everything your man wants you to in bed. Let him know how much it hurts and that you wish you could but that there are other ways of getting pleasure without either of you getting hurt.
There are ways of making it not hurt that much, but it does not seem you really want to do it for you, only for him. Which isn't always a good reason to do something.
2006-08-06 17:29:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not a girl, and I think the problem is your lubricant, try using a product called 'wet'. Otherwise, your problem is the muscles are tight, when they should be relaxed. Its all in your mind, you think it's going to hurt, so you tense up, and it probably does hurt. If you control your muscles to expand it might feel better to you. Just use your love making muscles, to control the action, and you will be happy.
2006-08-06 17:00:56 · answer #5 · answered by Rick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here is the real deal. he does not care about your wellbeing and only wants what he can get from you. hmm how do i know this, he keeps trying to get you to do something that you dont want to do, and he used lube great but did he just cram it in and start pumping? most likely yes because he just wanted anal. not all girls do it and most are just scared of it. so congrats for trying something new and trying to please your partner. boo for keeping him around after he has pulled this crap. plenty of guys out there who would love to have a girl who is willing to experiment
2006-08-06 17:00:24 · answer #6 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't read your question, but I haven't had anal sex completely...It's just went in a little and I did not enjoy it.
2006-08-06 16:55:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've done it a few times with my fiance and it hurts. I don't find it enjoyable at all and have told him so... and we no longer do it. It sounds like your guy is being selfish and should respect you a little more in this area.
2006-08-06 16:57:55 · answer #8 · answered by kristnanne19 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have never tried it, but the idea is revolting, do you know what comes of of there. That is an exit only area. I can't speak for all women but I can't see myself enjoying it up the butt.
2006-08-06 16:55:39 · answer #9 · answered by bluechick 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think anal sex is disgusting
I myself HATE it
I will never let my girl to suffer from that kind of pain
2006-08-06 16:56:35 · answer #10 · answered by daniUm 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
you do not have to do it....explain to him that its really painful and does not gives you any kind of pleasure.....and just because his friends do it does mean you have to do it....show him your love / passion by doing other things more pleasant for you and for him too.....he souldnt get mad with you because you dont want to do it that way....you are willing to do it in different was
2006-08-06 17:02:10 · answer #11 · answered by JTB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋