It's a week until I get married for the second time...I am so stressed. I thought everything was fine, but it just seems to be unfolding around around me. His family and mine are coming in...I am happy, excited, anxious, xanaxious all at the same time...Just wondering if anyone has experienced the same feelings the week before?
2006-08-06 16:49:31 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
wedding jitters are normal, I refused to get dressed until my man showed up for the wedding. I drove everyone nut.
Here is advice that was given to me
Marry your best friend because it is harder to leave a friend than somebody that you love. People fall in and out of love every day, but true friendship will last.
2006-08-06 16:54:08 · answer #1 · answered by Fantasy Sarongs 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
THINK TWICE BEFORE GOING AHEAD WITH THE WEDDING! A lot depends on how long you have known him and how good the relationship has been. Does he remind you of your ex--a definite warning sign. Was there a long period between the divorce and engagement so that you had time to decompress from the first marriage and learn more about yourself and what you want in a husband--and in yourself as a wife? Are there children involved--how does he treat them?
Of course there are going to be jitters with everything that has to be done. Is someone helping you or are you doing the preparations solo? Is it a big affair? Maybe you could talk to someone who knows the both of you. Actually, the best advice to anyone getting married is to have premarital counseling so both sides know the expectations of the other.
The day I walked down the aisle I looked for an "escape route" because I knew I wasn't ready. I convinced myself it was just nerves and went through with the ceremony anyway. A few years ago I learned my husband had the same feelings, but like me didn't want to hurt the other one's feelings by saying time out. We've been married over 30 years and a couple years ago finally admitted that while we weren't miserable with each other, we weren't as happy as we could have been. We're negotiating a separation and are much happier--and learning to like the other person again.
Do what your heart tells you is right. If you go through with the wedding, I wish you the very best for your future.
2006-08-06 17:04:48 · answer #2 · answered by goldie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its typical to feel the way that you do. Your life is changing. A lot of the jitters could stem from your first marriage wondering if the mistakes that made you all end will peek its ugly head in this marriage. Sometimes things seem shaky when you have insecurites about them.
Take some time and think of this man and what you have with him. Maybe take a pen and paper and jot down the pros and cons or what is making you have these jitters Only you can truly say if this marriage is or isn't . I would say something must have went right for you two to be at this point.
Just take a sit, take a deep breathe and release. You will be fine.
2006-08-06 17:01:33 · answer #3 · answered by sweetcincylove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having the last minute wedding jitters is totally normal whether it is the first or 5th time. Just remember that this is "your" day (and your fiance's) The thing that you have to determine is why are you nervous. Are you nervous that the wedding will go without a hitch or are you nervous that you might be making a mistake with the person that you are marrying? Just remember that the people that will be at your wedding are there because that love you and want to share in your celebration. The only real thing that matters on your day is that you will be walking away arm in arm with your special someone. Look to the light at the end of the tunnel and you will see that the jourey is well worth it.
2006-08-06 16:57:54 · answer #4 · answered by Wannie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know there is a lot of anxiety before a wedding, especially with all the last minute details and thoughts of the big day, but find a way to destress. The more relaxed you are the more you'll enjoy the wedding. You know you have the perfect guy for you, things are going to go great.
Take some time for yourself and try and calm down. Maybe you can go to the spa with the girls, read, have lots of sex, ect.
Grats on your big day. Make yourself a margarita, take a deep breath and celebrate with the man of your life.
2006-08-06 16:54:04 · answer #5 · answered by bluechick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is your second marriage, it should be very familiar, but don't let the last one put you off. Just keep a good feeling about this one. As for the jitters, its the things that scare us that are the most worth doing - I wish you a long and prosperous relationship.
2006-08-06 16:53:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, I was throwing up, up to the day of the wedding. It's stress, pure and simple, that's all there is to it. You're making a big decision, and you're probably also worried about making this marriage work. Just try to relax, this is the time to delegate those last minute tasks to other people, enjoy your family (and his) that are coming in from out of town, and HAVE FUN! Congrats and best wishes to you both!
2006-08-06 19:22:56 · answer #7 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel about it.
I was getting married also a second time
and I think I was even more nervous this
time around.Just try to relax the best you
can and enjoy your upcoming wedding.
I would'nt sweat the small stuff and
just prepare for your very important
day.Hope you have a great wedding
and many years of happiness.
My second time around was much
better and still very very happy.
2006-08-06 16:59:34 · answer #8 · answered by lostgrandma1967 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that's why they call it cold feet. But, you can overcome it. Don't make yourself responsible for everyone. This is our time. be there for them but, be there for yourself first and let them take care of themselves. They have been through this and they are all grown up! Let them be there for you not the other way around. Just relax!!! Close your eyes and think of all the good things that you are going to be doing after the marriage. Imagine all the people coming there for just you, and your man not the other way....see the church and the flowers and all the beautiful pictures. You are cinderella! Your Prince Charming is coming for you. Nothing else matters!
this is your dream and fantasy for this time. Reality starts later and they will all be gone..thank god!!! Be Happy!!!!
2006-08-06 17:03:45 · answer #9 · answered by MISS-MARY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. Try to stay relaxed and just enjoy having all these people who love you around. If there is anything that you can do that will be relaxing for you try to continue doing it right up until the time you get married. Long walks are good, long hot showers are even better, meditation and soothing music.
Congratulations!
2006-08-06 16:54:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋