Have you ever decided you were done having kids?

Question

But you miss the whole idea of having more? I mean, you have all you want but knowing that it's final, doesn't it kind of feel like something was taken away?
I'm only 31, had my fifth and last child, and people think I'm nuts cause I can't wait for the grandkids to start pouring in when my kids are old enough.

All of you are so great. I've not had my tubes tied but my husband recently had a vasectomy. I had a really bad c-section and that's what brought on the vasectomy. Otherwise, we wanted 1 more because we have four boys and only 1 girl. OH well, at least she's the princess with four brothers to defend and protect her for life.

My cuties are boy,10, boy,8, girl, 6, boy, 5, and baby boy five months. I've got it good.

Answer 1

I had my first and last at 19 years old. I can't have anymore, just some problems...but, no, It doesn't make me feel wasted. I have my child, he keeps me busy. Either way, you are still a mother. It just means that you love your children. You must be a wonderful mother! You will be an even better grandmother. ;)

Answer 2

We have two boys, 29 months old and 13 months old, and we've pretty much decided that we're finished. We have talked about waiting until the boys are out of diaper, potty trained, and in school and *maybe* trying again. I don't know though...by that point, there are no more diapers, no more formula, sleeping through the night, no more daycare expenses, etc. and things will be relatively back to normal, so will we want to start all over with a newborn?? Right now, I'd give my left arm for another baby, but every once in a while I have to sit down and convince myself otherwise. I really do miss being pregnant, as strange as that may seem. I just love babies! Then I remember back to my sons' infant days...constantly changing diapers, mixing formula, colic, sleepless nights, etc. and I change my mind. LOL

Answer 3

I was done after my 4 (one of mine is adopted to a family I was very young when I had her). My husband and I have 3 children and I was done after the 2 but he wanted 1 more there are 6 years difference between my two girls and 9 years between my son and daughter. I finally said no more; I don't want to be super old when my kids leave home and then I can't enjoy being old with my husband because I have a baby running around in diapers, thank God those days are over; I'll be 36 in 5 days and my youngest is 6. I love all of my children don't get me wrong but 3 was more then enough for me!!!! I told them to cut me tie and burn me I didn't care how they did it I didn't want anymore!!!! I also ended up with a partial hyster. because of endodemetrios so I was extremely happy NO MORE PERIODS YEAH!!!!!!! It did have a side effect I'm not a s*x crazy person anymore that part s*cks!!!! Just be grateful u have 5 wonderful children and the next time someone gives u a hard time say u have and raise 'em I'm happy now thank you very much!!!!!!

Answer 4

Well it's great that you love children so much. (I got 4 ) But your body can only take so much wear and tear. It isn't healthy to continue to put your body through that. My grandmother, God bless her, raised 12, and is 94 and still here, in mind, body, and spirit-but she has lost her sight though. I know lady that had her 7th, and the doctor told her and him-NO MORE! Her health was at risk, but she went on to have the 8th, and the baby was fine. I think their done now. Things aren't like they used to be- I'm glad that you feel that way. Your children will be taking advantage of your help when they bring some grandkids into the world. Being pregnant was an awesome experience with each of them, and it was great. I do miss my older ones being small and cuddly. I personally don't want anymore, financially, physically, or mentally! I think my patience is wearing thin as I get older.(I'm 35)

Answer 5

Yep, decided when my son was six months old and my husband had a vasectomy and I've never regretted it for a moment (he is 2 now). I work with new moms and babies every night at work though so I get plenty of holding new babies, sleepy sweet smelling new skin and soft hair, etc. I am so glad it's them starting with a new baby and not me. Three is enough for me, I couldn't handle any more I'd go insane. I don't regret it at all.

Then again, that's how I am about most of the decisions I make. Whether things turn out well or not so great, once I make a decision that's it, I live with it and don't look back.

Answer 6

After giving birth to a 9 lb 14 oz boy - I swore I would never do that again. And continued to swear it, throughout the 4 months it took me to heal.

Well, currently pregnant with twin boys. Who are my 6th & 7th. And now swearing that I'm done - seeing as a C-section is probably imminent.

I'm also 31. I liked sleeping in. I liked going out with my friends. Not taking a stroller, a diaper bag, and finally wearing a size 6 jeans. Every time I watched my niece's baby - I would remark how I'm glad that I'm out of the diaper & potty training stages.

But, see my twins as a nice surprise. God's blessing. But, now I'm done. The year that my oldest graduates, my twins will be in kindergarden. And I'm actually starting to budget.

But then again - I've sworn this before...

Answer 7

I was done after the first, then had a surprise pregnancy that miscarried, and then another year later had another surprise pregnancy that came to term. I have two girls, and I am still done, but apparently God overrides birth control when he wants. My friend is pregnant with her 5th, and I was really sad when I heard that, because I would have had dozens of kids if I had the means, but with a bad marriage and husband not inclined to work, I cannot do it. I have to earn what my girls and I need to live off as it is, and I can't have another to raise and pay for myself while he doesn't work. I need to wait for the grand babies, too. And I only just turned 30, but since my first was born when I was 21, I could have them in another 10 years or so!

Answer 8

I had 5, then had my tubes tied. Sure I kinda wondered what it would be like if I was able to have more. Now I'm 45 with grandbaby #3 on the way and I'm glad I can't have more....grandbabies are awesome... you can spoil them and send them home....lol The saying had I known grandkids were so much I'd have had them first is very true!

Answer 9

I am pregnant with my 2nd baby and when I have my c-section in Dec I am getting my tubes tied. I wouldn't have minded having more children, but I had 3 miscarriages and am high risk and the stress is just too much. I will be 37 in Feb and I feel that this is the best decision for me.

Answer 10

I am a mum of 4 kids under 9yrs of age. Yes, I agree with you. I hope that by the time these kids get old enough that at least one of them will make me a grandma!!! A few years to go yet..but still, it will be gr8!!
HAd the chance taken away from them last year with a hysterectomy to have any more..but I am done with the wake ups and the nappies now..until I am a grandma :)

Answer 11

I understand how you feel. I decided not to have anymore children after my 5th. I was 38, a few years later I started perimenopause. I was horrified and deeply saddened that soon I would no longer have a choice. I was lucky though, as I had two children when I was much younger and it wasn't too long after that day that the grandkids did start rolling in!