How do you get over a break up when your still in love with him?

Question

I lived with him for four years and truly thought he was my soul mate. He came to me a month ago and told me he wanted to see other females and that we should break up. I did the right thing and moved out a month ago. I gave my adult daughter the option to come with me or stay with him. She chose to stay with him because he is the closest my daughter has ever had to a father. I try to see when daughter when he is at work , but occasionally we cross paths. I just dont know what to do.

Answer 1

Unfortunately, love is unconditional. You can't turn it off and on like a light switch. I understand what you are going through. A couple of years ago I went through a similar experience. I wish I could tell you it is easy but it isn't. Just like it took time for you to fall in love, you are just going to have to allow yourself time to fall out of love or better yet "heal". Believe it or not time does heal all wounds. The best way to get over the heartache is to remember to love yourself. Be good to you. Don't sit around and mope around the house all day. Life goes on. Go shopping, take a vacation or hang out with the girls. After giving yourself time go out on a friendly date on occasion. The last thing you want to do is jump into another relationship in an attempt to get over your pain. I don't know if you are religious or not but if you are you can always turn to the Lord. Unfortunately, some people don't miss a good thing until it is gone. Remember, if he no longer wants you then it is his loss. I am sure God has someone out there for you who will love and appreciate you for the beautiful person you are. Keep your head up. The Cave man will be praying for you. Peace and God bless.

Answer 2

You need to find a hobby. You need to find something to do to occupy your time. I was with a boyfriend for 5 years, and we broke up, and it was hard at first not because I just had to have him back but because I had to accept that he was not coming back. It took me about a year, but I got a job, I went back to school, I started playing bingo at the casino every Saturday, and I started going to church every Sunday and Wednesday. I say I got a job because I had just had my daughter and we broke up when she was 9 months old and I stopped working after I had her. But what I am trying to tell you is I got a life. At that time in my life for 5 years there was nothing that I did not do that did not involve him even if it was just me thinking about him. I don't mean this in a bad way, but you need to get a life and fill it with things that way you will be to occupied to think about him. There are still going to be times that you think about him because you still have to heal from this and move on I am just trying to give you some ideas so you will not spend all your time thinking about it. I hope this helps.

I will say if this man is not her dad it is a little strange that your daughter is staying with him. She is your daughter but a women none the less. I am not trying to put anything into your head, but that's a little weird to me.

Answer 3

That's a pretty terrible thing to do. Did he give you any explanation? If not then that's really wrong. Maybe your daughter can meet you places. Every time you see him just remember what he did to you. There's someone out there for you. Don't lose hope.

Answer 4

Workout. Improve yourself. Get a job, dancing at Seamless. Find yourself a rich sugar daddy, and be spoiled by him. Hire me as the pool guy ;o)

Answer 5

if you love something set it free if it comes back to you then it was meant to be if it doesn't then give yourself time to heal and find your true soul mate

Answer 6

move on, it will hurt for a while, but soon it will be better